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35 Chicago, IL Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 5" (1.96m)
Body Type
Full figured
Other but it’s not important
Dropped out of Space camp
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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We don't often sit down to summarize ourselves, do we? To find wrapping for ourselves that is both aesthetically pleasing and fits the package snugly. To make sense of the tangle of wires in the drawer of our head. Our kind and clever hosts that think Cupid is OK, however, feel that we should and I intend to oblige them.

I am giving this profile a complete overhaul because I am changing. I feel it, maybe it's what some people call growing up, maybe it's just gas. I express myself in odd ways, I take music to heart, I like to pretend. I think that life is nothing without a curious disposition and a song in the heart, that people need to share more, and that when it comes right down to it, you, dear reader, is all that matters.

So in short, I'm someone of eclectic and varied tastes who self-identifies as a geek. I am: a gamer of the roleplaying and board/card variety; a budding costumer; a lazy writer; a city-dweller who loves every dirty, dusty corner of this strange city; an explorer in the fields of good music; a dilettantish historian; a lover of the English language; and a consummate compiler of semicolon-separated lists.

When I grow up, I want to be some hithertofore unseen hybrid of Oscar Wilde, Noël Coward, and Klaus Nomi.

Lately, I find myself examining the fine detail of life, opening it up and examining the gears, springs, and quartz of it. It looks like it needs a little adjustment, so I'm in the process of taking out my tools and putting on the loupe to make it run even more spectacularly than before.

I am keeping, things, and interesting
What I’m doing with my life
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Working for an awesome, prominent local internet concern. Yes, that one that you may not have known was local because it seems ubiquitous. I really adore it, warts and all.
In other news, I'm expanding my horizons and taking risks, what could be more exciting?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Spatial relations, e.g, I can remember the layout of any building I can remember being in. I listen, I put people at ease. Using the resources at my disposal to get answers or results. I laugh, I'm sarcastic, I follow directions like a star, I give advice on everything, and I'm always finding the best in things and people.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm more slyly sardonic than most people my age. Also, taller. People seem to really pick up on that last bit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything by Neil Gaiman or H.P. Lovecraft, folklore and fairytales, plays, mysteries, fantasy and sci-fi, and anything I can find that bends my brain in new and creative ways. I wouldn't want to live in a world un-lampooned by David or Amy Sedaris, unobserved by Sarah Vowell, or without the culinary instruction of Alton Brown. I need to read more steampunk, but my interest really transcends the "books" category. I realize that I'm not conventionally "well read," but I'm trying to work on that. If pop culture weren't so darned interesting, it'd be easy! I'm genuinely open to suggestions.

Movies: Some currently circulating faves include Life of Pi, Looper, Cabin in the Woods, Clue, Velvet Goldmine, (most) anything by Terry Gilliam, Labyrinth, etc. If it's deeply evocative/emotional or hopelessly nerdy, mind-blowingly fantastical or breathtakingly beautiful, I probably like it.

Shows: In fandom (I know, shut up) terms, Doctor Who is my show. I know an embarrassing amount about the world it occupies and by extension a lot about how TV was made in the UK from 1963-1989 and then again from 2005-the present. Also a lot of the present UK favorites like Sherlock and Downton Abbey and genre classics like Buffy, Angel, Firefly, Star Trek, etc. My geekiest act ever was watching the canon of Star Trek in roughly in-universe chronological order. I followed this up by watching The X-Files in it's entirety, complete with the movies and the show with one of the worst theme tunes ever, the Lone Gunmen spinoff (so much to say about this, too much for here.) I've been through my Fringe, Dollhouse, and Battlestar Galactica periods in the last few years, and am now in a period of journeying BEYOND THE FIELDS OF GENRE TELEVISION! We shall see where this leas me.

Music: I have an undying love for Kate Bush, but I'm always exploring new music in genres I enjoy (right now it's me alternating between The Killers and Interpol depending on whether I'm feeling bombastic or pensive, with a soupcon of Ryan Adams who I feel is one of the most perfect singer-songwriters of our generation) and unlocking the joy that is well-done mashups. Otherwise, my musical tastes run the gamut from Tom Waits to TMBG to Ultravox to the Tiger Lillies and is very hard to classify. I like music with depth and meaning, often on the slightly dark side. I'm currently hung up on Sarah Bareilles and her amazing capability to effect emotion in even a stone. And because her song Brave is the anthem a generation of disconnected, inward-looking people need.

Food: Honestly, I suck at answering this question. My job puts me in contact with a ton of different cuisines on a daily basis, so I just can't make up my mind. But I am very food-adventurous, always have been. I'll try almost anything once.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Freedom, imagination, style, grace, companionship, and skeleton keys.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Coming into my own. My own agency, my own style, my own...serenity. I'm not sure I care how corny that sounds.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to cram some relaxation in before getting up blindingly early on Saturday for work. Every other weekend, that is. That's kind of a long story, actually. Would be pleased to tell you all about it!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am prone to being addicted to Facebook games. Not to "consume my life" levels, but I get a bit twitchy if I can't at least check in on however many I may be playing at least once daily. That number right now: 1.

Also, I moisturize.
You should message me if
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Your common sense and your whimsy are good friends that know when to let each other shine. Or you love Doctor Who. Or if you know and can teach me the secrets of Korean food. Why all of the little sides? Bonus points for devil-may-care androgyny, the Undercut, and nerve.