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My self-summary
I'm a thirty-something geek girl living in mid-Michigan with my two cats, quietly going on about my business and trying to get out of retail. Anything else you'd like to know will probably come out better in conversation, as I'm not always great at coming up with things to say about myself off-the-cuff. I'm generally good at answering questions and thinking of details in context, though, so if you're the type who likes to (politely!) interview people you meet, that would probably work out pretty well for both of us. Just keep it clean.

I'm polyamorous, am currently seeing a couple people, and don't intend to stop doing so. If you want a little more information on polyamory, check this link out: http://www.lovemore.com/faq.php#wip . I am also still married, though my husband and I no longer live together. We're still friends, though, and keep in regular contact.

A lot of things in my life are changing right now. As such, I really do NOT have the emotional energy to spare for dates or playmates, and ESPECIALLY not random hookups (which I wouldn't be interested in even if circumstances were different). However, friends are (almost) always welcome. And that's "friends" in the strictly platonic sense, by the way, not the "I'll shower you with compliments in the hopes of stepping it up to sex talk" way in which some guys seem to mean it. In other words, I'm not looking.
What I’m doing with my life
-Contemplating going back to school, possibly for a sociology degree. Well, more like contemplating WHEN to go back to school. It will happen, eventually; it's just a matter of money.

-Trying to decide which of the seven deadly sins is my favorite. It's currently a tie between lust and sloth, with pride as a close second, gluttony in third, and greed, envy, and wrath bringing up the rear, in no particular order.

-Internet. Lots and lots of internet. I have a lot of downtime, lately (see above), and it fills that time nicely. Plus, most of my friends and family live far away, so that's a good way to keep in touch with everyone.

-Growth, self-discovery, all that good (and sometimes not-so-good) stuff. I've been through a lot of changes in the last few years, and I'm still making sense of some of them.
I’m really good at
Understating things in a way that, inexplicably, seems to make people laugh; long conversations (and short ones, too); listening; guessing what time it is within fifteen minutes either way; problem-solving; waking myself up at or before a specific time without an alarm clock; cheering people up; writing; looking like I'm up to something; being straightforward, but tactful and diplomatic; giving good advice; seeing all sides of an issue; over-analyzing things; filling out corsets; cooking and baking (when I'm not too lazy to do so); Scrabble (and a good number of other games, both card and board); not taking myself too seriously; finding the proverbial silver lining; using semi-colons; and quite a few other things you won't find out about unless I really like you. Interpret that as you will :D
The first things people usually notice about me
No one has really said, so I haven't thought about it much. My hair, I guess, and my glasses. Maybe my nose ring. Perhaps I should ask people who've actually met me in person if they have better answers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll read (nearly) anything you put in front of me, though I often prefer fiction over non-fiction (unless the non-fiction in question is about people, or a subject I'm particularly interested in). I enjoy everything from classic literature, to suspense, to scifi/fantasy, to romance novels, to horror, to popular fiction and back around to classic literature again. If it's interesting and well-written, I'll give it a chance.

As for movies...well, I seem to be afflicted with a sort of video-store amnesia, so there are TONS of films I've never seen. I'm not big on chick-flicks or (most) romantic comedies, but I do enjoy movies from most every genre. You can never go wrong with Mel Brooks or Monty Python, and I have a definite soft spot for comedy in general. I tend to like my movies to be more entertaining than thought-provoking, though there are definitely exceptions to that rule. It's just a different mind-set, sitting down to watch a film, than it is to settle in with a book. To me, movies are more of a social experience.

Music. Hmmm. I tend to default to classic rock, but I like music from pretty much every genre, and I love listening to things I've never heard before.

And...food. I will try nearly anything once. I figure...it's just food, right? If I don't like it, no one will make me eat it again, or even finish it the first time. What I prefer to eat depends largely on my mood, and I occasionally go through streaks where I crave a certain thing for weeks at a time. I assume it's just my body telling me I'm low on something, so I generally go with it.
The six things I could never do without
A sense of humor, my friends, opposable thumbs, love, bubble baths, and BOOKS.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
EVERYTHING. I am pretty sure there isn't any time of day (or night) that I'm not thinking about several things, of varying levels of importance, all at once. I have been told I think too much, in fact...which may be true. I'll have to think about that a bit more before I decide for sure ;)
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm home, I'm probably online, or possibly reading. Assuming I don't have company, that is. Usually, though, I'm working; I'm in retail, so Friday nights are busy.

I also sometimes visit the people I'm seeing, and sometimes go to parties, though these things are no more likely to happen on Fridays than any other day of the week. Lately, I've also picked up a D&D game that meets a couple Fridays (or sometimes Saturdays) per month, so there's a good chance that's where I'll be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"Bisexual" does not mean I will make out or have sex with another woman solely for a man's entertainment, nor does it make me some kind of automatic threesome service (this goes for MMF threesomes too, by the way). It simply means I've been attracted to some women and sometimes like to do something about it. I'd say I'm about a two on the Kinsey Scale, but I'm still pretty inexperienced in that arena, so it may be subject to change as I get to know myself better.
You should message me if
...you are capable of stringing together coherent sentences. Grammar, spelling, and good verbal/written communication skills are VERY important to me. I don't begrudge you a few typos or misspellings, especially if you seem intelligent otherwise, but text speak is ridiculous. If you don't care any more than that about what you say, then neither do I.

...you can keep up your end of the conversation, and don't expect me to do it FOR you. Why message someone if you have nothing to say?

...you've read--and UNDERSTOOD--my ENTIRE profile and think we may have some common interests. I DO take match percentage into account, and I definitely read your questions. That's what they're there for.

My good friend ElissaRene recently saw the term "sapiosexual" somewhere and shared it with me, because she thought it was neat. I agree. Here's a link: http://sapiosexual.com/ . So, being intelligent, witty, and articulate (this doesn't mean you need to have an advanced degree or be a walking encyclopedia) counts very heavily in your favor, so long as you don't try too hard or take yourself too seriously. Taking one's self too seriously is a big turn-off, for me.

ALSO: my being married, and simply being female and on the internet, does NOT mean I'm easy. I'm not looking for just a little "sex on the side", NOR do I have lower expectations for behavior and treatment than if I were single. If anything, they may be higher, since I have some pretty great people to compare it to, and I have very little time (or patience) for bullshit. That bullshit includes helping others cheat. I won't do it, so don't even ask me. No exceptions.

The aforementioned bullshit ALSO includes talking about your penis, or what you'd like to do with it. Keep your sexual fantasies and wishes to yourself unless I ask about them. If you wouldn't say it to a woman you are just meeting for the first time, in person, in a public place, do NOT say it to me uninvited. No exceptions.

Another thing you should keep to yourself unless I ask is your phone number. I do not text or call strangers, and I don't want anyone I don't know having my phone number so they can pester me night and day. No exceptions.