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50 • Los Gatos, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–60
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Not at all
- Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from masters program
- Science / Engineering
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- Has dogs
I have a strong drive and ambition to challenge myself and continue to improve in all aspects of my life, and some of that focus does show up in my relationships – I prefer personal, more intimate in-depth connections over large groups of acquaintances. Some of the best moments with a partner are simply getting to know each other better over time. I enjoy sharing the ups and downs of each other’s day, ideas that are important to us, our worries and desires. We have our own interests and pursuits, but we are excited and passionate about each other and truly enjoy spending time together. I want to support my partner in whatever goals she may have and challenge her to reach them, just as I want her to know and understand me deeply.
One thing she will find out is that I love discussing issues and figuring out "how and why". Although I consider myself more intuitive than deductive, I have always had a love for most fields of science - a fascination with nature and how the world works. After a very fun, exciting and successful 18 year career in 3D Computer graphics and six years of research in physics, I now mix my time between science and software so I get the best of two exciting career interests in my life.
Honesty, openness, and communication are very important to me - my partner needs to be able to tell me what she is thinking and feeling, be it nurturing or painful. I need her to be self-aware so that she and I can sit down and calmly express our wants and needs, have the desire to discuss issues or concerns that either one of us may harbor and work together towards understanding and resolution. I would hope that this process is important to her too; she has experience with it and it does not scare her. Ultimately I believe that this process leads to deep intimacy and emotional and physical connection with each other.
A few odds and ends: I combine a passion for exercise with a love of stunning natural vistas -- biking in the hills or skiing in the snow-capped mountains of Colorado. I read extensively, love my animals deeply, and continue to dance regularly after more than 20 years practicing and enjoying the art. Movies are fun if they aren't violent or supernatural flicks. I'm not much into fast cars, big crowds, religion, loud music, or drinking. I enjoy live theatre, particularly musicals and a capella concerts. I'm very smart, funny in a silly way, and I read a lot. I love dogs!
I have always been very athletic and love outdoor activities, but in recent years that has been a bit less of a focus for me. I still do a solid workout daily for about an hour, and I can certainly enjoy a bike ride out to the coast, or a long day of non-stop tennis, but the desire to do that day in and day out isn’t there anymore. During the winter I love to spend a couple weeks skiing – usually a week in Aspen, and perhaps another trip or a sprinkling of jaunts to Tahoe.
I take my dog rollerblading frequently (well, she is getting older, so it is more like fast walking), love to see live theatre and enjoy eating really excellent food – from fine dining to delicious authentic hole in the wall restaurants.
Dancing has also been a passion of mine for almost 20 years and I have done a little bit of everything – ballroom sequences, folk and international, square, country western, although most of my time now is spent on Salsa, Swing, and Country Two Step. You’ll find me on the dance floor pretty regularly once a week even if just for an hour or two.
I hadn’t done that much traveling until the last few years. Time in a beautiful or romantic setting with a partner is wonderful, but I do not feel a compulsion to travel the world and see everything.
In 2007, I decided to re-focus my ‘work life’ on pure science – something that I have been passionate about since undergrad days -- so I started the PhD program in physics at UC Berkeley. It was fun for a few years, but I decided for various reasons not to finish the PhD in 2010 and left then with a masters. I still love doing research and continue to work on many unsolved problems in physics -- right now, ab initio materials properties discovery and computation. My life is pretty balanced and flexible these days and there are many things I am interested in doing in life, so my work is just one part of a pleasing whole for me.
Good communication and honesty are extremely important to me regardless of the specific type of relationship I am in. I’ve put in a great deal of effort over the years to be self-aware so I can know what I want and need and be able to express those needs clearly. Just as important, I have learned to really listen and hear what the other person is saying so I can understand her position and we can both get what is important to us, whether it be resolving a disagreement, making a mutual decision, or just improving our understanding of each other, learning what works and is pleasing for the other person.
Also, while my belief in honesty is unwavering, delivery is important :-) and kindness and compassion count. This means that as a general rule, I am patient, understanding, helpful, loyal and supportive. I don’t get mad easily, nor do I brood, or make annoying sarcastic comments.
Others have said that I appear to be intense – I can see this as well, but not so much that I never relax. I do try very hard, though, at whatever I am learning / doing in the moment, not to the point of getting all bothered if it doesn’t work out right, but I tend to enjoy a game more, say, if everyone is trying to play their best.
Still others have said that I appear to be very stable; is this a contradiction with the ‘intense’ assessment?? I have tried to cultivate the ability to hold my own center in spite of ups and downs in the world and people around me so this makes sense. This is a tricky business, though, staying connected and yet distinct from the influences around me.
I did go through a phase when I read modern day romance novels, -- go figure – and I am trying out some of the more popular books of the last few years like “The Tipping Point”, “Omnivore’s Dilemma”, etc.. They are OK and do have some fascinating commentaries, but my sense of things so far is that I will always enjoy a great tale much more.
I love to see movies – usually prefer viewing them on the big screen rather than at home – but rarely do I see films that I think are particularly memorable. They are more, good solid fun, but also just passing entertainment.
I’m not sure how to describe my musical genre tastes except to list a few of the groups I like: Patchwork, City Folk, Jim Croce, Dar Williams, Queen.
I am something of a foodie and really enjoy fine dining from just about any region of the world, but as long as the food is particularly yummy, I am good with a variety of ambiances. I’m out for a nice meal about once every week or two.
1) emotional and physical intimacy, excitement about and connection with a partner
2) something interesting to study, learn, think about, discuss and imagine
3) good tasty organic food, occasional uncrowded wilderness
4) regular exercise, beloved pets
5) personal growth, introspection, being authentic
2) Myself. At this point I think I know myself reasonably well, but there is always more to discover and it is not like we are static beings either. Our personalities, needs, desires, likes, goals, etc.. are constantly changing. I like learning about myself, as well as the process of doing so.
3) World Issues – anything like energy, the environment, social issues, economic policy. I love discussing these topics as well, although I am not an activist, and I don’t get involved in politics. It is more just an interesting challenge to try and understand and/or solve really large scale problems.
4) Relationships and dynamics amongst people, both in a general sense as well as specifically with people with whom I have a relationship.
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