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  • Ages 30-48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5' 3" (1.60m)
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Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My profile is a work in progress, much like me. It's been awhile since I've revised it and it's a little too long. Or a lot too long. But if you've got a minute, have a read. And I do hope you'll say hello. Some things ARE worth your effort. I'm one of them.


I've been told I over-think things, and it's true. I'm a thinker. It occurred to me recently (while I was thinking, of course) that I've been over-thinking this whole dating thing. Pondering the who, the what if's, the when. Having a preconceived idea of who I'm looking for is not helping me meet new people. So, I'm going to step outside my comfort zone and stop defining so precisely who or what I'm looking for and just be open to whatever possibilities present themselves. So, don't be shy...say hello!

Now, let's talk about me. I want to inspire and be inspired by someone. To connect with someone on that level I've never been quite sure existed. I want to experience that moment where your heart skips a beat when your eyes meet. I want to share such an intimate connection with my partner that words are not necessary and a simple touch creates electricity. Am I a dreamer? Maybe. But I'd like to think that kind of relationship is possible.

I am an attorney and I spend my days immersed in law books and cases. But if I could earn a living from star-gazing I would choose that. My idea of a fabulous date would be just sitting by the ocean somewhere in the dark of night staring up at a sky full of stars.

I try to have an appropriate balance of confidence and humility. If anything, I am too modest. I am adventurous, love to laught and I'm a good kisser. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a work in progress and I try to always return to the mantra "progress not perfection." I recently heard this quote by Shunryu Suzuki-roshi and it really spoke to me: "All of you are perfect just as you are and you could use a little improvement."

Tenacity, determination, and sheer stubbornness are what keep me moving forward. In that regard, I subscribe to Neitzsche's philosophy that "that which does not kill us makes us stronger."

I thrive on learning. I may be one of the few people you will find willing to admit that I loved law school. The intellectual rigor, the challenge, even the exams. I'd go back in a minute. Sadistic, I know.

I'd love to travel more. There are so many things to do and explore in this world. I don't want to wait another minute to get going!

I've discovered the practice of yoga and really love how mindful and connected it makes me feel. Now if I could only get my mind to slow down long enough to figure out how to meditate...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking without a recipe; ordering take out when I should have stuck to a recipe; reading a map (back when we still needed those things); being a friend, not just everyday but when someone really needs it; I'm also good at giving things my all, sometimes to a fault.

A teacher once told me that she admired that I gave of myself so freely and expected nothing in return. I hold that as one of the greatest compliments I have ever received. I was in Fourth grade. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, my curly hair and my infectious laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As far as music goes, I really like a wide variety. I listen to hip hop when I'm working out or running. Otherwise, it is a mix of U2, Dave Matthews, Lyle Lovett, Dar Williams, Patty Griffin, Brandi Carlile, Ray LaMontagne, Keb Mo, Lucinda Williams, Amos Lee, A Fine Frenzy, Susan Tedeschi (have you heard her cover of Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's All Right"? I can't get enough of that song!), the Lumineers, Maroon 5, Sam Cooke, Johnny Cash, The Wailin' Jennys and everything in-between. Got suggestions for iPod must-have's? Let me know--I love exploring new and different artists and genres.

Seinfeld is probably my favorite sitcom ever. I'm convinced that everything that happens in life somehow relates back to an episode of Seinfeld. I still laugh no matter how many times I've seen an episode. I've recently started watching Mad Men and Dexter, which I love.

I love movies of all sorts from foreign flicks like Il Postino to oldies like The Apartment and Some Like it Hot, to dramas like A River Runs Through It, to comedies like Dumb and Dumber ("'re saying there's a chance..."), the Wedding Singer and Happy Gilmore.

As far as food, I was vegetarian for 14 years. I gave it up when it started to feel more like a punishment than a choice. But, I'm contemplating returning to a meat free diet as I'm trying to focus on cooking and eating nutrient dense whole foods. Kale anyone? ;) If I had to choose, I would say my fav's are Italian, Mexican and Thai. The spicier the better!

I don't read enough now. But some of my fav's are The Catcher in the Rye; The Little Prince; To Kill a Mockingbird; and, poetry by Pablo Neruda.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My iPod; lip balm; a goal to work toward; intimacy; the ocean; and, long slow kisses that last a week.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I've stopped thinking (see above).

But, when I was still doing that sort of thing, I often wondered:

Why people on here are never what they seem.

How we got here.

When did everyone on earth (except me, apparently) get rid of their tv's?

Has anyone ever really read this far in my profile?

What I should make for dinner.

If I should get another tattoo.

Why all of the beautiful people live so far away.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Continuing to develop an appreciation for good Belgian beer.

Or at home relaxing with my two dogs and trying to perfect my margarita (my most recent concoction was a pineapple, cilantro and jalapeño margarita...delish!)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I *might* be in love with Eddie Vedder.

I have an irrational fear of birds. Don't judge.

A few things I find sexy: confidence, tattoos, glasses, men with shaved heads, intelligence, a crisp white shirt, wit, a sense of style and expressive eyes.
You should message me if
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You are not intimidated by a smart, driven and successful woman.

You are a bald man with tattoos wearing a crisp white shirt and glasses. Yes, really.

You are Eddie Vedder.

You want to do something fun and spontaneous. Road trip? Rock climbing? Trying my spicy margaritas?

You want a workout partner.

You are wise beyond your years but still young at heart.

You can teach me the secret to meditating and can provide me with some gentle reminders to live in the moment. This moment...right here.

You want to explore and you like a challenge.

You agree that "you can't" is not a legitimate or acceptable answer--to any question.

You should not message me if you are my OKC stalker. You know who you are.