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44 Amityville, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 17
5′ 5″ (1.66m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I love my friends, my family, my dog, my cat, my church, my job, the Longhorns and baseball (though interleague play is a sign of the apocalypse). I am a lucky girl with a good life.

Like anyone I like to have fun. I enjoy a night out and enjoy a good dive or a white tablecloth place in equal measure. A night in with a nice bottle of wine is also very appealing. I love board games and good conversation. Hiking and taking my dog to the dog park are favorite pastimes. And I love college football. I am up for trying new things and new places, just lead the way.

I try to be up to date on important issues, but I find myself fascinated with the low brow stuff too. I read a great deal; my favorites include Sarah Vowell and David McCullough. "A Prayer for Owen Meany", "Gilead" and "Mama Day" are some of my favorite novels.

I can be plenty spirited, opinionated and irreverent, but I hope I am open-minded and generous. I am probably a little bit old fashioned, but never stuffy. I like to think that I am smart and funny. I know I am extremely loyal, fun and a great friend. I am dedicated to work but not at the expense of family and friends.

I moved to Connecticut from Texas a few years ago, and this summer will be moving to New York. I miss Texas, but enjoy exploring a new area. It would be great to have someone show me around.

Ideally I would like to meet a guy who is smart, kind, funny, decent and good looking. Good manners go a long, long way. Someone who has a suit and wears it when it is appropriate. I appreciate a person who uses spell check and knows a little bit about capitalization. I am looking for regular, standard issue type guy, around my age, by which I mean a few years on either side [a decade or more is not a few]. I am well educated and intelligent and value both of these qualities in a friend.

My pictures are current and I would be grateful if you extended the same courtesy. Translated this means those without pictures should not anticipate a reply. Nor should gentleman who are clearly in their late fifties or above, but have identified their age as forties.
I’m really good at
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cooking, conversation, making people feel at ease.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am smart, funny, and kind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gilead and Mama Day are my favorite novels. I read quite a bit, especially history. David McCullough and Sarah Vowell are particular favorites. I am reading a lot about the Civil War right now. Also a big fan of David Sedaris, David Rackoff and Anne Lamott.

I like to watch Top Chef, Mad Men along with a little bit of trashy reality TV. This American Life is weekly habit.

I listen to all kinds of music, but am partial to Willie and Waylon and the boys.

I like almost any kind of food, especially spicy things.

Red wine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, my cast iron skillet, clickster pencils, post-it notes, zip lock bags and spell check.
You should message me if
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you are a good guy who appreciates a smart, thoughtful, interesting girl.