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kaligrrrl

39 F Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:33pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a queer, poly, kinky, femme, fat English professor.
I have piercings and tattoos, including lines from Keats.
I'm smart.
I'm funny.
I don't hide the light of my inner sex goddess under a bushel.
I'm political but not dogmatic--although social justice is REALLY important to me.
I like music, film and art, from industrial to Renaissance drama.
I have goth tendencies with a slight rockabilly tinge.
I never learned how to drive.
I have an endless supply of trivial knowledge and one hell of a vocabulary.
I'm an incurable night owl.
I look like an extrovert but like spending time alone an awful lot.
And I know quite a bit about nineteenth century literature.

I co-parent an awesome kid who does not live with me (my former partner's daughter), I have a bunch of really wonderful friends who are very important to me, I have three fabulous sweeties (qijm,AmbientState and seattlepaul) and I have the best kitty ever, Chicken. All of which means I have limited interpersonal bandwidth, but I am open to sexual/romantic connections with folks of all genders and sexes (I'm way interested in connecting with someone(s) who is feminine-ided).

I live with chronic health issues that can affect my daily life. I deal, but need awareness and understanding of this.

I'm found in various internet-y places under this username.

I am vivacious, intelligent, and curious.
What I’m doing with my life
Holy crap, my partner had a baby! wow, my time is even more limited!

Teaching.
Expanding my social network.
Reading whatever I can get my hands on.
Obsessively learning about my latest interest(s)--currently, it's perfumery and genetics. ok, now it's nail art.
Watching yet another crime show, preferably British.
Wasting time online.
Co-parenting a completely rad kid.
Collecting Mexican folk art and hair mourning jewelery.
Becoming a good cook.
Still getting to know the Pacific Northwest.
Trying to fix my brain and psyche.
Trying to make some sort of positive change in the world.
I’m really good at
Analyzing texts.
Kissing.
Style consulting.
Reinforcing my students' passion for learning.
Being a sex goddess.
Making lists.
Baking brownies.
Fattening up and socializing feral kittens.
Working a party.
Using gerunds.
Being prolix.
The first things people usually notice about me
My red and black curls--our relationship is symbiotic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books:
my taste in non-fiction is as idiosyncratic as my taste in fiction is catholic, but I lean towards fantasy/sci-fi, 18th and 19th century novels, historical fiction, mysteries, social history and magical realism. I'm not much of one for super post-modern experimentation--I like my fiction with plot, narrative and character development.

some beloved stuff:
Lolita--Vladimir Nabokov, The Woman Warrior--Maxine Hong Kingston, Public Sex--Pat Califia, The Changeover--Margret Mahy, The Mysteries of Udolpho--Ann Radcliffe, A Room with a View-E. M. Forster, Woman on the Edge of Time--Marge Piercy, The Wraethu Trilogy by Storm Constantine, The Woman in White--Wilkie Collins, Pride and Prejudice-Jane Austen, Fat?So!--Marilyn Wann, The Moon Under Her Feet--Klysta Kinstler, The Mists of Avalon--Marion Zimmer Bradley, A Natural History of the Senses--Dianne Ackerman, Snowcrash--Neal Stephenson, Beloved--Toni Morrison, The Monk--Matthew Lewis, Patience and Sarah--Isabel Miller, Mara, Daughter of the Nile--Eloise McGraw, Deerskin--Robin McKinley, Skin--Kathe Koja, anything by: Kate Ross, Francesca Lia Block, Dennis Lehane, Jacqueline Carey, Patrick O'Brian...

my favorite poets include: John Donne, Rainier Maria Rilke, Andrew Marvel, Anna Ahkmatova, John Keats, Samuel Tyler Coleridge, William Butler Yeats, Sylvia Plath, Mary Oliver, William Blake, Christina Rossetti, Rumi, Sappho, Emily Dickinson, George Gordon Byron, T.S. Elliot and Charles Baudelaire.

movies:
I have a weakness for period movies and good literary adaptations. "Indie" films and smart comedies also get me going.

these stick out:
A Room with a View, Kissed, Wings of Desire, Pride and Prejudice, Ridicule, Apocalypse Now, The Full Monty, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Maurice, The Lover, Bound, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Love Actually, Monsoon Wedding, Fight Club, I <3 Huckabees, Donnie Darko, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Frida, Titus, A Midsummer Night's Dream, Freeway, Being John Malkovich, Rushmore, Waiting for Guffman, Twelfth Night, The Usual Suspects, 10 Things I Hate about You, Reservoir Dogs, The Princess Bride, Delicatessen, City of Lost Children, The Killer, Memento, Heathers, the Nightmare Before Christmas, the Big Lebowski, Pee-Wee's Big Adventure, Better off Dead, Secretary, Amélie, the Princess Bride, Inglorious Basterds, Prometheus, Rushmore.

Television:
yeah, I admit it, I watch tv. We live in the golden age of television, people!

I'm addicted to:
Buffy, Battlestar Galatica, Supernatural, Sherlock, Life on Mars (UK), Doctor Who, Torchwood, Firefly, Dexter, Archer, Wire in the Blood, Prime Suspect (both US and UK versions), La Femme Nikita, Venture Brothers, Community, Angel, Primeval, The Killing (DE), Ripper Street, Supernatural, Sleepy Hollow.

music:
I generally like old-school punk, alt-country and bluegrass, 80's new wave, classic goth-industrial, "alternative" music (esp of the 80's-90's), women who rock, britpop, triphop, punk-edged funk and some classic rock. Music generally requires the human voice and meaningful lyrics to touch me--for example, I'm all about female jazz/blues vocalists but can't stand fusion/experimental jazz.

some specific bands/musicians I *really* like:
Adam Ant, Amanda Fucking Palmer, Arcade Fire, Belly, Bessie Smith, the Breeders, Carla Bozulich (and her former bands Ethyl Meatplow and the Geraldine Fibbers), Johnny Cash, Cat Power, the Clash, the Cure, Blur, the Breeders, Depeche Mode, the Dresden Dolls, Elliot Smith, Fishbone, Fugazi, Gillian Welch, the Gossip, Hole, Inxs, the Jam, Jane's Addiction, Jeff Buckley, the Jesus and Mary Chain, Liz Phair, Led Zepplin, New Order, Nick Cave, Nina Simone, Nine Inch Nails, Nirvana, Pixies, PJ Harvey, Portishead, the Pogues, Pulp, Rasputina, REM, Roxy Music, Sinead O'Connor, the Sisters of Mercy, the Smashing Pumpkins, the Smiths, the The, the Throwing Muses, U2, the Velvet Underground, the Violent Femmes, the White Stripes, X.

Art:
generally, I'm very fond of baroque, medieval, gothic, art noveau, mexican folk, outsider, assemblage and installation art and early photography. I'm a figurative rather than abstract kind of girl (seeing a pattern here?).

I'm enchanted by--
Joel Peter Witkin, Frida Kahlo, Julia Margaret Cameron, Marc Ryder, Henry Darger, Martin Johnson Heade, Gustav Klimt, Aubrey Beardsley, Joseph Cornell, Barbara Kruger, Jenny Holzer, Chiho Aoshima, Bartolome Esteban Murillo, Lucian Freud.

food:
mmm. I like strong/complex flavors, just about any "ethnic" food, including Thai, Indian, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Ethiopian, Italian, French, Trinidadian, Malaysian, Afghani, Middle Eastern, as well as chi-chi noveaux American, gourmet comfort food, really good burgers, high quality chocolate in all its forms, the 4 element salad, vinegary anything and sweet, sweet carbs of all kinds. I'm also a proponent of humanely and sustainably raised meat and dairy, as well as local, organic and heirloom foods.
The six things I could never do without
chocolate. fiction. hair products. my bed. alone time. hot water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
cooking.
relationships of all sorts.
how to be a better teacher/parent/sister/daughter/friend/­​lover/person.
history and culture.
traveling.
the meaning of musical lyrics.
politics and social justice.
the most efficient/quick way to get from point A to point B or to run the most current set of errands.
literature.
why people have the most inane possible conversations on the bus.
my own cognitive functioning.
how to get the most possible sleep.
where we draw our moral/ethical lines.
teh internets.
kink.
sex, of course.
On a typical Friday night I am
either sacked out on the couch watching movies/tv/reading and loving up my kitty (not a euphemism) or out on the town--movies, burlesque, parties, dinner, music, the CSPC...

or, now, lending a hand with my sweetie's baby. wheee!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
romance novels and "women's magazines" fascinate me.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you have something to say.