I will always tell you the truth, albeit sometimes more bluntly than I should (I'm working on it). I avoid drama like the plague (who needs it?). I will always be supportive and encouraging (I want you to be a better you, so I can be a better me). I never seek to control or change anyone, as I wouldn't appreciate anyone trying to control or change me (if I've learned anything it's that we cannot mold another into our ideal of what they should be, but love them for who they are--warts and all). Strong when need be, sensitive pretty much always.
No baggage, just experience. Comfortable in my own skin. Not wealthy, but doing okay. Homeowner, tax payer, bon vivant (no wait, that may be over reaching). Can be shy and quiet when uncomfortable, require a muzzle when comfortable (can't resist a straight line). Most people don't think I look my age...but, then again, most of them forgot their glasses, so....
I'd been trying to find a way to articulate this and a poster who goes under the handle 2ndCentury did a beautiful job. I asked if I could steal it and she graciously agreed. She wrote:
"At this stage of life, after raising families and being in long marriages, people list their must haves and deal breakers based on what they lacked in their previous relationship. They treat online dating like they're ordering in a restaurant but aren't happy with the menu so they ask for all kinds of substitutions. ( I've been guilty of this myself )."
It reminds me of an old saying: "You can't turn anyone into someone you can love. You have to accept them for who they are, not who you want them to be."
Maybe it's time we all stopped putting up so many road blocks. Maybe something to think about. Maybe.