i'm all about balance, or i try to be at least. i laugh too loudly at inappropriate moments. i'm not much of a morning person but hate sleeping late and feeling like i've wasted the day, so i tend to be an avid napper. i'm a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants cook, screw the recipe book! i'm smart but haven't finished school, which is one of my biggest insecurities if i'm going to be honest with you. i am goofy, witty, have a twisted sense of humor. i'm a realistic optimist who would rather ask "why not" than "why".

i'm in an awesome polyamorous relationship with frolfguy. our intent and desire is to build long-lasting relationships and community around us... with that said we are also down to get down (together and separately). i've yet to have a real relationship with a lady that extends beyond the bedroom but i'm excited to explore that reality too.

i'd really love to get to know more people and build new friendships, so please don't be afraid to say "hello" even if it's just for platonic coffee dates and people watching.

i'm silly, honest, smart and can be ridiculously exuberant!

i am in a transitional place right now, trying to appreciate it for what it is without getting trapped or weighed down by it. i am focused on becoming clear on my direction and goals.
also. raising two totally awesome kids, they're strange but i like them.

putting my foot in my mouth.

being punny, making random (yet completely relevant) pop culture references. i bet i could get you to play a game of tennis in the middle of a sporting store. i can defuse a situation just as easily as i can instigate one. i can get people to open up and talk, i think that is my favorite 'thing' i'm really good at.

making things happen- i can organize and execute plans pretty well. once i decide what i want, i find a way to make it happen.

mostly i am good at being a friend.

i suppose it would be my eyes, i get the most compliments on them. i also have a crazy loud and genuine laugh that everyone notices.

books: i love palahniuk and robbins. i also enjoy
Augusten Burroughs, C. D. Payne, A. M. Homes, Hunter S. Thompson, Neil Gaiman, David Sedaris and Douglas Coupland. i enjoy Ellis, but he scares the shit out of me.
Sex at Dawn, The Ethical Slut, Dancing at the Shame Prom, It's Not the Stork...

movies: the princess bride is the best movie. ever. i dig on heist movies, good dramas and smart comedies and awesomely bad movies.

music: my roots are firmly based in classic rock- i was raised with the grateful dead, zeppelin, floyd, fleetwood mac, tom petty, janis joplin, the beatles etc. but i'm into most everything from kanye to m. ward

food: i love home cooked meals and really like my veggies. i'm almost always up for sushi or mexican food.

i enjoy these things for my own reasons and i'm not a snob about them... please don't be a snob about the things you enjoy to read/watch/listen to/eat.

my people, love, quiet time, touch, challenge and laughter.

sex... guilty as charged- but it's so much more than just thinking about DOING 'it'
lately...
... people... health... how to help/serve (even in the simplest of ways)... family dynamics... food... school... goals... communication... randomness...

curled up with a good book or movie or hopefully with a house-full of friends: talking, laughing, cooking, drinking wine and being silly.
i'm not into the bar or club scene so you won't find me there.

i'm a pretty open person, if you ask i'll more than likely answer.

also:
except for a brief six-month stint when i was four, i have lived in the south bay area my whole life. i have never been to the Winchester Mystery House... there, i said it.

i like good vibes, positive energy, quirky personalities and people with open minds and hearts. please message me if you have those.

i am not interested in over-indulged egos, lifted trucks, superficial tendencies or people with brainwashed ideals of what is 'socially acceptable', 'normal', or 'beautiful'.