At this point in my life, I am more invested in meeting/dating women than men. Still, you never know...

I am: a bibliophile, an academic, a semi-retired circus performer (aerial silks), a burlesque performer, a dancer (background in ballet, bellydance, jazz, tap, modern, and a teensy bit of hip-hop), a pagan (solitary eclectic neo-wiccan witch with Dianic leanings), and often a paradox. I am never not busy. I like double negatives, but only on special occasions. I'm sometimes a hot mess.

In bed, I am a mouthy/bratty sub & masochist who is attracted to responsible/responsive/charming Doms. Oh, and I'm up-front about sex, so if you don't like this or if you identify as a prude, we won't get along. Promise.

Getting a PhD in sociology. When I'm done, I'd like to teach at a university & write books. Plan B: run away with the circus.

Being a smartass when I probably shouldn't be; spelling & grammar; kicking ass & taking names.

The mohawk or shaved head (seasonal hairstyles), glasses, the fabulous earrings, and the sarcasm.

Books (i.e. a much-condensed list from my Goodreads account): The Thirteenth Tale (Diane Setterfield); Cunt (Inga Muscio); Palimpsest (Catherynne Valente); Waking the Moon (Elizabeth Hand); Harry Potter series (J.K. Rowling); Wasted (Marya Hornbacher); White Oleander (Janet Fitch); Biting the Sun (Tanith Lee); Dangerous Angels (Francesca Lia Block); Black Light (Elizabeth Hand); Snow Flower and the Secret Fan (Lisa See); Echo (Francesca Lia Block); Alice's Adventures in Wonderland (Lewis Carroll); Garden Spells (Sarah Addison Allen); Water For Elephants (Sara Gruen); Bossypants (Tina Fey).....the list goes on

Music: Beats Antique, Dresden Dolls, Ani DiFranco, Emilie Autumn, Flogging Molly, Amanda Palmer, Amy MacDonald, The Beatles, Lady Gaga, Marilyn Manson, Emma Wallace

Movies: Amelie, The Mistress of Spices, Mirrormask, Chocolat, TiMER, Stranger Than Fiction, Fight Club, Love & Other Disasters, V For Vendetta, Love Actually, The Prestige, Secretary

Shows: Lost, Sex & the City, Scrubs, Glee, True Blood, Project Runway, The L Word, 30 Rock, The IT Crowd, America's Next Top Model, Archer, How I Met Your Mother, Downtown Abbey

In no particular order (& besides the basics like food/shelter/etc):

Love/affection/cuddles
The interwebs (no really - I'm totally addicted to that shit)
Books (always reading something)
Dancing (in the air, on the ground, underwater, wherever!)
Self-care
Glitter

Usually working but wanting to not be. (nerd alert!) Also often found reading radical feminists (the trans-inclusive kind, not the crazy anti-sex gender-essentialist variety!) curled up somewhere cushy, often with a hairless feline sleep-purring on top of me.

To strangers: when I was a kid, I ate fire ants on a dare. They were pleasantly spicy.

Once I get to know you better, there won't be much I won't be willing to admit.

you're queer-friendly, not heteronormative (and don't have to ask what this means), you don't look like a serial killer in your profile photos, & you're not an asshat. Also if you know what a manic pixie dream girl is (and if you're _not_ looking for one, because that shit is exhausting & unrealistic anyways).

Please say something more creative than "hey girl, what's up?" Only Feminist Ryan Gosling can get away with that kind of opening...your odds of getting a response go up dramatically if you a) get that reference, and b) follow the above advice.