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28 Chatham, UK Transfeminine, Intersex, Non-binary

Transfeminine, Intersex, Non-binary

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:21am
Asexual, Queer, Pansexual
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So 28/F/Bi isn't quite right, I'd say it's more like
28 / nonbinary / queer asexual fetishist

I apologise for the lengthy profile text.

- I'm poly and have two absolutely amazing partners (EveAmandaDove and RequisiteApiary) who I live with!
- I'm a nerd-geek-thing, I'm queer, I'm a strict vegetarian for a variety of (mostly ethical) reasons, and I'm also pretty vegan for dietary and health reasons, but
- I'm not pushy about it with regards to other people's choices at all.
- I'm also neurodivergent - if this bothers you, don't bother.
- I have a pet rabbit, two guinea pigs and a cat! They're all adorable.
- I identify as trans and nonbinary; I do not appreciate the gender binary and prefer 'they' pronouns. I am also intersex.
- I am an asexual fetishist. This is the best description I have encountered for it yet.
- I like to read, although I haven't had as much time as I'd like to do some of it. I'm making an effort to find time to do more.
- I also like watching TV - lots of sci-fi, but plenty of other stuff as well.
- While I've selected that I smoke on here, it's pretty much strictly an ecigarette and not analogue smoking.
- I play my PS3 way too much right now, although my 3DS also gets a fair amount of use. I guess video games in general... I'm also quite sad about not yet having a PS4.
- I play nerdy games. With cards. And dice. They have more than six sides, usually.
- Although I'm not really religious, I'm a little bit Unitarian Universalist and a very dubious agnostic.
- I don't have any tattoos. Yet. But I will. I've more or less picked them out and everything.
- I like taking pictures of things. That doesn't make me good at it, and I don't pretend to be. Same with drawing - I like it, but I'm actually quite terrible! :P Trying to improve both though!
- I like to bake things. Sometimes I even get it right! (This has gotten significantly worse since I've started trying to bake vegan things, sadly.)
- I try to cook, too. It's more of a hobby than a skill :P
- I spend far too much time on tumblr blogging about all sorts of useless stuff, as well as a handful of intersectional activism.
- I'm afraid of spiders. And bees. And wasps. And mushrooms.
- I'm a feminist. If this is a problem, I don't really care.
- I like piercings. I have quite a few. I still want more. I also am now qualified to put holes in other people, too.
- I can't go a day without caffeine.
- You should probably know that I'm a loud-mouthed, argumentative nonbinary/trans/intersex activist. If you think people should hide or not talk about these things publicly, we probably won't get on :P
What I’m doing with my life
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Apparently, I now have a Computer Engineering degree, but that's entirely boring. I currently run my own business part time and have a job as a web developer; these are also entirely boring. I can also do body piercing. I'm also doing a part-time psychology course, because fuck Computer Engineering. I'm probably looking to change field to do something with Equality & Diversity or something even stupider soon.

I also intend to be moving to Brighton in 2015.

I also quite like the idea of buying a massive double decker bus and turning it into a house and living in it. I also really want to live in London. Sadly, these two things probably are not compatible.

In short, I have no idea what I'm doing but I intend to change it anyway.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making technology go, putting holes in people, fixing things with duct tape and rubber bands, writing lengthy profile text that no one wants to or will (or even should) read. Playing Pokemon, and other video games that I don't have time for.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm ginger, so the bright red hair probably comes first. Followed shortly by my accent (American, weaker, but not gone yet!). Also, piercings! ;) And the fact that I look like a cross between girly boy in makeup and a really butch girl most of the time - when I'm doing it right.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Science fiction, fantasy, spec-fic. Most recent favourite authors are Philip Dick and Cory Doctorow, although the list is obviously much longer than that. I'm about to start the third Hunger Games book as well. eBooks have rekindled (no pun intended) my love for reading, although I still own and buy lots of paper books.

TV: Sherlock, Torchwood, Doctor Who, Star Trek, Code Monkeys, IT Crowd, Fawlty Towers, Blackbooks, Blackadder, Stargate, The Apprentice, Come Dine with Me, Pokemon. Poirot, Peep Show, Hyperdrive, Red Dwarf... It's a long list. If it even vaguely fits in with the rest of the stuff on this list, I probably like it. If it has a fan following on Tumblr, it's most likely something I like. Yeah, I'm one of them.

Movies: Much the same. Science Fiction, Fantasy, etc etc. not to mention romantic comedies and silly emotional stuff.

Music: Seriously, I can't even begin to put this into words, I hate everything I write when I try. Instead,

Food: I like most things. I'm pretty vegan these days. I like spicier food. I like food in general. I enjoy eating. ALSO COOKIES.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
All my pets, which includes my partners.
Coffee and caffeine in a variety of forms.
My piercings.
Making lists of things.
Games console and/or mobile phone don't make me pick now come on really
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Gender, sexuality, society, technology, feminism, life, food, clothes, my friends, what I'm going to do at the weekend, what I'm going to do during the week, penises and vaginas, porn, the cute picture of a cat that just scrolled by on tumbr... and so on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably watching something on Netflix with EveAmandaDove and maybe RequisiteApiary as well (if she's not in Brighton) while eating ice cream, or having a few drinks with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I find my own fetishes scary, so it wouldn't surprise me if anyone else did too. Also I feel my use of the word fetish employs it's technical definition in a lot of ways.
You should message me if
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1. You're at all interested in the same things as me.
2. You like playing nerdy games and/or want to play them with someone.
3. Let me tell you about Homestuck (not really, that's more typing than I can probably be arsed with)
4. You have a FetLife account.
5. You want to chat.
6. You think I should follow you on tumblr.
7. You want to get coffee or go for a walk or just casually hang out even if it's just as friends ;p
8. You should probably be cool with trans people, queer people and poly people.
9. You're awesome.
10. You managed to read even a fraction of my annoyingly lengthy profile text, which I once again apologise for.

pi. Do NOT message me if you are not open minded and ok with queer & trans* people, I cannot stress this enough. ^.^

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