About me and what am about me
Hello my name is Justin, but everyone calls me Jay. I am a single Jewish male age 32. I work full time and I also go to school. As of now I work first-shift (from 7am to 3:30 pm). I do generally have my weekends and a few evenings free. I recently made the decision to return to school and work towards becoming an optometrist.
I would describe myself as goal-oriented and taking the right steps towards a stable career. I'm always looking forward to the future and finding the good and fun parts of life. I'm extremely confident but I know my shortcomings. I know to admit when I'm wrong. I'm privileged to have a good group of friends who are very important to me and they come from all walks of life.
I enjoy making people laugh. I am intelligent and can carry on meaningful conversations. I care about other people's feelings. I'm affectionate, have my romantic but original moments, appreciate having fun and being funny, I also have a tendency to talk and write too much. if you made it this far and have enjoyed what you read keep reading to find out more about me and what I am about.
I do believe it is important to treat a woman right. When I'm with someone special I like being spontaneous, adventurous, romantic, surprising them with little gestures, sensual, playful, and basically having that type of fun you see two people who just met in the movies having!
If a you take the time to get to know me, you will find that I am honest, wiser than I look, witty/humorous, respectful, faithful, loyal and I can be very romantic too. Traits that I find are positive and that I can offer someone in a relationship include being honest and straight forward, reliable, no games, no drama, no BS.
I like to go to car shows, any kind of festivals/fairs, movies, dinner... Pretty much anything as long as its with someone I like. I love doing all the little things to show the woman in my life that she is special. I am seeking the kind of person who can show me that I am special to them, as well. I do enjoy walking in the park, hiking and spending quality time with Mother Nature. I'm loyal and have no time nor desire for games and drama. I appreciate strong women who are not afraid to speak their mind and can carry on an intelligent conversation. More importantly I love laughing with the woman I'm involved with.
As a person I like to think of myself as confident but not crude. I'm a very humble man. I understand that there's a time to give and be loving and understanding. I also believe in standing up for what I believe and not being walked on. I'm always there for my friends and loved ones. I don't run from adversity. I care what people think of me because I believe in being the best man I can be. I want people who come across me to think "hey what a cool guy".
Having some similar interests helps--some things I enjoy are fine dining, walking at the beach at night, going dancing, watching movies including action adventure, comedies, and drama, traveling, going on day trips to local attractions, having romantic nights at home, cuddling, and basically having a blast together. My hobbies are wide in range, I do tend to be more of a homebody, but with that being said am looking to go out and do things with the right person, so I like to find someone who enjoys both aspects when dating. My taste in music is wide range anywhere from classical, to classic rock, rock, alt, jazz and blues and even county.
I am not perfect...No one is, with that being said am looking for someone with goals and plans to fix their own life problems (we all have them , its not what they are its more how you deal with them as far as am concerned). I've had to overcome some things in life and in doing so it's made me a much stronger man.
One rule I live by is you must not suffer from phone phobia, the best way to get to know me is thru the phone, am not here to date my computer, imps or my text messaging app, but not oppose to using them as an enhancement once we talked on the phone a few times to get to know each other, cause that is truly the best way you will learn more about me and who I am if your are truly interested then it will be worth it, I promise. It really is my one and only deal breaker.
I am one of the rare people who knows what it is am looking for.....(not so much the type of person but rather what it is they (you) can bring into my life and what I can bring into there life (let me clarify I do not mean this in a coc*y or arrogant way, it's more of how we help each other thur the journey we call life). what i mean by that is the different traits or personality one might have and how we interact with one another , with that being said i am open to getting to know different people and maybe even find out something new.
BUT.... with that being said if you are the type of person who is not comfortable talking on the phone with in the 1st (3-5 e-mails Max....preferable the sooner the better)then we most likely will not be a good match,
I am looking to be introduced/meet online but rather quickly take it from an introduction phase to a getting to know one another in real life phase and have our interaction be more meaningful and on personal level then just e-mailing or im-ing one another..... meaning have real one on one and concrete conversation over the phone, meeting in person can happen as time permits and when we are both comfortable but that should not get in the way of getting to know someone off line. One who not willing to talk on the phone, leads me to believe that they are just looking for a pen pal and that not what am here for sorry
On another note, that may sound harsh , it's not intended to, my bark is far worse then my bite ....i just know what i want and what i don't want out of this, so now the question becomes , do you know what you want out of this? if so what are you waiting for , get a hold of me.
don't let the bark be the reason you don;t want to get to know me, there are a lot of postive things i can and do bring to the table.
About You and what i look for in a mate ....
You can make me smile even when you're not with me. You can be passionate and spontaneous. You can love deeply and be loved. You don't live in the past and expect the best of the future. You can smile even when soaked on a wet day. You are mostly bubbly and light but sometimes dark. You would never take me too seriously and could make me laugh in case I took you too seriously. You have a great looking little black number as well as an old pair of jeans that have become part of the family. You know how to change your mind at the last moment and make it seem the most sensible thing in the world. You love and adore me despite all my imperfections
Relationships take time, honesty, patience and a passion for possibilities,
Not to mention a true desire to share life with another.
Which....No matter what one claims, I've found not everyone is capable of providing these things.
But, if your sincerely willing to open your heart and offer the above,
Without having a constant curiosity of what's on the other side of the fence, Anything and everything is open to possibilities and so many doors are open rather then shut or just cracked open....
first date/meeting and Greet
Dating to me is very progressive, what i mean by that is the more dates we go on and the more comfortable we get with each other the better the dates will become in theory (that's not to say our first or send date will be bad by any means) The more i see someone invested there time into me the more i like to go out of way and make sure that person has an enjoyable time it's a win win and i like to think if someone enjoying them selfs they like to come back and get another does of me :P with that being said
I am open to meeting for coffee, going for ice cream, going for a walk or hike in a park, or just hanging out on a first date, doing something were we can talk and get to know one another but yet it's low key.
second dates can include....
Going to the batting cage, go carting, driving range, renting a movie , bowling, etc
third dates can include ....
dinner, comedy show, camping, making dinner together, etc