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30 Oakland, CA Man


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  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last Online
Today – 7:51pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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i'm a northern california transplant who has been living in the east bay for about 5 years - i've turned into a bit of a homebody (super shy guy) and want to jump into meeting all the great people and doing all the amazing stuff this place has to offer. even though i've been living here a while, there is still a lot i haven't experienced that i would like to. always down for adventures! and i have a car! yes! mobility!

i love to talk/do/make/learn about music, craft beer, history (especially secret history), digital art, psychology, occult nonsense, cartoons, comic books, photography, frugal living, theater and performance (i graduated from ucsc with a degree in theater arts, the most useful of college degrees!) , privilege, sass, cats, bats, coats and hats!

i consider myself a feminist and i'm really interested in social justice stuff. maybe that comes across as pandering, but it's true. always working on it.

i'm a skeptic but not a cynic. :)

i am in a polyamorous LTR with my best friend sxixchwixch. we date together as a couple, and have just started dating individually as well. we live together and spend a lot of our time together but things are really relaxed and free from drama/jealousy when it comes to dating other folks.
i have a lot of freedom to date other ladies and am excited to meet new people!
What I’m doing with my life
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i am an aspiring sound designer/editor/experimenter/wizard. while recording bands is fun, i've always been much more interested in sound designing for film and theater/live performance.

currently i am working at a totally unrelated big-boy job in san francisco, although i plan to make the jump to l.a. to work in the film industry at some point.

i write music and i'm a multi-instrumentalist. although i am not currently in a band, i'm always down to collaborate with new people. i especially like making music that is heavy, unusual and complex - always down to make trashy, sloppy punk though.

i'm trying to get out to more shows/events/places these days. i live in an old weird house with 11 room mates and every night can feel like a party so sometimes it's hard to leave.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
remembering anything i learn related to music, cooking cheap eats, imitating voices, sigil magick, hyper-analyzing comic books, cleaning, building a fire, pleasing, improvising stupid songs, using metaphors, back rubz, home-made-gifts, driving long distances and grinning like an idiot.
The first things people usually notice about me
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uncommon name, pale eyes and a big mouth (physically)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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my favorite books are usually non-fiction works about history, mass media, psychology, economics, esoteric teachings, theater, music, cooking or madness. as far as works of fiction i tend to gravitate towards fantasy, science-fiction, magical realism or gritty detective novels.

i fucking love comic books! all kinds, from self-published queer zines to mainstream super hero comics and everything in between. i've laughed reading craig thompson and teared-up reading superman.

films with beautiful and intense imagery, documentaries, cheesy super hero remake knockoff blockbusters full of explosions and stupid-one liners, magical realism, noir, psychological thrillers, spaghetti westerns and black comedies.

i don't have cable but i will netflix/pirate: twin peaks, pbs frontline documentaries, the office, boardwalk empire, game of thrones, cosmos, planet earth, sherlock and most adult swim programming.

i have a particular soft spot for gritty distorted electronic music, most jazz, traditional balkan music, modern classical, james brown, weird americana, pre-1940's blues, spaghetti western soundtracks, intense noise music, no-wave, inventive metal, ambient spooky drone and poorly made cell phone ringtones.
some artists i've been into lately include: swans, grouper, do make say think, liars, suicide, arthur russell, secret chiefs 3, mount eerie, cocteau twins, this heat and wu-tang clan.

i've been listening to this song every day for the last few months. i can't stop.

food: i love it all. try me. i am not vegan.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
laptop (i know, i know)
a well-proofed cooking pan
a soft place to lay
cool, dark woods to explore
delicious fruits
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
sex, food, quantum psychology, games without end, music, kink and what it means to be a bratty sub / switch man in today's wacky world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hanging out at my big weird house with my 11 awesome room mates, drinking and people watching at art murmur, chain smoking weed, at a show, watching a movie or tv show, experimenting with my mid-90's drum machine and a children's karaoke cassette player, playing talisman into the wee hours, at a friend's house drinking and laughing or blankly staring at a computer screen, wondering where the week went.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i don't really know what started it, but i am somewhat intimidated by women with a lot of visible tattoos. in a good way.
You should message me if
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-you find any part of my profile interesting or intriguing or whatever

-i seem like a "chill" "dude" you would like to "hang" with

-you want someone to talk to about weird/occult/esoteric bullshit who doesn't take it too seriously

-you want to collaborate on some music/performance art/film

-you need someone to get high and watch fucked up cartoons with

-you would like to add a positive, non-judgemental person to your circle of friends

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