Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The whole notion of "Replies Very Selectively" should just cover
the majority of women on here; there are so many guys messaging.
The girlfriend and I have a joint profile and she has her own solo
account, so I see the flood of daily messages and the various
attempts. I don't have a clue how, "HI" is considered an acceptable
But if I message you, I'm transparent. I note that I am in an "Open
Relationship" right up top there, and it means that rather than
trick you and reveal over dessert on Date 3 that I'm seeing other
women, I let you know upfront that I practice ethical non-monogamy.
My "status" is not for everyone, I know.
It's also not what defines me as a person.
I've continued to grow and appreciate the vibrancy of this city--
what do they tell us, "You must live in NYC at least once in your
life." Who am I to disagree with good advice?
After years in DC, I celebrated my four year anniversary in the
city at the beginning of October 2014. I enjoy it here.
This might be a little too optimistic and chipper, but when you've
been to Siberia, fled a coke-dealing father, lived in a truck stop
as a child, and gotten run out of paradise by a corrupt island
dictator, you tend not to complain.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I left a Washington-based PR firm to start my own humble shop in
NYC and so far it's looking good with clients in publishing,
education, travel, non-profits, and political campaigns.
It wasn't quite Jerry Maguire, but I was pleasantly surprised that
my "who's with me" brought a team and several clients (I didn't
poach, the contract ended) with me (but still no goldfish).
Autonomy is one helluva Benefit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm realizing that I'm deft at not being in that same category of
single-minded knuckle-draggers that seem to be taking the fine
female population of NYC out on dates. I'm really good at: NOT
lying about my height or age; NOT writing "wud up sexi" to you on
first effort; NOT leaving in the middle of dinner; NOT judging what
you order; remembering my wallet; NOT asking for inappropriate
favors on Date 1; representing myself with recent photos; NOT
droning on about how bad women are, oh and enjoying my real life
and NOT my game life...
Ya, I'd say I have "make people comfortable and be yourself" down
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My politeness. I'm working on being coarse and rude to fit in
In NY, this politeness seems particularly pronounced, as it appears
"thank you" and "Excuse us" shocks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like movies, adapted from novels about food, that have great
Not satisfied with that? Sorry, but site analytics of this section
on OKC have proven it to have high levels of eye-bounce.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Again, no one really reads this.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The "causes I believe in" angle suggests that in addition to
education reform and Social Security solvency, I spend a good bit
of time trying to find the best values for wine.
Last year, I sat on an island energy steering committee and am
working on turning garbage into electricity (the funding part, not
the touching trash part).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking wine. I work. A lot. Friday nights end very late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I was 9 (that would make it 1988) I tried to design a video
game that was based on how the Ninja Turtles "trained" to become
the fighting force they ended up as. Friends and I did
"storyboards" and I wrote elaborate diagrams on the game mechanics
and how it would be 'open-format'. The technicals were clearly
beyond the skill level I had, but I tried to learn coding.
Sadly, my parents didn't own a Mac and I liked girls too much that
I didn't "want to become a nerd."
I regret my unfinished project, especially considering the success
of RPGs and Rockstar Games, and the multi-billion dollar gaming
You should message me if
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you communicate above the level of cliche;
you like wine and want some suggestions;
you're friendly to ethical non-monogamy;
you don't believe that meeting for tea/coffee=picking out china
you ARE NOT bored. Why people say 'if you are bored' here is beyond
me. You have expectations for those with whom you expend your
valuable time and likely hoped they reached out to you with
interest, not ennui;
you have baggage, but at least it's properly tagged.
Who are you looking for?
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