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45 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 23
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Judaism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I am these things mostly: laid-back, funny, adventurous, creative, curious, playful, open. Often ironic and dry and silly. I'm open-minded and creative and honest. I love the outdoors, the arts, food, drink, skiing, hiking, biking, the beach, and a lot of other things.

I have close friends from my whole life going back to childhood. A bunch of types of people. I realize now this is something I'm lucky in. Could be because I have a tendency towards meaningful and entertaining conversations. I love gatherings and dinners and brunches and going for coffee. I'm very social and I value my friends and family a ton.

Things I want to do, or do more of, aside from travel: grow more plants (I have 6, 1 is a cactus, I once had 9 or 10, some were small), make more things, check out more live music and theater, night swims, clear out some old shit so I have more room for nice-looking new shit.

I like traveling. I've traveled a lot - to many places in Europe and the US and the Americas. A year in England during college. Been on a bunch of great bike trips. Recently spent an excellent week at the Sivananda Yoga Ashram in the Bahamas. I want to go to the Far East, New Zealand, Iceland, Berlin, Prague....

I eat pretty well. For lunch I often have gigantic salads made up of sick amounts of nutrients. Junk food holds no sway over me.

Finally, in case you gasped in horror at my age: I am naturally fit, and on top of that I go to the gym, so I'm in good shape. Nice complexion too.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been living in Cobble Hill in Brooklyn for about 9 years. I grew up in an NJ suburb outside New York City (more like Dazed & Confused plus Mean Girls than the Sopranos or Jersey Shore). I have a great career in software, with time and peace to enjoy life. (Was a lawyer before but didn't like it.) Financially comfortable and stable.

I write stuff down, about anything that comes to mind. I'm going to put it all in a novel one day, or a bunch of short stories (I know it's not that simple). I also chronicle a lot of my dreams, whenever I can remember them. I like creating and being inspired.

Right now my brother and I are embarking on recorded interviews of my parents, about themselves, the world, the 20th century...for posterity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Dry humor. I'm pretty good with words.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know. I guess my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My first album, chosen in 2nd grade under the guidance of my older brother, was the White Album. I listened to it a million times, following the lyrics end to end. What this means for me today is I like a ton of different music, and none of it is shit. I still have my old vinyl, though I can't say I listen to it much. As for movies, I like independent, old, or foreign, and Hollywood too if they're good. A few favorite recent-ish books are the Secret History, Kavalier and Clay, Oscar Wao, and Ubik, and I love a lot of famous old ones too. From TV, I like Game of Thrones, the Daily Show, Colbert Report.

I love to read. Recently read "Tenth of December" by George Saunders (great) and "The Goldfinch" by Donna Tartt (pretty good). Right now I'm reading "Like You'd Understand, Anyway" by Jim Shepard, and that's really good. For news I read the NY Times.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
everything i alluded to above.
and love, of course.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
funny or interesting ways to describe things. the environment/the world's fate. beginnings and origins.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with friends, or staying in watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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more of a disclaimer than revelation of a secret:
the golf course pic of me is a rarity. i'm not a big golfer.
You should message me if
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You think we might like each other and you live in or near New York.
You're laid-back, unpretentious, adventurous, open, and nice.
You are looking for something long-term.