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28 San Diego, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 20-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 14
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 7" (1.71m)
Body Type
Full figured
Atheism and it’s important
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
*Please read the "Edit" section at the end of my profile before messaging me.*

Okay, lets try this again.

First off, you should know that I am polyamorous and married. My husband is aware of and consenting to all of my activities. I also have a long distance boyfriend/Dominant. I'm a nerdy, kinky girl and I'm looking for someone, or several someones, to explore with. I identify as a submissive and I would like to find someone who would like to come with me on my kinky adventures.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a married woman living in San Diego. I'm trying to figure out what path to take next in my life, but for now I'm a nanny.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Doing my makeup. Snuggling babies to sleep. Editing papers. Getting lost in novels. Deep cleaning. Shining shoes. Listening. Sleeping. Spending a lot of time on the internet.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People usually notice either my unusual eye color or my perfectly smooth skin.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The human body and how it works. Also, how to fix it when it doesn't work properly.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at home catching up on TV shows with my husband or out at a kink community event.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It's not terribly private, but you should know that I'm polyamorous and a submissive.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you're looking for a casual partner or a poly relationship. If you're dominant in the bedroom, but know how to also cultivate an egalitarian relationship. If you're looking for a friend as well as a play partner.

***Edit: After a week on this site I feel that I need to add a section on who should not message me. Please do not message me if our compatibility rating is less than 70% unless you have a very good reason why you think we would make good partners. I want to hear those reasons in your first message. Do not message me if you are a virgin. I'm not a stepping stone and I do not appreciate being treated like a tool to fulfill a goal. Do not message me if you don't respect women and are not a feminist. We will not get along. Please don't message me if you're not kinky. Certainly do not message me if you are in a relationship and your partner is not aware and consenting to you having outside relationships. You need to work all that business out with your partner, and I will not get caught in the crossfire. Please use proper grammar and punctuation in your messages. It's very difficult for me to see past an unintelligible message to the person behind it. Do not be disrespectful. Negging is not a valid courting strategy. Do not come on too strong as a Dominant. I do not owe you anything. We have not met yet and I am not your property.

I'm sorry if all this sounds harsh, but I've received a lot of messages from people that I'm clearly not remotely interested in and it's taking up a lot of my time. I value my time and I'm looking for something pretty specific.