My husband and I are polyamorous, so, yes, he knows I'm here and I know he's here. There's no deception going on, nor will there ever be. This ALSO means I won't help YOU deceive YOUR partner(s). I'm not cheating, and I refuse to be complicit in anyone else's attempts to do so.
We are NOT swingers (not that there's anything wrong with that!), and we date as individuals, not as a couple/single unit. There's "package deal" contingency, here, and we won't be inviting you into our bedroom. That's not to say there will never be anyone we're both seeing (I try not to say "never", even when something seems incredibly unlikely). It simply isn't a situation either of us is looking for or drawn to. To me, a big point of poly is autonomy and self-discovery; it's difficult to explore different dynamics with different people if you and your S.O. are doing everything (and everyone) together.
If you want a little more information on polyamory, check this link out: http://www.lovemore.com/faq.php#wip
I have a pretty full plate, as I am currently seeing a couple of people in addition to being married. As such, I am NOT seeking dates or playmates, and ESPECIALLY not hookups. At all. However, friends are (almost) always welcome.