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joshua_pdx

34 Portland, OR Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:53pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Arabic (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"This is a subtle truth: whatever you love, you are." - Jalaluddin Rumi

I love celebrating life, in all of its joys and sorrows, beauty and illusion, pleasure and pain. I love this being human, and living the truth of what I experience. I love being present in my body and listening to what it has to teach. I love singing and being the resonance of the universe. I love that it is all vibration, that we are all music, each one of us a unique voice in the chorus of existence. I fucking love music. I love to play with sounds and draw out novel tones from random objects, from my body to stalactites to the surface of the water in hotsprings. I love to open my body to the music, and let it flow through me so that my dance comes from a place of authentic inspiration, expressing the words that only my body can say. I love observing my approach to dance and using it as a template to inform the way I live. My life is lived the way my body is danced. I love the dance of relationship with those in my life. I love encountering those rare beings whose life is fueled by a visceral passion in their soul to express themselves, and in their intimacy with their art, exude duende. I love following my inspiration, and knowing that it is not that which inspires me, but the inspiration itself that is my calling. I love hiking, camping, and being in nature. I love honoring the sacred in the profane, and saying "yea" to it all - the shit and the beauty, the harmony and the conflict, the creation and the destruction, the sorrow and the joy. I love staying open to my emotions, and feeling them deeply. I love making space to be with pain when it arises, and to let it express itself, with the understanding that wherever there is pain, there is healing to be done. I love deep, genuine connection with others. I love honoring the divine in everything, in recognition that all I experience is a projection of myself. I love to laugh and cry and live my emotions, the guideposts to my truth. I love intellectual satire, running jokes, and I shamelessly snicker at cheap potty humor and innuendo. I love to be silly and joke, and enjoy being around people who appreciate the humor of life. I love getting engulfed in epicurean delights. I love a wicked cross-over or a no-look lob pass, and I appreciate the beauty of a simple pick-and-roll executed to perfection just the same. I love to find beauty with the lens, and share it with the world. I love to listen to the notes that only I can hear, and compose them in rich layers like combining flavors in a recipe. I love to step into the flow and allow the poetry to move through me. I love the flow that is life. I love languages and exploring people and cultures. I love words, like "mellifluous" and "choufleur". I love the warmth that "madrugada" brings to my soul, and that "succinct" tastes citrusy to my mouth. I love the sound of the rain, a lullaby for my psyche, a sonic cleansing of the soul. I love the changing of the seasons, and riding the cycle of what each brings to my life. I love creating and living, dying and emptiness. ॐ
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being. Making love to life. Following my bliss. After spending the last 7 years in a successful run of my photography business, I've uprooted my life and moved to a quiet place out of the city, walking away from the biz in order to follow the calling of my life's greatest passion: making music.

I'm working on an album right now, so these days I spend a lot of time producing, composing, making beats, writing lyrics, recording, and engineering. I sing my song, have a daily asana practice, a regular ecstatic dance practice, hit up silent discos in the park, go on a couple hikes through the forrest/down to the river (I live overlooking one) a week, live my meditation, do lots of bodywork and self-work, journal lots, love to take saunas, paint, play instruments, go to Breitenbush, and I love to connect with community, family, and friends. I like playing boardgames and catching flicks at the Laurelhurst. I'm also a basketball nut, and frequently watch Blazers games. I'm living exactly as I want to, moving solely from a place of inspiration, and fully engaged in living life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
playing, dancing, taking pictures, singing, composing music, languages, word games like scrabble and boggle, traveling where my heart leads me, exploring cultures, adapting, intuiting, listening to my body and giving it what it needs, massage therapy, emotional processing, calling/questioning people on their shit, acceptance, equanimity, stillness, patience, letting go, finding truth, living my art. Oh, and modesty. hehe :P
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
On the dance floor, I've been told it's my kinetic creativity and expressiveness. Strangers occasionally tell me how moved or inspired they are by watching me dance. I've also been told (both by people who barely know me, and people who know me very well) that if there is one word that would be associated with me, it's "play" :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here are my favorite songs and movies and things that other people have created but that I use to express my individualism. (touché, Stewie Griffin ;)

The Prophet, Invisible Man, The Poisonwood Bible, Candide by Voltaire, La Première Gorgée de la Biere, Il Inferno, Tao Te Ching, anything Rumi, Hafez, or Joseph Campbell. I've also recently enjoyed Conscious Loving (and fully subscribe to these principles for a conscious relationship).

Baraka, Amélie, La Haine, Amores Perros, Waking Life, The Triplets of Belleville, Office Space, Fight Club, Locked Stocked and Two Smoking Barrels, Snatch, Duck Soup (I grew up on the Marx Bros.), L'Auberge Espagnole, Monty Python's The Meaning of Life, Holy Grail, Life of Brian, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, The Power of Myth: Joseph Campbell w/ Bill Moyers, Mythos lectures by Joseph Campbell, Spirited Away, I <3 Huckabees, Dressed to Kill - Eddie Izzard, any of Russell Peters' or Dave Chappelle's standups. I'm also a sucker for any superhero/comic book movie, and shitty adventure/sci-fi/fantasy movies.

The Daily Show, The Simpsons, Mad Men, Archer, Flight of the Conchords, Downton Abbey, Sherlock, GoT, and House of Cards. I also enjoy podcasts like Radiolab and This American Life. And Alan Watts recordings. Ooh, and I'm a connoisseur of TED talks, particularly ones on Vulnerability, Right Brain, and Neuroscience. Confession: the intro soundscape to TED talks actually kind of excites me :) (Yes, I am most certainly a sapiosexual.)

Music: Amélie-les-Crayons, Astrud Gilberto, Bach, Balkan Beat Box, Beethoven, Bjork, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Buena Vista Social Club, Chopin, Cinematic Orchestra, Common, Corneille, De La Soul, Dead Can Dance, Desert Dwellers, Diana Krall, Duke Ellington, Ella Fitzgerald, Erykah Badu, Federico Aubele, Fela Kuti, Gotan Project, Govinda, Hope Sandoval (Mazzy Star), J-Live, Jack Johnson, Jimi Hendrix, John Coltrane, John Lennon, Joni Mitchell, Kaya Project, Kitka, Kruder & Dorfmeister, Lamb, Les Nubians, Lhasa de Sela, Louis Armstrong, Macklemore, Manu Chao, Mari Boine, Martin Sexton, Miles Davis, Mos Def, Nujabes, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Nina Simone, Nitin Sawhney, Norah Jones, ODESZA, Ozomatli, Paris Combo, Pharcyde, Phutureprimative, Pink Floyd, Pink Martini, Paul Simon, Ravi Shankar, Sade, Saul Williams, SBTRKT, Serge Gainsbourg, Shpongle, Stan Getz, Stevie Wonder, Talib Kweli, The Beatles, The Roots, The Wailin' Jennys, Thievery Corporation, Trentemøller, Yo-Yo Ma, Zap Mama, etc.

Top 5 cuisines by nation (yes, I keep a list) : Italian, Lebanese, Thai, Indian, and French (if for nothing else than their divine desserts). Oh but there's also Mexican, which is one of my comfort foods.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This ashtray.
This paddle game.
This remote control.
These matches.
And this lamp.
Oh, and this chair.

And that's all I need. I don't need anything else.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the present moment. Which usually doesn't involve much thought at all :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I know I'm nothing, and am open without needing to be filled. I'm not looking for validation through friendship, sex, or partnership. I have no interest in possessing. As such, I have no desire for someone to be devoted to me; I appreciate people who are devoted to themselves and their personal growth. Meeting someone in that space, I'm happy to be devoted to the relationship as a means to deepen the exploration of life and of ourselves, and thrive in union.

And I listen to my inner guidance for every decision I make.

Also, I've treated my life as my yoga, so something to consider: The Yoga of Relationships.
You should message me if
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you think we'd be good playmates. If you dance and sing, and love to express yourself. If you live as art, with creativity and a willingness to explore this one wild and precious life. If you're grounded, embodied, and are devoted to a practice that gets you out of your mind and puts you in your body. If you practice mindfulness, and are keenly aware of your thoughts and emotions. If you are deeply devoted to your inner path, and self-work takes priority in your life (and you've done a ton of it and are highly self-aware). If you own your emotions, make space to feel them fully, and take responsibility for doing the deeper work when something comes up for you. If you're experienced with emotional processing, and you know how to listen to whatever triggers you, and lean into the discomfort instead of avoiding it. If you have strong communication skills, have studied conscious communication, and express your inner truth openly and your needs clearly. If you are daringly honest with others and with yourself. If you love yourself, and know how to be vulnerable. If you value the blessing it is to be truly seen by another, and consciously approach relationship as fertile grounds for doing self work. And your will to live fully is stronger than the barrier to your comfort zone.

While partnership is calling me in life, right now I'm also open to the possibility of having a conscious lover with whom I can go deep, even if we aren't right for life partnership with each other. If deep, conscious connection isn't part of it, it doesn't serve me.

Note: I don't actually "date". I enjoy meeting new people I think I might get along with, and I have no expectations about having them fit into a role in my life. I've found that with no expectations, people are relaxed and open, and it's a great way to drop into authentic connection. And if that connection leads anywhere, it flows naturally. And I mindfully approach every interaction with the intention of honoring it for what it is, without trying to make it something it's not, as every meaningful connection enriches my life just as it is.