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jofezasa
40 / M / bisexual / Available
San Francisco, California
The Skinny
- Last Online
- Join Date
- Ethnicity
- White
- Height
- 6' 1" (1.85m).
- Body Type
- Average
- Looking For
- New friends, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals, Casual sex
- Smokes
- —
- Drinks
- —
- Drugs
- —
- Religion
- —
- Sign
- Virgo and it’s fun to think about
- Education
- Graduated from masters program
- Job
- Medicine / Health
- Income
- —
- Kids
- —
- Pets
- Likes dogs and Owns cats
- Languages
- English (Fluently), Portuguese (Poorly)
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Your Notes
Edit your notesI am optimistic, sometimes shy, and sometimes not.
My Self-Summary
Cresting forty, coming into my own.
Recovered corporate refugee (technology manager, database hacker, marketeer of books and databases) turned Marriage and Family Therapist (intern, for now).
Outgoing introvert. Or is it shy extrovert? Hacker of people and problems. Bi by nature, kinky by convention, poly by virtue of it working for me and mine.
Reader, talker, listener.
Born on the east coast, at home on the west coast.
I like to be able to lay down and sleep when I am feeling it.
I like to run and I like coast.
The ocean is important to me. So are the stars. Have you ever thought about the idea that, looking up at the stars, the sky that you see has never existed the way that you are seeing it?
On National Coming Out Day, someone asked me what I was coming out as and I decided "fabulous". People have commented that I was already fabulous. I guess sometimes one *is* the last to know.
Recovered corporate refugee (technology manager, database hacker, marketeer of books and databases) turned Marriage and Family Therapist (intern, for now).
Outgoing introvert. Or is it shy extrovert? Hacker of people and problems. Bi by nature, kinky by convention, poly by virtue of it working for me and mine.
Reader, talker, listener.
Born on the east coast, at home on the west coast.
I like to be able to lay down and sleep when I am feeling it.
I like to run and I like coast.
The ocean is important to me. So are the stars. Have you ever thought about the idea that, looking up at the stars, the sky that you see has never existed the way that you are seeing it?
On National Coming Out Day, someone asked me what I was coming out as and I decided "fabulous". People have commented that I was already fabulous. I guess sometimes one *is* the last to know.
What I’m doing with my life
Finished an MA in Counseling Psychology in
March 2009, plugging away at my 3000 hours before licensing.
Reading fiction and non-psychology books again. Pondering writing
essays, articles, or books about therapy.
Discovering graphic novels. Learning to knit.
Dancing at the Cat Club or DNA Lounge.
Slowly feeding my large tattoo addiction.
Renewed my passport which means 10 years of international travel are under my belt. This summer it was NY, Scotland, Toronto, and Burning Man.
Entertaining the two new kittens who are now in residence. These are some rambunctious cats!
Pondering why so few people on OK Cupid reply to me. Thank you to those who do reply, even in the negative, I appreciate it. Does everyone else get so much mail that it takes too long to say, "Thanks, but no thanks?" It's hard when you don't get *any* feedback to know what you are doing well and what needs work.
Discovering graphic novels. Learning to knit.
Dancing at the Cat Club or DNA Lounge.
Slowly feeding my large tattoo addiction.
Renewed my passport which means 10 years of international travel are under my belt. This summer it was NY, Scotland, Toronto, and Burning Man.
Entertaining the two new kittens who are now in residence. These are some rambunctious cats!
Pondering why so few people on OK Cupid reply to me. Thank you to those who do reply, even in the negative, I appreciate it. Does everyone else get so much mail that it takes too long to say, "Thanks, but no thanks?" It's hard when you don't get *any* feedback to know what you are doing well and what needs work.
I’m really good at
Listening & talking.
Recommending good food, eating said food and drinking wine or whisky.
Attracting particular types of people which at times baffles me and at times makes sense.
Making eye contact.
Breaking down complex situations or concepts and reframing them.
Napping. Effectively procrastinating. Starting projects. (Finishing is another story, though I did manage to complete two Master of Arts degrees with theses.)
Humming in tune. Riffing on the symphony of my surroundings.
Figuring out the meta of board games and yet also having fun playing them.
Recommending good food, eating said food and drinking wine or whisky.
Attracting particular types of people which at times baffles me and at times makes sense.
Making eye contact.
Breaking down complex situations or concepts and reframing them.
Napping. Effectively procrastinating. Starting projects. (Finishing is another story, though I did manage to complete two Master of Arts degrees with theses.)
Humming in tune. Riffing on the symphony of my surroundings.
Figuring out the meta of board games and yet also having fun playing them.
The first things people usually notice about me
It depends. It might be the eyes and the hair, or the kilt, or the tattoos.
I might be standing in the corner or I might be dancing.
I might be looking intently at you yet not staring nor seeming creepy.
I might be standing in the corner or I might be dancing.
I might be looking intently at you yet not staring nor seeming creepy.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
-Phillip K. Dick, Patrick O'Brien, growing interest in Alan Moore,
J. R. R. Tolkien, Isaac Asimov, Arthur C. Clarke, Stephen Jay
Gould, C.G. Jung, James Hillman, Erik Erikson
-All Quiet on the Western Front, Fight Club, Rats Saw God, A Series of Unfortunate Events, The Lord of the Rings (and The Hobbit and The Silmarillion)
-Currently Reading: The Origin of Species, Green Mars, catching up on issues of The New Yorker
-80s music, 3rd Wave Ska and punk, folk, TOOL, Billy Bragg, female vocatlists, October Project
-Fight Club, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Rear Window, WALL-E, The Hunger
-All Quiet on the Western Front, Fight Club, Rats Saw God, A Series of Unfortunate Events, The Lord of the Rings (and The Hobbit and The Silmarillion)
-Currently Reading: The Origin of Species, Green Mars, catching up on issues of The New Yorker
-80s music, 3rd Wave Ska and punk, folk, TOOL, Billy Bragg, female vocatlists, October Project
-Fight Club, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Rear Window, WALL-E, The Hunger
The six things I could never do without
Water
Kissing
Connection
Contentment
Sound
Food
Kissing
Connection
Contentment
Sound
Food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Being a good therapist, being a good friend, why it
is sometimes hard to approach people who I'd like to know better,
what it is about me that attracts submissive people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing (wait, that's Thursday, which is currently my Friday),
relaxing, eating good food, playing in some form or another.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
Really, that is not much I am not willing to admit, just ask. I am
neither ashamed nor do I regret anything that I have done though I
have felt those two things in my life.
You should message me if
. . . you want to.
. . . you are bored and would like some conversation.
. . . you are trying to figure out the next big thing.
. . . listen to NPR more than Top 40. Is Top 40 even used anymore to describe music?
. . . you remember the 80s.
. . . you are bored and would like some conversation.
. . . you are trying to figure out the next big thing.
. . . listen to NPR more than Top 40. Is Top 40 even used anymore to describe music?
. . . you remember the 80s.
