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34 M Saint Louis, MO

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:45am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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So I just spent the better part of a week doing a little traveling to the East Coast. I visited some friends from all parts of my life, the recent and not so recent, and walked a gajillion miles it seemed to get to/around the many museums I tried to take in. If you're curious, my favorites were the US Capital Building tour, which, given the magnitude of events that occurred within its walls, both good and bad, exists as both a museum and an exhibit, the Post-Impressionist collection at the Guggenheim and the Arms and Armor exhibit at the Met.

Travel is wonderful because it gives you perspective on things. Not just life, but the lives of those friends you keep up with on social media, how much bigger and more alive some cities feel in comparison to others, and that general loss of comfort. I'm not used to walking these streets. This place is unfamiliar to me. St. Louis is not the world. My life is not the world.

But for every light bulb of inspiration, inevitably the spotlight of self-reflection follows. The curtain rises, the shadows are gone, and suddenly all that remains is yourself onstage, blinded by the harsh glare, surrounded by an audience of your triumphs and weaknesses and fears and successes and everything else that creates your you.

I've realized recently that, despite having a great life filled with great experiences, something is indeed missing from this thing called the human experience. It's like I've done so much self-reflecting and growing and cultivating of a personality and interests and passions that somewhere along the way my life became all about Me. Not that living your life for yourself is a bad thing, but all the knowledge and interests and passions in the world don't mean jack if there's no one there to share them with. Humans like to share things with people. We tell stories. That's why there's show and tell in elementary school. I see it as the first steps towards learning to share the story of ourselves, rather than your life in relation to the object you hold dear. In reality, the Show is just a vessel for us to tell the story of our life experiences. Because that's what we want to do. Share our stories, have other people hear them, understand them, learn from them, then hopefully share some of their own that might be similar or might not.

When that spotlight comes on, and I start sharing openly and honestly to myself, I realize that I'm not happy. It's not a bad not happy. I'm not angry or disillusioned, it's just there's this gnawing sensation, a subtle grinding, and it's that I want someone to share myself with, and someone who will share themselves in return. This means all the good things and bad things, too. The imperfections are who we are, our pains define us as well as our joys, yet I, like many others, seem to perpetuate this notion that there is perfect out there. And there probably is. It's just that perfect combination of both flaws and perfections.

So, dear reader, assuming you've made it this far, know that I'm not perfect, but certainly a far ways from imperfect. You might not like my collection of 80s soundtracks or interest in sneakers or Japanese history. My life might not be your ideal, but that's okay because at the moment it's ideal for me. I will guarantee a few basic things though: I am a good person. Not a "nice guy" in the pejorative sense, but someone who empathizes with others and tries to be as generally kind and polite as he can. I love to learn and spend a lot of time doing so. Your dog will probably like me almost as much as you within five minutes of meeting me, and as someone who loves animals, I get along great with kids, too. My family has been an inspiration these last few years, and I regret taking them for granted growing up. I know who I am, even though I don't necessarily know what I want.

This online dating world is a jungle. Ultimately, I just don't want to be lost wandering here forever.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
What I choose.

This might defy convention, but it's my life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Taking long naps without messing up my hair.
Playing the Bass
Identifying a movie from only a few frames, or a song from just hearing the first second.
Making friends with dogs and people.
Being an extroverted introvert.
Surfing the TV. Scratch that. Thanks to digital cable, I can no longer quickly and efficiently flip from channel to channel without a 5-10 second lag. Seriously. Eff you, cable co. Eff you.
Entertaining myself.
being creative.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably that I didn't have to lie about my height. Also, that I'm/used to be a teacher.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Taschen books. Medieval Japanese history books. Cyberpunk books. Poetry books. Text books. Music books. Murakami books. (Both of them.) How-to-books. History books.

A quick look at my DVD selection will tell you two things: I like science fiction movies, and I like 80s movies. Those two things say a lot about my aesthetic and, to some degree, my personality. Though I guarantee I'm not what you think.

Romantic-Era classical music. The violin motif from Schehererazade. Wave by Oscar Peterson. The Thieving Magpie. Anything that was ever sung by a character, or used in as source music for a Looney Tunes or Ren and Stimpy Cartoon.
Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd. Talking Heads. Tangerine Dream and 70s-80s electronic bands and their awesome soundtracks for awesome 80s movies.

I like intelligent comedies. AD, Simpsons seasons 3.5 through 9, South Park, old Nickelodeon shows like Ren and Stimpy and Adventures of Pete and Pete and who could forget Salute your Shorts! Hannibal. Season 1 of Dexter. Futurama. I love history shows and am getting pretty damn good at correctly estimating the value of goods on Pawn Stars and Antiques Roadshow.

Food is wonderful.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Half and Half in my coffee.
2. Dogs.
3. a comfy pair of sneakers.
4. My phone.
5. The occasional bout of procrastination...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How did I get to be 33 already? I still feel 25. Fortunately, I feel a lot smarter than I did at 25. That's the one perk of aging I look forward to the most I suppose. That and incontinence!

How much would I need to comfortably live on a beach in Thailand while leading SCUBA expeditions in my free time for ten years?

How standards are too high.

Why do some ladies on her only include pictures of themselves standing at a distance with a group of friends? Sorry, but I don't want to have to play detective to figure out which one you are. Take a picture of yourself. It's not hard.

Also, when did cargo shorts become so passe? I mean, I get cargo pants, because: cargo pants. But if I'm a grown man wearing shorts to begin with, why the hell can't I have some extra pockets to hold stuff like water bottles or glasses cases? They're shorts. The definition of casual. You all get cavernous purses capable of hiding small animals, yet I'm stuck with four small pockets and a wallet? I have things too, damn it!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, bowling, making something, watching a movie, reading, hanging out with people, out on a date, buying something at Home Depot, Judo practice, watching the dogs for my parents while they seemingly have a more active social life than I do...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like dogs more than people.
You should message me if
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If you feel so inclined, of course. Or, if I wrote to you first. If I did it's because I read all of your profile, saw some key things we had in common, looked through your pictures to make sure you weren't too wild ;) , read through a sampling of your questions, and then felt interested to contact you and learn more about you. I even typically ask questions and provide humorous observations pertaining to the information available to me at hand in my message, and 99% free of typos and grammatical errors! (From the look of things around here there are major issues with proper use of Their/There/They're with my gender. )

Or don't. Whatever. It's your buck, not mine.