Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am inquisitive and enjoy lively discussion
, especially about more
abstract topics. I like participating in open discussions as well
as having deep conversations one on one.
I am generally more open and honest than particularly polite. I am
hard to read and it can take people a while to figure out what I am
like. I am attentive to the people I am close to.
I like reading
e.g. Terry Pratchett or Jane Austen. I enjoy writing also, but I do
not actually indulge in it that often. I enjoy music. I like
playing strategic board games
, especially shogi
Politically I am a left-wing liberal, but I care much more for
actual pragmatic solutions to causes I consider important and
conveying understanding why particular values are to be preferred
than political parties or speculative discussions about
I am contemplative, intellectual, and imaginative.
What I’m doing with my life
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I live a comparatively quiet life with my wife FrauHolle
. I was born in The
Hague and lived in the suburbs for decades, but have lived in
smaller communities in greener areas in recent years.
I am an IT professional. I typically go to the office about twice a
week and work from home the rest of the time. A substantial part of
my work is internationally oriented, across time zones. It is not
uncommon for me to have both early and late conference calls and go
shopping etc. in between. My current job contains elements of
planning, coordination and management as well as very deep
I try to play at the Dutch Shogi Championships every year, and one
or two more tournaments. I also like to play more general board
game sessions with friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I studied mathematics
and computer science
have a very logical mind. I am also very interested in language. I
am good at long and complex discussions in e-mail or some forum or
mailing list on the internet.
I am a good listener. I make a point of stimulating open-mindedness
as well as responsibility. People who know me find it comparatively
easy to confide in me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am fairly hard to read. I have long hair.
I tend to look at things critically. I take my own point of view
with a grain of salt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - Terry
"Small gods", Jane Austen
"Emily", Louis Couperus
"Wildlife", Greg Egan
"Diaspora", George Orwell
Or in other words, primarily fantasy
, science fiction
, and literature
. I read
Movies - I tend to prefer slower-moving films or as a friend puts
it 'those arthouse films in which nothing happens'--but anything
that really makes you think will work. Some better-known movies I
really like: Le fabuleux destin d'Amélie
Poulain, Abre los ojos,
Twelve monkeys, Rashomon.
Music - I enjoy listening to many genres; most of my music
collection is metal. Favorites include Dark Tranquillity
"A burnt offering for the bone idol", Queensrÿche
"Rage for order",
(esp. as the singer for The 3rd and The Mortal
"Tears laid in earth"). I occasionally still listen to Duran Duran
or Depeche Mode.
Food - Indian, Greek, Chinese (esp. Cantonese).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
recognition, self-expression, companionship, quiet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the abstract, community
I have a distinct idealistic side and keep thinking about ways to
improve. I think that, beyond the obvious, what change is positive
is strongly tied to culture and often also bound to a certain
social group or stratum, and that an outsider cannot generally hope
to figure this out.
I am an advocate for free, open, and honest communication. Anything
that is enjoyable and not a threat to other commitments (or general
humanity) that you can do with a clear conscience is allowable in
principle and negotiable from my perspective.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I do not use nicknames or screen names, only various abbreviations
of my real name. I assume that people who know me might recognize
me. Consequently, I am somewhat careful with what I write publicly.
You should message me if
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you think we would have something to say to each other. I love
discussion and learning new things.
I strongly value openness and honesty. Relationships require good
communication, especially poly ones.
Long-distance relationships have their own limitations.
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