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33 Buffalo, NY Cis Man

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  • Ages 26-39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has dogs
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am neither shy nor quiet. I am almost always in a good mood.

I recently adopted a two and a half year old pit bull mix from the City of Buffalo Animal Shelter. Her name is Scully and she is a very sweet dog.

I grew up outside Chicago, went to college in western New York, and then spent six years in LA for grad school. After living in Detroit for a year, I moved to Buffalo three years ago for my job.

If there is anything I own too many of, it is books.

I am inquisitive, analytic, and upbeat

“There's a point, around the age of twenty, when you have to choose whether to be like everybody else the rest of your life, or to make a virtue of your peculiarities.” - Ursula K. LeGuin, 'The Dispossessed'
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a professor of philosophy.

I like to knit. I also make a podcast with a friend (you can listen to an episode where we talk about stacking animals on top of each other here:

I have been learning to play the flute on and off for a while, but I'm not yet very good at it. I also write a comic about a vigilante hero named Sara "Metal Hands" McGee who wears metal gloves and fights crime by punching it (
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a distinctive laugh and an expressive face
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) Pride and Prejudice, The Count of Monte Cristo, The Dispossessed, The Left Hand of Darkness, Constellation Games, Phantoms in the Brain, If on A Winter's Night a Traveler, Godel, Escher, Bach, Stranger in A Strange Land, Love in the Time of Cholera, Alice in Wonderland & Through the Looking Glass, The Awakening

B) Casablanca, The Princess Bride, Clueless, Dirty Dancing, The Muppet Movie, The Maltese Falcon, Brick, The Lady Vanishes, Lives of Others, What's Up Doc.

C) Arrested Development, BoJack Horseman, In The Flesh, Parks and Rec, Brooklyn 99, The Wire, Golden Girls, Twin Peaks, Columbo, Orange is the New Black, Gilmore Girls, Community, The X-Files, Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, Veronica Mars, Iron Chef Japan (Dubbed), Star Trek: The Next Generation.

D) These days, I have mostly been listening to the Mountain Goats and the Hamilton cast recording. But I like other things too. Here are some of my absolute favorite albums since 2000:

Distillation- Erin McKeown (2000)
Yankee Hotel Foxtrot - Wilco (2002)
You are Free - Cat Power (2003)
Old World Underground, Where Are You Now? - Metric (2003)
New Sacred Cow - Kenna (2003)
Greetings from Michigan - Sufjan Stevens (2003)
Shake the Sheets - Ted Leo And The Pharmacists (2004)
Rubber Factory - The Black Keys (2004)
Gulag Orkestar - Beirut (2006)
Feed the Animals - Girl Talk (2008)
The ArchAndroid - Janelle Monae (2010)
Night of Hunters - Tori Amos (2011)
Transcendental Youth - the Mountain Goats (2012)

I also love: other albums by those artists, Neko Case, Jonathan Richman and the Modern Lovers, LP, The Decemberists, Beck, The Dixie Chicks, The Indigo Girls, Lemon Jelly, Classic Rock, Mid-90s alternative.

Also, the song "Oh, Sweet Nuthin'" by the Velvet Underground.

E) Indian, Thai, Mexican, Italian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
About an hour after I took my adopted dog home from the shelter/vet, my priorities in life radically shifted, and everything on this list got replaced by her. So, the real list is: my dog Scully. But, in a distant, distant second place after her are the following things:

1) New socks. It's one of those things that seems like such a small unimportant change, because your old socks seem to work just fine, but I find that it can alter your outlook for the whole day to wake up and be excited about the freshness and comfort of new socks instead of rooting through the sock drawer for the pairs that aren't quite as worn down in the heels.

2) New music. Every so often, I lose interest in my music because I've been listening to the same handful of albums over and over. The best way to snap out of that, I found, is when a friend turns me on to a new band (or an old band I don't know about), which not only infuses my music collection with some fresh blood, but also kick starts my interest in the rest of my old favorites as well.

3) People who know a whole lot about interesting topics. I do a lot of learning by conversation. I love to talk to people about things and set my mind racing about them. This works way better when I can stop someone and ask them about the various tangents that pop into my head than when I have to proceed at whatever pace was chosen for a particular book. I love having conversations where I can just soak up a ton of information, and then dive in head first to talking and thinking about it. I also like the reverse, where I am trying to explain things to other people, but not as much as when I am the one absorbing the information.

4) Friends who tell me things I (secretly) already know. Maybe you've had a situation where you already know what you should do about a given problem, but you are coming up with some creative ways of avoiding actually making that decision. I have that experience sometimes, and it is very refreshing to have a good friend point out the answer in a way that makes me realize how foolish all of my excuses are, because I'd feel silly using them. Sometimes it is hard to reduce the amount of slack I am willing to cut myself, and a friend who will snap me out of that is pretty awesome.

5) Creative outlets. I spend a lot of time in a very analytical/intellectual mode, reading philosophy and dissecting arguments and all that. Working on the internet comics and doing improv have made me realize that my life is much fuller and more complete when I have an outlet for my more creative energies, alongside my more abstract studies.

6) Plans. I used to have "books" on this list , which is a good enough entry I suppose, and tells you something important about me, but I realized it is more important for you to know that I am plan-oriented. I think the average person I met when living in LA was approximately twenty times too flaky. It's not like I only want to hang out with people who map out every part of their lives on a calendar weeks in advance, but I find myself more often frustrated by failures to plan ahead than by whatever it is that is supposed to be the drawback of planning things out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
happiness, friends, philosophy
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I really like to spend time with my friends. So that is what I am often doing on Friday nights. It is far less important to me what I am doing, than who I am doing it with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I didn't eat pears until I was 25 years old.
You should message me if
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you are passionate about something in your life. It almost doesn't matter what. I really enjoy spending time with someone who has things that they care about intensely.

Or if you have ever listened to the Hamilton cast recording more than three times in a row.

Or if you want to talk about my dog (she's a great dog)

Also, here is my absolute favorite line from any book I have ever read. I feel like could help you figure out whether to message me (either the reference or the sentiment behind the quote):

"I am the happiest creature in the world. Perhaps other people have said so before, but not one with such justice. I am happier even than Jane; she only smiles, I laugh."