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49 M Asheville, NC

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  • Ages 21–99
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 22
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I have decided to find and live my authentic life. For me at present that starts with reconnecting to suppressed feelings / parts my heart that went unacknowledged during my childhood socialization process by my family and cultures of origin. This process feels well underway as of Sept 2014.

I feel deeply connected to nature. I like to take steps so that I share nearby outdoor space with useful perennial plants, wild plants and wild animals.

Sometimes I call myself an auto didact meaning I have interests in many subjects and I love to learn / self teach to explore & discover in a wide range of topics.

In one of my roles I serve as a teacher and I have recently become enthralled with democratic schools and sudbury model schools and A.S. Neill's Summerhill School. Presently I think founding or working in a democratic school might be loads of fun.

I see myself as moral, adventurous, creative, ambitious, and sensual.

I aspire to take steps daily toward the goal of leaving the parts of the Earth that I connect with better off than I found them.

Sometimes I describe myself as a blend of an artist and an engineer.

The Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indicator classified me as an ENTP.

On the big five personality inventory i scored as follows.O76-C41-E79-A38-N49 Big Five!!

On Sam Gosling's Need for Uniqueness test / instrument I obtained the following result I'm 77% freak!!

According to some website assessment my primary love language is Physical Touch (scored 12 of possible 12).
What I’m doing with my life
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Everyday I choose the path that expands my emotional intelligence. In my view many men formed in my cultures of origin have little knowledge of some of their important internal feeling states (such as sadness and grief) and motivations. I choose not to live that way so I choose experiences that induce submerged emotions and integrate the feeling states I rediscover into my life. I see that my childhood experiences actively suppressed the development of key emotional self knowledge skills. I reject the multitude of rough and subtle ways I was socialized away from experiencing and knowing my feelings as a child. Active listening to the emotional messages of my students has helped immensely to reconnect with and integrate all my feeling states.

Identifying my life purpose. With the help of Barbara Sher's books especially Wishcraft: How to get what you really want.Click this text to jump to Amazons page for Wishcraft

Link to Barbaras website. Click this text to jump to Barbara's website

I attend a Men's support group.

Clarifying my values freedom of thought / conscience, Ecology, Democracy, Equality, Diversity, and Fun or Play so I may put my values into action.

I strive to vitalize, deepen and democratise the meaning of relationship and use that expanded relationship model to foster authentic community. I intend to have my relationships operate openly and non-monogamously (aka polyamory) Operationally this means my agreements with my partners protect each partners freedom to choose how they relate to others. Simply stated we all have the right to have additional sweeties / romantic relationships. I intend use honest communication and transparency to foster intimacy and communication in these relationships

I see the idea of "mainstream American Culture" as a fabrication packaged and sold by the corporate media and other elites as a means of social control.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Community Organizing: I co-founded a PIRG (Public Interest Research Group) while I was in college.

Understanding complex systems (biological, physical, technological, social). Diagnosing & repairing systems. Fixing mechanical things.

Thinking creatively. Having new / interesting ideas.

Sensual Massage: It has been said that I have a lot of energy in my hands. I think I may be good at giving massages because I know what I like and I pay close attention to how my friends respond to my touch. I also see myself as committed to asking for consent and rechecking to be sure I still have it.

Finding Win Win solutions to conflicts / apparent conflicts.

Seeing situations from other peoples perspectives.

Allowing people to make their own decisions.

Perhaps in part as a result of my efforts to expand my knowledge of my feelings I see myself as getting better at inferring peoples emotional states from facial expressions & body language & brief vocal cues.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Curly somewhat blond hair.
My mid pitch (Countertenor) voice.
Blue eyes.
I dress to please myself (colorfully) and for comfort.
I like to laugh and clown around.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The books below have positively transformed the way I relate with my students, my friends and myself. I highly recommend them.

Tears & Tantrums: What to do when babies and children cry by Althea Solter.

Parent Effectiveness Training (2000 or later edition) by Thomas Gordon (also writes on Leader & Teacher Effectiveness)
Click this text to visit Gordon Training (Author's) Website

Between Parent & Child (1965), Between Teacher and child (1972) (I see these as great resources for both parents and teachers.) both by Dr. Haim G. Ginott

Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional life of Boys by Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson.

Most anything by Robert Heinlein.

Inspiring persons in my life: William A. McDonough author of Cradle to Cradle: Remaking the way we make things.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A healthy, integrated ecology to live in. Nature. Clean air & water.

Vegetables, wild critters.

People to talk with, learn from & marvel at.

Peace, freedom of speech, rule of law.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How we as a species can establish a culture that nurtures freedom and expands the beauty, diversity and viability of our planet.

How to create a cost effective zero carbon ecologically sound school that entwines with nature.

My interests include: energy efficiency, solar energy, molecular nanotechnology, intentional communitiy, cryonics, bioregionalism, sustainability, green living, life extension, eprime, attachment parenting, non-violent communication, history of science history of technology, permaculture, edible landscaping, Discordianism. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
Keywords for searches: Buncombe county north carolina transparency, openness, eco-building, ecovillage, sustainability, tantra, sex-positive, sacred sexuality, polyamory

Affiliations: Mensa, Union of Concerned Scientists, Green Party
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Preparing for an outdoor adventure. At a cultural event.

Planting maintaining the edible perennials in my organic orchard and forest micro farm.

Also I like attending the Impromtu Improv Workshp in West Asheville (find it on meetup) Saturday's at noon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I seek friends to share the adventure of co-creating memorable experiences with.

Relationships usually work better for me when they begin with a meeting of minds them go onto the other yummy stuff.

As of this moment my preference is to live in or near Asheville NC. And the Pacific Northwest calls to me in my dreams.

I intend to do something that scares me every day.
You should message me if
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You want to.

You have found something in this profile that interests you?

I would love to hear about your intellectual (or other) passions. Tell me what you've been studying, what surprised you to learn, what you love about a subject. Tickle my mind :). Tell me about a marvel of nature that makes your heart sing or a way of interacting with the physical world that makes you thrilled to have a body.

You might like to go on a walk, hike, bike ride, canoe or other nature or cultural exploration in the beautiful WNC region.

You have something to say that you think is interesting.