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37 M Santa Cruz, CA

My Details

Last Online
May 9
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly other
When drinking
Other, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it matters a lot
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Thai (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hello there. My name is James. I am an astrologer, and counselor who works in a grocery store. I am going back to school in the fall to finish my psych degree. My life is in flux, and its exciting.

A few things about me; I'm a sincere, sarcastic, funny, goofy, serious, full of contradictions, and a belligerently kind human being. I love humanity, even the people I don't like. We can all do better. I don't believe in being politically correct. I use swear words in philosophical statements. But there is definitely a time and place for tact. I am an individual looking for more. I really am one of the queer though I don't know of any specific label that applies.

When I speak, I tend to prefer deep, honest, or simply funny conversations. I don't spend much time discussing the weather. I tend to avoid topics of conversation I consider meaningless.

I want to try new things, meet new people. Let's meet and see what happens. I'd like a hiking and/or drinking buddy. Or someone with different interests from myself who wants to introduce me to new things. Life is too short, for it to be boring.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm learning to enjoy it. Becoming known for a trade. Challenging my boundaries, and growing.
I’m really good at
Appreciating people who are different from me. Curling my moustache. Interpreting a birth chart. Assisting people with their needs. Bagging groceries. Cooking. Making people laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
My mustache, or that I work at Trader Joes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: one of the things I am most passionate about in this whole world is books, but I don't pick favorites easily. But I love words, literature, and spoken word poetry.

More generally, fantasy was probably my first love. Followed by period of time when I read almost exclusively religious-spiritual-philosophical or conspiratorial books. Many of these books were in some way related to UFOs or Buddhism. Then for a while, I read mostly the classics like Hemingway, Kerouac, and Vonnegut. Which trailed off into science fiction like Silverberg, Sturgeon, and Vonnegut. I have read $#!+ tons of almost everything, and almost nothing of my high school curriculum. Recently I have been more practical in my readings, focusing on self-education within my chosen fields.

Movies and TV: I like some shows, Dexter and Breaking Bad are two I like. But I rarely watch tv except on DVD or Netflix. I didn't plug my tv in for four months after moving into my last place. I have a lot of movies, and used to have more. I appreciate the art of film making and scripting. I will watch any movie once. I hate commercials with a passion.

Music: Almost content to say I love music and leave it at that. Instead of listing artists, I will tell you some generalities: I hate restaurant mariachi bands (I find it unsettling and disruptive to good dinner conversation.) I love punk, classic rock, any music with real poetry, or real feelings. I hate Iron Maiden, U2, and Yanni equally. I don't really mind if you like them though.

Food: Really I can eat almost anything if nutrition is the aim. But I love good food, and trying new cuisine. Once watched an episode of Bizarre Foods that took place in Thailand (where I lived a couple of years,) and was left with the impression I could do the host's job better (or at least with a more stable stomach,) than he could.

Needless to say Thai food is big with me, (asian food in general really,) and I've had a lot of it. Red wine, great beer, and almost any fine spirit. I like vegetarian food, and don't really like the way eating tons of meat makes my body feel. I could probably give up my occasional, very rare steak - but I don't really want to. I dislike the meat industry, and I think this country eats way too much animal protein anyway. I truly respect the vegan/vegetarian life path, but I have no ethical problem with meat eating per se. That said, I love fine food and drink from anywhere, and would literally like to try every sort of ethnic cuisine before I die.
The six things I could never do without
My bed. A bathroom. My books. The people I love. A sense of who I am. My ability to empathize.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Everybody. Astrology. Enlightenment. My book.
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends drinking beer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is that It's a really good idea to securely and safely check me out while I'm at work. A profile and a few pics may not be enough for some. I work at TJs in downtown Santa Cruz. I have only once recognized any one from OKC in the real world, ever. I blame brain damage. On that note, don't let it throw you when I don't recognize you - I think that this has happened... Long story. I am 420 friendly but I don't smoke all that often any more, and movies can make me cry.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You want to meet an individual, and have a sympathetic ear.