Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Well, where does one go with these things?
I don't really like talking about myself. I don't find it very
interesting - I prefer finding out about other people. Maybe this
is an unhelpfully frank explanation, but I already know about
myself in the main, so getting to know about other people is more
Because I accept I'm an 'unreliable narrator', how about I try you
with the fact that several people have suggested I am "like a young
Stephen Fry". There are some differences I'd want to highlight -
not being gay, not having bi-polar disorder, never having worked
with Hugh Laurie - but I'm not sure you go too wildly wrong if you
have that in mind. I'm not as posh, but equally it's fair to say
that I'm nowhere near as charming either!
Since I'm a bit short on photos including me, to make a rough stab
at my appearance I'm also told I look a bit like Dom Jolly. I'm
willing to accept that as long we're not recalling that show he
made dressed as Tintin.
To round this up as a trilogy, I was chatting to a supermarket
security guard the other day. Although English wasn't his first
language, we relatively quickly established he was trying to say I
look "like a fat Russell Crowe". Which was nice.
Er, I'm also not as obsessed with comparing myself to celebrities
as the last 3 paragraphs would suggest. Maybe you see why I don't
like talking about myself now ...
Finally, apparently I enjoy doing psychometric tests: being told
what I am like. If you dig Myers-Briggs, I understand I'm a fairly
typical "INFJ". What more can I say?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm deputy manager at a local legal advice charity specialising in
employment problems and welfare benefits. It's rewarding work, and
there's nothing like a recession to keep an organisation like us
busy. I appreciate I'm lucky to be doing a job I love, and working
amongst people I get on well with.
Outside of work I play guitar and (on occasion) sing in a band, as
well as writing and playing solo. In the band we're playing with
quite a lot of influences, from rock to surf-punk and blues. I'd
like to think my own singing and songwriting influences are Son
House, Leonard Cohen, and Tom Waits.
I'm fairly sure I read more than average, and I'm going through
what may amount to a 'phase' of not owning or watching TV at the
minute. In reality that's partly about cashflow having just stepped
into a mortgage, but I'd like to think it's also a kind of (mild)
exercise in self-control and self-improvement!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Meh, I don't really like saying that I'm "really good" at anything.
To me the phrase sounds ugly and arrogant. Weirdly or otherwise, it
doesn't sound like that when *other* people say it.
I mean, I'm (generally) "really good" at spelling, say, but is that
something to boast about? Is that a quality of moral or spiritual
depth? Of course not. There's a bunch of things I'm "good" at I
guess, it's just that "really" sounds a bit awkward.
I'm fairly sure I'm good at my job, but I expect that's of more
interest if you've been unfairly dismissed or overpaid Working Tax
Credit than if we were friends or went out.
As explained, I wouldn't say I was "really" good at writing or
music, but I've won a few writing competitions (in the past), and I
appeared on a (comercially, but locally, produced indie) CD.
I like to think I'm a good listener, too, although it isn't a very
difficult skill perhaps. I also think I'm pretty good at cooking,
and certainly haven't killed anyone yet.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My inability to use short sentences; my tendency to make
I guess people notice that I'm kinda tall too, although that isn't
necessarily something to be proud of - I didn't do much to earn it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - top 3 would be "Portrait of the artist as a young man" by
James Joyce, "In the name of the rose" by Umberto Eco, and
"Tristram Shandy" by Lawrence Sterne. Outside of fiction I'd want
to say that my favourite book is "Pity the Nation" by Robert
Films - my top 3 favourite films are "Aliens", "Carry on
Cleopatra", and "Love, actually". I accept that I have rubbish
taste in films. The next 3 would probably be "The Big Lebowski",
"Dr Strangelove", and "Airplane" - which kinda proves my point I
Music - I'm fairly sure everyone 'likes all kinds of music'; not to
play into that cliche too deeply, but I have quite a catholic
taste. Let's keep the three-is-the-magic-number vibe and say that,
currently, my 3 favourite pieces of music would be Beethoven's
"Emperor" concerto, Sam Cooke's "A change is gonna come", and "Dark
was the Night" by Blind Willie Johnson. I'm sure that sounds a bit
pretentious, but perhaps that's a fair comment!
Food - smoking furiously as i do, my taste buds are perhaps a
little jaded. I really like Italian and Chinese (or Thai) food,
although basically I'll eat anything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order: cigarettes; music; friends; language
(reading, writing, talking, analysing, blah, blah, blah); having
time by myself. Did i say cigarettes? Okay, chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... what is the right thing to do in a given situation? That is,
basically, what life is all about. I appreciate that sounds kinda
lame, but I'm certainly not suggesting I'm very good at then always
doing the right thing.
I also have the good fortune to think in musical figures some of
the time; that's a very enjoyable way of passing your day.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At band practice, but that's an unrepresentative example since most
nights you'll find me at home with a good book (perhaps having a
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Last time I updated this I couldn't think of anything to say. I
think I'm still going to play that card.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly an international man of
mystery: I'm just genuinely not quite sure what anyone would want
me to say here.
You should message me if
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Any or all of the above hasn't put you off!
Depending on where your interest lies you'll probably want to be
prepared to prioritise personality over looks, not mind smoking,
and be prepared to tolerate the fact that I talk and write in quite
a similar way.
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