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21 Indianapolis, IN Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jun 28
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Working on university
Seeing Someone
Mostly monogamous
Has a kid, and wants more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly), Irish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm great at using words. I'm not great at using words to write a self-summary.

If you think we would hit it off, just message me. Start a conversation. I might not respond, I might take awhile to respond, I might respond right away. It's not personal.

My life is chaotic, and I prioritize getting to know people I've known for a bit (or a while) over meeting new people, right now. That's just where I'm at.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm raising my son, working at a local chain brewhouse, and following my many transient passions.

I love the city with all my heart, but I'm working towards getting my hands on a little bit of land in the country and homesteading. I'll be the best liberal, yuppie, vaguely hipster prairie wife ever.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Expressing my thoughts verbally, making friends with cats, planning and Type A organizing, and then falling through on said plans and cluttering up said organization.

Nearly everything I learn I absorb through reading. I'm really. fucking. good at retaining information I read. It's what makes me a competent server.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile, my laugh.
My aesthetic garners a few looks, if I'm rocking my soft grunge duds.
Or, if I have my son, Rowan, with me, they notice the adorable blond monkey I'm chasing down, pulling off shelves, or digging into the dirt with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read too much. If I start reading in the same room as you, you will have to pry the book from my hands for me to even remember you are there.
I enjoy sporadically reading about sexual psychology, sociology, paleoanthropology, linguistics, sustainability, ecology, and culture/gender issues.

I love a lot of fiction books, so I'll get back to you on a better list, but for now: Annie On My Mind, Looking For Alaska, East of Eden, A Spot of Bother, A Hundred Years of Solitude, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage.
Also, poetry. I love Pablo Neruda, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, and Bo Burnham.

Movies: Submarines, TransAmerica, Lost and Delirious, Nothing, The Breakfast Club, Celeste and Jesse Forever, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Wristcutters, Groundhog Day, Lost In Translation, Lars And The Real Girl, Moonrise Kingdom, We Need To Talk About Kevin, Away We Go.

I can get down to most music. Here's a slightly arbitrary list of bands I really enjoy on my iPod:
Alexisonfire, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Awolnation, Balance And Composure, The Black Keys, Brand New, Bright Eyes, Built To Spill, Chance the Rapper, Childish Gambino, Citizen, Coheed and Cambria, The Damned Things, Doomtree, The Doors, Every Time I Die, Fall Out Boy, Fleetwood Mac, Foxy Shazam, Fun., The Head and the Heart, Jack White/everything he's ever done, Kool AD, Mumford and Sons, Rival Sons, Say Any thing, Straylight Run, Sublime, Taking Back Sunday.

I eat a high fat/low carb diet. I try to eat whole, unprocessed foods. I'm obsessed with finding and trying exotic and heirloom produce.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Live music
2. My son and brothers. I have 3 younger brothers. The eldest is 15 and probably my best friend.
3. My animals.
4. Caffeine
5. Walks, preferably at night, and while just a little messed up.
6. My books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Random, vaguely esoteric plans I have for my future.

Alternates for said plans.

The fact that when a scientist studies atoms, it is a group of atoms banding together to study other atoms. Maybe the point of human existence is atomic social research.

I think about myself a fair bit. I'm both narcissistic and painfully self-aware, and began a few months ago to iron out the bits of me I'm not proud of. It's less about being better, more about being authentic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My son goes to his dad's for the weekend, so after work you can usually find me at a brewery in Indy, or a friends' house with a 6 pack. Or fast asleep, since I serve at a brewpub. My afterwork starts at 11 or 12.
I don't really party so much as smoke and amuse myself with friends. We go get food, make a ruckus, listen to music. Bonfires, long drives. Typical mellow small-town stoner bullshit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I use this section as a disclaimer. If honesty makes you uncomfortable, don't try to talk to me. I'm so helplessly honest. I have lied, I will lie in the future. But I don't have it in me to not be forthright about important shit.

Here' s my actual most private thing I will admit: I have been homeless, and spent a long time couch-surfing. When I was in my late teens, I found myself failing cyclically.

Predictably, I made lots of shitty decisions, and one decision that led to my son. He woke me up a little. I'm still waking up. I might always being trying to wake up all the way. My family history with mental illness could fill a book.
I'll never stop trying, but I also might always be very particular about a few issues.

I don't open up about my business, but I don't hide it either.
You should message me if
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If you dig things like:
-people-watching and subsequent people-judging
-sarcasm, sass, snark, insults, comebacks, erroneous character assassinations, pretensions, and playing pretend
-poetry, prose, art, music, theatre, film. I am the least artistically talented person in most rooms, which doesn't stop me from LOVING art.