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katuah

50 Asheville, NC Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 15
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I choose to be authentic, present and vulnerable.

I like to connect with nature.

I possess the spirit of an explorer.

Sometimes I describe myself as a blend of an artist and an engineer.

The Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indicator classified me as an ENTP.

According to some website assessment my primary love language is Physical Touch (scored 12 of a possible 12). I see touch a means to achieve transformation and healing.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Expanding my emotional self knowledge. Active listening to the emotional messages of my students has helped immensely to restore access to my emotions.

Discovering my life purpose. With the help of Barbara Sher books website. Click this text to jump to Barbara's website

I co-facilitate a Men's support group in Asheville.

Clarifying and applying my values freedom of thought / conscience, Ecology, Democracy, Equality, Diversity, and Fun or Play .

I strive to vitalize, deepen and democratize the meaning of relationship and use that expanded relationship model to foster authentic community. I intend to have my relationships operate openly and non-monogamously (aka polyamory) Operationally this means my way of being with my partners protects each partners sovereignty including the freedom to choose how they relate to others. Simply stated we all have the absolute right to love more or play more by have additional sweeties / romantic relationships / friendships. I intend use heartfelt communication and transparency to foster intimacy and communication in these relationships

I see the idea of "mainstream American Culture" as a fabrication packaged and sold by the corporate media and other elites as a means of social control.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Community Organizing: I co-founded a PIRG (Public Interest Research Group) while I was in college.

Understanding complex systems Diagnosing & repairing mechanical artifacts.

Thinking creatively. Having new / interesting ideas.

Healing Touch / Massage: It has been said that I have much energy in my hands. I think I may be good at touch because I pay close attention to how my friends respond to my touch.

Seeing situations from other peoples perspectives.

Allowing people to make their own decisions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Curly somewhat blond hair.
My mid pitch (Countertenor) voice.
Blue eyes.
I dress to please myself (colorfully) and for comfort.
I like to laugh and clown around.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love homemade Chinese food.
The books below have positively transformed the way I relate with my students, my friends and myself
(basically everybody). I highly recommend them.

Tears & Tantrums: What to do when babies and children cry. by Althea Solter.

Parent Effectiveness Training (2000 or later edition) by Thomas Gordon (also writes on Leader & Teacher Effectiveness)
Click this text to visit Gordon Training (Author's) Website

Between Parent & Child (1965), Between Teacher and child (1972) (I see these as great resources for both parents and teachers.) both by Dr. Haim G. Ginott

Most anything by Robert Heinlein.

Inspiring persons in my life: William A. McDonough author of Cradle to Cradle: Remaking the way we make things.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My body.

People to talk with, learn from, marvel at and love.

A heart connection to a healthy, integrated ecology. Nature.

Vegetables, wild critters.

Peace, freedom of speech, rule of law.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How we as a species can reestablish a culture that nurtures freedom and expands the beauty, diversity and viability of our planet.

How to create spaces for people that entwine with nature.

My interests include: profitable energy efficiency especially in home design and construction, solar energy, molecular nanotechnology, intentional community, cryonics, bio-regionalism, sustainability, green living, life extension, eprime, attachment parenting, non-violent communication, history of science history of technology, permaculture, edible landscaping, Discordianism. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
Keywords for searches: Buncombe county north carolina transparency, openness, ecovillage, sustainability, healing touch, polyamory.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Preparing for an outdoor adventure. At a cultural event.

Planting maintaining the edible perennials in my organic orchard and forest micro farm.

I like attending the Impromtu Improv Workshp in West Asheville (find it on meetup).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I intend to do something that scares me every day.

I seek friends to share the adventure of co-creating memorable experiences with.

As of this moment my preference is to live in or near Asheville NC. And the Pacific Northwest calls to me in my dreams.

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You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You desire to.

To share your intellectual (or other) passions. Tell me what you've been studying, what surprised you to learn, what you love about a subject. Tickle my mind :).

If you will tell me about a marvel of nature that makes your heart sing or a way of interacting with the physical world that makes you thrilled to have a body.

You have anything to say that you experience as interesting.