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john_alexander

25 M Vancouver, British Columbia, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:38am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I really wish there was a 'people you've already visited' heads up. When people change their profile pictures, it confuses me. I totally think it's a new person, and I keep visiting the same profiles over and over again.

I'm never really put off by anything; nothing makes me feel awkward or embarrassed. I'm pretty geeky, an di like to think I'm an intellectual sans the pseudo- prefix. Poly and sex positive. I'm a plain cis white dude, but I am absolutely gay- lesbian- and trans-friendly. I have a love of discovery and knowledge. Most of my fashion choices are inspired by the Roaring Twenties. I have recently rediscovered my love for karaoke, and tend towards singing big-band swing. I love psychology, sociology and general sciences, but went into theatre because it was an outlet for my creative drive.

I love dancing like an idiot. I can't dance well, but I can dance AWESOME, and that's good enough for me. I love talking esoteric mindstuff like human bias, politics and philosophy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Going back to school next year. Sociology and Psychology, then into a nursing program with a specialization in mental health.

The only reason I don't go into the sciences is because I like all of them too much to pick one. Physics! No, engineering! No wait, medical science! No wait, this one, that one, the other one! Ad infinitum.

Getting back into music. I play bass and drums, and I'm having a blast with both.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
High-fives! I'm very good at forgetting my age when asked. I play bass and drums passably well. I can converse with people I don't agree with, on topics that I have very strong opinions on, without being combative about it.

For example, I spent a few months humouring the local Mormon missionaries as they tried to convert me. I had a lot of fun debating theology, but was reminded just how creepy the religious impulse is to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The fedora ('Nice Guy' red flag #1!). The moustache (#2). If you're really observant, the fact that my eyes are different colours.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Every time I write in this box, I end up listing far to many items. So to keep it short:

MUSIC: I love Tool, Russian Circles, Karnivool and Porcupine Tree. And very little else. That right there pretty much sums up everything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People. I adore being with people. Even if I don't know them, just being in a group of energetic people makes me feel better. Maybe this is why I like the theatre program so much...

Art. Not necessarily picture art (though that is great too) but the always-ephemeral 'art' as a broad definition. Theatre, film, song, dance; all of these are art and all of these are essential to the formation and continuation of culture. Without art, humanity would be unrecognizable.

More precise than the loose term 'art'; making music and writing.

For those of you not keeping count, this list is not comprised of six things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The ridiculous number of messages women receive on OKcupid, and how I can best avoid adding to the drudge.

Tropes. DAMN YOU T.V. TROPES WIKI! You have ruined my life!

Metacognition. Thinking about thinking. Thoughts, and where they come from.

Related to metacognition, neurobiology; how the brain works.

Related to neurobiology; psychology, sociology, philosophy and the like. I nearly minored in sociology, then philosophy, then went with creative writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing whatever comes up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Particle accelerators totally give me a hadron.

I'm on a dating site.

I play Dwarf Fortress. Sometimes, I wish I'd taken up heroin instead.

Sometimes, I poop. It's true! Just don't tell anyone.

I will talk myself into obscurity with alarming regularity.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If the rest of my profile didn't convince you, I can't think of anything else I could say to change your mind, but here goes:

I'm an off-beat, geeky poly dude, so if you're into that, go ahead and message me. I will always respond nicely (if not positively) and I love to chat, though I am far more gregarious in person than online.