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30 Oakland, CA Man, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:44pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm a northern california transplant who has been living in the east bay for about 6 years - i've turned into a bit of a homebody and want to jump into meeting all the great people and doing all the amazing stuff this place has to offer. even though i've been living here a while, there is still a lot i haven't experienced that i would like to. always down for adventures! and i have a car! yes! mobility!

i love to talk/do/make/learn about music, craft beer, history (especially secret history), digital art, occult nonsense, cartoons, comic books, photography, frugal living, theater and performance, privilege, sass, cats, bats, coats and hats!

i consider myself a feminist and i'm really interested in social justice stuff. maybe that comes across as pandering, but it's true. always working on it.

i'm a skeptic but not a cynic. :)

i am in a polyamorous LTR with my best friend sxixchwixch. we date together as a couple, and have just started dating individually as well. we live together and spend a lot of our time together but things are really relaxed and free from drama/jealousy when it comes to dating other folks.
i have a lot of freedom to date other ladies and am excited to meet new people!
What I’m doing with my life
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i am an aspiring sound designer/editor/experimenter/wizard. while recording bands is fun, i've always been much more interested in sound designing for film and theater/live performance.

i write music and i'm a multi-instrumentalist. although i am not currently in a band, i'm always down to collaborate with new people. i especially like making music that is heavy, unusual and complex - always down to make trashy, sloppy punk though.

i'm trying to get out to more shows/events/places these days. i live in an old weird house with 9 room mates and every night can feel like a party so sometimes it's hard to leave.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
remembering anything i learn related to music, cooking cheap eats, imitating voices, sigil magick, hyper-analyzing comic books, cleaning, building a fire, pleasing, improvising stupid songs, using metaphors, back rubz, home-made-gifts, driving long distances and grinning like an idiot.
The first things people usually notice about me
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uncommon name, pale eyes and a big mouth (physically)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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my favorite books are usually non-fiction works about history, mass media, psychology, economics, esoteric teachings, theater, music, cooking or madness. as far as works of fiction i tend to gravitate towards fantasy, science-fiction, magical realism and mickey spillane novels.

i fucking love comic books! all kinds, from self-published queer zines to mainstream super hero comics and everything in between. i've laughed reading craig thompson and teared-up reading superman.

films with beautiful and intense imagery, documentaries, cheesy super hero remake knockoff blockbusters full of explosions and stupid-one liners, magical realism, noir, psychological thrillers, spaghetti westerns and black comedies.

i don't have cable but i will netflix/pirate: twin peaks, pbs frontline documentaries, the office, boardwalk empire, game of thrones, cosmos, planet earth, sherlock and most adult swim programming.

i have a particular soft spot for gritty distorted electronic music, industrial, most jazz, traditional balkan music, modern classical, james brown, weird americana, pre-1940's blues, spaghetti western soundtracks, intense noise music, no-wave, inventive metal, ambient spooky drone and poorly made cell phone ringtones.

some artists i've been listening to lately: swans, grouper, do make say think, liars, sleep, forest swords, arthur russell, secret chiefs 3, mount eerie, cocteau twins, suicide and wu-tang clan.

food: i love it all. try me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
laptop (i know, i know)
a well-proofed cooking pan
a soft place to lay
cool, dark woods to explore
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
sex, food, quantum psychology, infinite games, music, kink and what it means to be a bratty sub/switch man in today's wacky world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hanging out at my big weird house with my 9 awesome room mates, chain smoking weed, at a show, watching a movie or tv show, experimenting with my mid-90's drum machine and a children's karaoke cassette player, playing talisman into the wee hours, at a friend's house drinking and laughing or blankly staring into the middle-distance, wondering where the week went.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i don't really know what started it, but i am somewhat intimidated by women with a lot of visible tattoos. in a good way.
You should message me if
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-you find any part of my profile interesting or intriguing or whatever

-i seem like a "chill" "dude" you would like to "hang" with

-you want someone to talk to about weird/occult/esoteric bullshit who doesn't take it too seriously

-you want to collaborate on some music/performance art/film

-you need someone to get high and watch fucked up cartoons with

-you would like to add a positive, non-judgemental person to your circle of friends