"Available" means that rather than trick you and reveal over dessert on Date 3 that I'm seeing other women, I let you know upfront that I practice ethical non-monogamy. I am in an open-relationship with a bisexual, petite graphic designer. Not for everyone, I know.

But what do they tell us, "You must live in NYC at least once in your life." Who am I to disagree with good advice?

After years in DC, I celebrated my two year anniversary in the city at the beginning of October 2012.

Certainly, I have been here before and in many ways, it feels really familiar, but that doesn't make Day Ten, Forty-seven, or One-hundred eleven any less exciting.

This might be a little too optimistic and chipper, but when you've been to Siberia, lived in a truck stop as a child, and gotten run out of paradise by a corrupt island dictator, you tend not to complain.

I left a Washington-based PR firm to start my own humble shop in NYC and so far it's looking good with clients in publishing, education, travel, non-profits, and political campaigns.

It wasn't quite Jerry Maguire, but I was pleasantly surprised that my "who's with me" brought a team and several clients (I didn't poach, the contract ended) with me (but still no goldfish).

Autonomy is one helluva Benefit.

I'm realizing that I'm deft at not being in that same category of single-minded knuckle-draggers that seem to be taking the fine female population of NYC out on dates. I'm really good at: NOT lying about my height or age; NOT writing "wud up sexi" to you on first effort; NOT leaving in the middle of dinner; NOT judging what you order; remembering my wallet; NOT asking for inappropriate favors on Date 1; representing myself with recent photos; NOT droning on about how bad women are, oh and enjoying my real life and NOT my game life...

Ya, I'd say I have "make people comfortable and be yourself" down pat.

My politeness. I'm working on being coarse and rude to fit in better.

In NY, this politeness seems particularly pronounced, as it appears "thank you" and "Excuse us" shocks.

I like movies, adapted from novels about food, that have great soundtracks.

Not satisfied with that? Sorry, but site analytics of this section on OKC have proven it to have high levels of eye-bounce.

Again, no one really reads this.

The "causes I believe in" angle suggests that in addition to education reform and Social Security solvency, I spend a good bit of time trying to find the best values for wine.

Last year, I sat on an island energy steering committee and am working on turning garbage into electricity (the funding part, not the touching trash part).

drinking wine. I work. A lot. Friday nights end very late.

When I was 9 (that would make it 1988) I tried to design a video game that was based on how the Ninja Turtles "trained" to become the fighting force they ended up as. Friends and I did "storyboards" and I wrote elaborate diagrams on the game mechanics and how it would be 'open-format'. The technicals were clearly beyond the skill level I had, but I tried to learn coding.

Sadly, my parents didn't own a Mac and I liked girls too much that I didn't "want to become a nerd."

I regret my unfinished project, especially considering the success of RPGs and Rockstar Games, and the multi-billion dollar gaming industry.

you communicate above the level of cliche;
you like wine and want some suggestions;
you are pragmatic in your approach to dating;
you don't believe that meeting for tea/coffee=picking out china patterns;
you ARE NOT bored. Why people say 'if you are bored' is beyond me. You have expectations for those with whom you expend your valuable time and likely hoped they reached out to you with interest, not ennui;
you have baggage, but at least it's properly tagged.