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38 M Fort Atkinson, WI

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:27pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Okay, Cupid. Alrighty, Aphrodite...

Let me tell you that I recently razed this profile, sacking and burning my brilliant ramblings in favor of a more minimal approach to self-disclosure. For now, I'm just going to leave a few hopefully interesting things lying about, to include a potentially neverendingly growing playlist:
(when will it end?)

Uh, here's a neat quote about making a date (in Japan):

"the body exists, acts, shows itself, gives itself, without hysteria, without narcissism, but according to a pure--though subtly discontinuous--erotic project. To make a date (by gestures, drawings on paper, proper names) may take an hour, but during that hour, for a message which would be abolished in an instant if it were to be spoken (simultaneously quite essential and quite insignificant), it is the other's entire body which has been known, savored, received, and which has displayed (to no real purpose) its own narrative, its own text."
--Roland Barthes, Empire of Signs.

Don't worry, you'll get to know me.
I’m really good at
Being delightfully ambivalent about a lot of things a lot of the time, especially what to put in this profile.
The first things people usually notice about me
This depends on too many factors. I'd find it interesting if you told me what you notice first when we meet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am delighted eclectically.
The six things I could never do without
Here's an arbitrary list, in no particular order, of things most of which I could probably do without but which I rely on quite a bit:
2)the internet (a fantastic source of knowledge, diversion, images, maddening misinformation, and nice people to ask out on dates)
3)mi coche (my car, for those of you who miraculously don't know) --after all, I am probably going to have to drive to get to you.
4)art (making, looking at, thinking about)
5)my close friends; I'm somewhat introverted. I would probably feel crazy without these people I feel comfortable around.
6)a sense of curiosity about all things and an appreciation for the beauty all around. Yea, this is two things. If I look at this profile too much longer it will become wild and overgrown again before I know what has happened. Concision is not usually a strength of mine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Potentiality knocks on the door of my heart.
Now the distance between us has narrowed to fifteen yards.
How can I approach her? What should I say?"
--Haruki Murakami, "On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning".

I wonder sometimes if the very format of online dating is subtly undermining our potential for romance. The medium is the message. I waver between, "oh, no, it's a great, focused way to find women who you are likely to dig!" and "yea, man, how can you expect to be open to romance if you're always checklisting every little detail about a person before you even meet?? How many women who might be wonderful with you are you passing up because of some little thing about them that you wouldn't even normally find out until you've already bonded?" Hmph.

( it gets worse: )
On a typical Friday night I am
My "day job" is a night job, so I am always at work on Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1) Ask me anything.
2) My favorites list on here is out of control. I use it to remind myself to revisit your profile and maybe send a message, but it winds up looking and working like my internet bookmarks folder. A sprawl of pages I never get around to revisiting. I'm reminded of Romney's "Binders full of women." Awkward comment.
3) OKCupid might be broken and I might have broken it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Something inside you wants to, regardless of notions about who should send the first message to whom.

You'd like to tell me what parts you need for your spaceship, and think we could help each other find the parts we are looking for.