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25 Richmond, VA Non-binary, Genderfluid

Non-binary, Genderfluid

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:12pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I just moved to RVA from Portland, OR recently. I only know like a tiny handful of people and still have no idea where most things are. Show me all the things and be my friend.


I'm Nonnie. I'm from Salem, MA, have lived in Columbia, SC and Portland, OR but now live in Richmond, VA. I play music and like other music and read books and write poetry. I like to screen print, wander around, high five, watch lightning storms and go to house shows. Elephants are my favorite animal. I am undefeated at bananagrams (but to be completely honest, I've only played like 10 times). I'm a far left insurrectionist anarcha-feminist. Must hate cops.

When I made this, I didn't realize that the username I picked would be an unchangable display name as it's my real name. Which is weird because I'm going by Nonnie now.
What I’m doing with my life
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I play music and book shows. I just moved across the country. I work a shitty job and want a different one .

I just moved into a new house where we have shows so I'm constantly looking for my new favorite local bands so I can book them here.

I've also lately been working on trying to eliminate ableist language from my vocabulary. I think this is important.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Impulsive decisions, alphabetizing when stoned, getting food in my beard, telling jokes (and stories) and making guacamole.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Beard, rat tail, the chaos that is my head hairs (I actually recently cut them, but I'm sure it'll be chaos again in no time at all).

My pupils are often drastically different sizes. I'm actually a little worried about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books and Comics: The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Everything Is Illuminated, The Picture of Dorian Gray, The Stranger, Heart of Darkness, Stranger in a Strange Land, The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen, 100 Years Of Solitude, The God Of Small Things, Kant's Critiques of Practical Reason and Judgment, Watchmen, Kingdom Come, A Heartbreaking Work Of Staggering Genius, Crime and Punishment, The Bell Jar, House of Leaves, Hush, The Time Traveler's Wife, Hush, High Fidelity, Othello, An American Dream, Arkham Asylum, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, Steppenwolf, Double Duce, The Little Prince, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, Hamlet, Macbeth, Y: The Last Man, The Walking Dead, The Broom of the System, God Forgive These Bastards, The Mask, Elmer.

Currently reading: The Left Hand Of Darkness by Ursula K Le Guin and Freaks Amour (a graphic novel)

Writers: Jonathan Safran Foer, Milan Kundera, Kurt Vonnegut, Sylvia Plath, Ernest Hemmingway, David Foster Wallace, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Dave Eggers, Aaron Cometbus, Alan Moore.

Poets: Allen Ginsberg, Leonard Cohen, Charles Bukowski, Sylvia Plath (yeah, she's on here twice), Carl Adamshick, Pablo Neruda, John Donne.

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Jurassic Park, Amelie, Confessions of a Dangerous Mind, The Warriors, Synechdoche NY, Whatever Works, Taxi Driver, The Brothers Bloom, Rope, Quarantine, 28 Days Later, Children Of Men, B.I.K.E., Troll 2, Blade Runner, SLC Punk, Sweet and Lowdown, This Is England, Trainspotting, Lars and the Real Girl, Cool Hand Luke, Annie Hall, Royal Tennenbaums, Rushmore, Quarantine, We Are The Best, Birdman, Straight To Hell (not really, but really).

Shows: Arrested Development, Bob's Burgers, Jon Benjamin Has A Van, Seinfeld, The Twilight Zone, Eastbound and Down, Michael and Michael Have Issues, Stella, The Walking Dead, Wilfred, Shameless, Sherlock, Game of Thrones, Vikings, 3rd Rock From The Sun, The Wonder Years, Hey Arnold.

Music: I'm really into punk and folkpunk and other stuff. Some favorites are: Bomb The Music Industry!, Jason Anderson, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Defiance Ohio, The Taxpayers, Murder By Death, Elliott Smith, Aesop Rock, Why?, Mischief Brew, Laura Stevenson and the Cans, Nana Grizol, Good Luck, Walter Mitty and his Makeshift Orchestra, Paul Baribeau, Rosa, The Weakerthans, The Gaslight Anthem, Titus Andronicus, Bob Dylan, Tom Waits, Leonard Cohen, Elvis Costello, The Wild, Waxahatchee, Abi Yoyos, Ovens, The Clash, Manhattan Murder Mystery, Wingnut Dishwashers Union/Johnny Hobo and the Freight Trains/Ramshackle Glory/any Pat The Bunny bands, Spraynard, Black Eyes, Ah Horse Hockey, Songs For Moms, Plow United, Kickball, Mallory, ROAR, Lucero, Tim Barry, The Modern Lovers, Outkast, By Surprise, Brotha Lynch Hung, Wu-Tang Clan, Best Friends Forever, The Mountain Goats, Young Mountain, The Microphones/Mount Eerie, By Surprise, Kudrow, Hail Seizures, Chinup Merriweather, Sharkpact, Ghost, Joyce Manor, The Pixies, The Pogues, Two Gallants, Blackbird Raum, Hop Along, The Act of Estimating as Worthless, Hard Girls, Adult Braces, The Front Bottoms, Casiotone for the Painfully Alone, Dead Dog, Potsie, Jeff Rosenstock, Meatloaf, Blondie, The Beach Boys, Black Eyes, Archipelago, Koalacaust, The State Lottery, Man Man, Pheramones, Slugging Percentage, Fucked Up, The Specials, Shakey Bones, Koalacaust, Trashaxis, Lumber Lung, This Is My Fist, Radiator Hospital, Sledding With Tigers, tons and tons and tons more.

Lots of local bands.

I hate dubstep.

Food: I'm vegetarian (15 years) and love sandwiches, burritos, pasta, I really like sauces and condiments. I sort of feel like food is just a vessel for its toppings. Avocados are great. So are berries (except cranberries). And banana bread. Chickpeas, too. Brussel sprouts are one of my favorite veggies (they remind me of tiny brains). And broccoli and asparagus make me feel like a dinosaur (I like this).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bones, skin, blood, spit, brain, sustenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How most shit's fucked but some shit is really awesome.

Smashing the state/patriarchy.


Where to go next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably at a house show or something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I shed my head hairs and beard hairs everywhere. I'm like glitter.

A lot of the time, if I overhear people laughing, I think they're laughing at me.

I prefer to be little spoon.
You should message me if
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You're really cool! Or if you think I might be too.

You hate cops and landlords.

Do not message me if you are racist, sexist, cissexist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, ablist, or just generally an asshole.

Don't add me on facebook unless we have been talking for a while or I say it's okay.

If you message me a single sentence, it better be a really good sentence.

You want to play magic cards or backgammon on the floor while listening to records and eating pizza.

You're really good at healthy, open communication.

You want to go see some awesome band, event or exhibit somewhere.

I like jokes. A lot. Message me jokes. Please?