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My self-summary
Not been here, but time to resurface. Stay tuned.
Been playing seriously for a couple of years. Blues guitar, electric.
Backpacking. Music. Travel. Asia. Reading. Irreverence. Economics. Education. Walking out the door and thinking "that's so amazing, and right outside". And my kids.
Programmer back in the day. worked on a drill rig on an island off the coast of British Columbia, Traveled. Tibet, China, etc. Did tons of other things.
Often found in jeans. Yoshi's, bluegrass, blues, rock, symphony etc. I like socializing and parties, but kind of low key about it. I’m happy with my life and I don’t get upset about things. I'm really fortunate in having great kids with whom I have close friendships. I have practiced zen meditation since I was 18, in a relaxed, on & off fashion, but am genetically (although not educationally, never went to church) an Irish Catholic. Ex hippie, but not a hippie since the early 70s. I'm low maintenance. I'd love to have the company of an interesting and wonderful woman. So, cup of coffee? Glass of wine? Take a look? I remember fondly when I was young, and love would happen spontaneously, just walking around. The invention of the microwave was a wonderful thing, but in some other ways I long for the simpler world of my youth.
Me- combination of intensely concrete and intensely theoretical. Casual, well educated and thoughtful. I live in the woods surrounded by park. 10,000 acre back yard. Thank you EBRPD. But 10 minutes from west Berkeley. Anyway, we all can get up each day, look around, and say "ah, another day in paradise". Let's email or, better, chat over a cup or glass of something. Damn, it's hard to get this stuff into the little wire that goes between my computer and yours.
Point Reyes? Sierras? Vancouver Island west coast beaches? Born and raised in the northeast and midwest. Can't go back after living in California. And Oregon, and BC.
I use OK Cupid for those book recommendations more than dates. Probably be good to check out my "questions" before you conclude that I"m mellow and kind of normal. Sorry about that. Gotta update the profile.
Different times; Just back from 4 days on the PCT north of Kings Canyon.
Just back from a couple of trips through Desolation, the parts nobody goes to.
Just back from a 3 day backpacking trip east of Lassen. How many stars at night? Lots more than 50,000?
Just back from a 3 day backpacking trip in Desolation. Sounds so desolate, but wonderful (missed the fires). The high Sierras are a lifelong better universe.
And you?
What I’m doing with my life
Living it, best I can. I got into a new business a few years ago. It took a few years to get it rolling right. Credit goes to everyone there equally. Love those folks. Fun to go to work. I'm the boss, but, you know, not bossy, just appreciate my partners. You know how you go into places and everyone has a name tag that says "partner"? We don't have those, but we're all being people getting through life, treating each other well. We're friends. Work is, at its best, what grownups do for play. The way it's put together, I've worked hard for a few years & now I have lots of free time and can do other stuff as I please.
Kids, one next door, works in the business, which is trying to turn into a family business. One up in the foothills doing a project with friends, coming back to work in the business this winter, and simultaneously be a graphic designer. Youngest just out of high school, trying to figure out what the hell it's all about. Me too, actually, but I have a little more of an idea. Lives with me half time. So, very close family. I've done a lot of single parenting. Best time I had ever.
Dating. You made it this far? OK, dating. I've just gotten into it recently. Looking for a long term relationship, but learning that the best way to do that is to meet people (women, in my case) without putting expectations about the future onto the present, so I want to meet and enjoy the present without really asking for the future yet. So I want a relationship and am approaching it one date at a time without looking for that. I don't think I explained that well, but I can't tell about the long term till later.
So that's what I'm doing now. Stay tuned.
I’m really good at
Figuring stuff out that doesn't have a template. Once I see how it works & what to do with it, I become less interested and pass it off to whoever wants to do it, but I love the part where I don't know how it works & I look at the pattern and see what part I can grab a hold of and start putting together a way of dealing with it.

Playing music.

Words. I can crank them out.
The first things people usually notice about me
Huh? Ask them. I don't know. I guess I'm supposed to guess, Friendly. Competent. Cute as a button.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music. I have that thing where I like it all. It's all music. Love live music. Fine tuning; Best is blues, classical (mostly medieval through Beethoven, but there's some really cool more modern stuff), rock, jazz, bluegrass (big bluegrass fan for many years, played in a band in college), Indian classical, bunch of other stuff. Don't like Rap lyrics generally. I hear that there are good ones, but the bad ones were so lame that I haven't explored further. Not big on show tunes.
Books; I'm a devourer of books. Hungry Tide, When Markets Collide, the Economist, Robert b Parker, New Yorker, Atlantic, Joan Didion, Shoes Outside the Door, Pema Chodron, Munro, Stegner, Kingsolver, Eats, Shoots, and Leaves, Hitchens, Abbey. Everything else in the library. I seem to have a genetic defect that makes it very hard to watch TV, but I loved The Newsroom. I have a long, complicated opinion about TV, the future, and what will be created as a result of that combination. Another day for that. I like movies, but haven't been seeing many lately.
The six things I could never do without
The riches of human emotion and experience, moment by moment. Actually I can do without pretty much anything else, and did as a youth. Humans can do that, although many fewer of them are put to the test compared with the past. Good thing. Things I'd prefer to not do without; My kids, the stunningly smashingly beautiful big round thing we're hanging out on, the love of my life (currently absent, but I'm looking & hoping), friends, interesting work, books & music. OK, that's seven. How am I at following directions?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My brain is churning stuff out all the time. OK, all of us, but I do notice. What people do & how they work. Economics. Politics. Whatever problem or thing I'm currently trying to unscramble. Random stuff I see out the window. Random stuff that wanders willy nilly through my brain. Why OK Cupid doesn't have a category in pets for armadillos. How can we armadillo fanciers specify our pet interests?
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't distinguish between Friday nights and the other ones so much. Ate a chicken tonight.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This is kind of a weird question. It's private, in which case I'm not admitting it, or it's not. Just me, but almost private? Is this like almost pregnant?
You should message me if
Oh yeah. If you might be who I'm looking for. I know a guy who went out on 172 computer dates before he found someone. I met her, and she was worth it. Still, it's kind of daunting. However, we can't tell unless we meet, and it's kind of fun, so what the hell. And also, message me if I might be who you're looking for, but you already knew that. If you think astrology is retarded you get extra points.
I'm having second thoughts about the telephone. It's conveniently located, but I don't connect through it so well, so my current preference is a quick meet, glass of wine or coffee, something like that. I'm up for the telephone, but I don't think it's my best instrument.
Hey girls, if I say let's meet, say sure. Not just me, anyone. OK, the computer is good for filtering the really crude stuff. If I get a message from an octopus, I can probably tell it's not going to work out, but pretend you're in college and some weird guy asked you out. You said yes, right? You gotta kiss a lot of frogs. That's just how it is. No princes otherwise.
Disclosure; probably be good if you checked out my "questions" before falling in love. My sense of the thing is that I fell into the mire of conventionality (think LaBrea Tar Pits) in my profile. I can't figure out why, exactly, but this is a medium that get's us into a false normality. Gotta think about that. I did better on the questions. Also, you know where it says I'm 70? Actually I'm 24 and cuter than Brad Pitt. Now you know. Good not to be snookered by the "average". OK, that's obscure, but look up "Tyranny of averages" on the internet.