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jw509

41 / M / Straight / Single

Houston, Texas

His Details

Last Online
Jun 6
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Law / Legal Services
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I decided to present the paradox wrapped in an enigma. My greatest strength is when passion and logic intersect. I am very analytical but I often have to temper my "Thumos" as the Greeks would have called it. I am strongest when logic and passion intersect. I am weakest when passion overrides logic or logic overrides passion. It is a constant balancing act for me. At times passion wants to go forward and logic is sacrificed. At times logic sacrifices passion. I am at my best when they intersect. There are times when both come together. If I let one overrule the other it is either disaster or missed opportunity.

I can't count myself with Rockefeller or Carnegie but I have had similar experience on a smaller scale. I haven't amassed astronomical fortunes but I have amassed smaller fortunes and sacrificed them for passion. In essence I have become, or maybe still becoming, what Rudyard Kipling wrote in IF. I can amass a fortune now and bet it on all on the roll of the dice and never think twice about my loss. I can lose everything and stoop down and rebuild with broken tools. I have been in the trenches and near the top.

Have I achieved all I want? No. Will I? Who knows. I take each day on faith with my goals in mind. I realize I can take risk and I am not afraid of them. I can face monsters but still fear and not want to face something much smaller at times. Still my will says otherwise.

You know you may not always understand the details but you will get the big picture. The details seem so complex but the universal code is simple and unwavering.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying my career and looking for people who can enrich my life.
I’m really good at
Problem solving
conversation
The first things people usually notice about me
My blue eyes and that I look young. Most people tell me I have a baby face.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Casablanca, Office Space
Shows: True Blood, Boardwalk Empire, Dexter, House of Lies, Shameless
Books: I am not really sure. I like so many different types. It might be mystery one week and historical fiction the next.
Food: Anything spicy
Music: eclectic Classical, classic rock, punk, metal, Red Dirt Country. I just don't like pop including country pop (Nashville sucks) and not a real fan of rap.
Bonus if you get the Nashville sucks reference.
The six things I could never do without
1. sport coats They are way too versatile. Perfect when a suit is too much and jeans are too little. They can go from client meetings to a night out.
2. Tea my major source of caffeine. Thank you Upton for keeping me in supply.
3. Creed. Oliver, I am still mad you discontinued my favorite cologne. :) Then again it may be an excuse to go to Paris so they can pull the recipe from the vault.
4. Music
5. Shaving oil, soap, and a straight razor. I could I don't use them everyday but there is something that just feels good about taking the time and effort rather than whipping out the Mach what ever number it is and shaving in 30 seconds. Although it seems I do that often. The process is relaxing. Which is a strange thought considering you are intentionally putting the sharpest knife you own to your throat.
6. An alarm clock.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Paying attention what people are not saying. Often you find people's motivations and wants in what they don't say rather than what they do. People are strange what we say we want isn't always really what we want. NB: I am talking about in general here not when it comes to sex. Yes a firm no means no. Even a weak no like I shouldn't do this is time to back off. Well unless you are into kink then a safeword is the only way to say no. :) Don't worry that is only if it was discussed and well known ahead of time.
On a typical Friday night I am
I am not sure I have a typical night. Maybe dinner with friends or going out for drinks and/or live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think that is in the questions. Strange how a multiple choice "test" can open you up.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
If you are intelligent, fun loving, and maybe a little naughty at times but people would not think you are. I am looking for someone I can engage with on more than just a physical level.
I suppose I should add if you are bold or interested enough to go past normal stereotypical roles. This isn't easy for some women.

Now that were a clear I will mostly do the messaging lets ask why you should respond.
1. You might get to spend some time with an interesting and entertaining guy who wants to get to know you. If I message there is at least enough initial attraction to want to get to know you.
2. I try to find out everything that is going on around town each week. Even if I don't go, I try to find something I could do every night. So I always have something fun and interesting to do that you come along with.
3. I look at manners as something I do because of who I am not because of who you are. I treat people with respect because that is who I am. I don't do this just because you are pretty or hot or some dating coach said do X,Y, and Z. That is not to say I don't want to make you feel special. However, I don't do things out of character to try to impress.
4. I want to show you who I am and find out who you are. If you aren't attracted to me after a couple of dates or I am not attracted to you. I am fine with that.