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48 Black Mountain, NC Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:42am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Other, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Update October 2014: Ok, I guess I have to say it. Hear ye, Hear ye, to all who have ears to hear.... I am not here for a piece of ass, nor am I here for a one nighter, or a friends with benefits situation. I am here to find a friend, partner, and mate to build a life with... a partnership/relationship that with any luck will last the rest of my life. I know you probably don't believe me. Why would you right? I mean, I am a man. Well, at this point, I guess you should know, that if you aren't ready to be spoken to by a man who is honest, and candid, who doesn't have a hidden agenda, then perhaps you aren't actually ready for a real man. I'm sure there are plenty of boys out there you can waste your time with (and please do - I'm not judgy about that sort of thing), I'm just not one of them.

So Who am I? I’m John Cusack in nearly all his movies. Just in real life.

I'm a good man, with a big heart. I'm generous, maybe to a fault, kind, and honest. I'm also pretty smart, and can hold up my end of any conversation. I'm deeply spiritual, but not very religious. And if you need to classify me in terms of my politics, I'm pretty libertarian on social stuff, and clear headed on economics. I believe in a social safety net. My staunch Conservative friends, like me a lot, as do my bleeding heart liberal friends. Why? Because I believe in fairplay.

What am I looking for? I think all I want is a best friend, who makes me laugh, and who I find attractive, sexy – in her mind, in her heart, in her soul….and yeah, physically sexy to me too.

I’m not perfect, but I know my ‘attractiveness weight class’ so I’m not going to box outside of it…but I’m also not arrogant, or even egotistical. I’ve found that making friends is easier if you can keep them after you make them.

I know on many levels it’s a man’s world. And I understand that women get the short end of the proverbial stick all the time. So I empathize with that too. I guess I’m pretty protective about my ‘woman’ and my ‘kids’…and if you have kids…I would be protective with yours too. I don’t jump to assumptions or conclusions, and I’m patient, so if you are worried that I’m a rule the roost kind of guy, have no worries…I believe in organically growing a relationship. That means no additives or preservatives. :)

Why did I message you? If you aren’t initiating the contact, and I did, the reason is simple. I think we might hit it off. We could be friends. I think you are attractive. That is all. It’s not really a big thing to be a gentleman. I’m glad, at least for increasing the chances that I will find the most awesome of a partner…that not so many men even know what a gentleman is, let alone how to be one.

So, I've been at this awhile. I'm not tired of it, nor am I unhappy that finding a good friend, a woman that we have mutual chemistry, or that so many things are left to the pictures. But, I should tell you that, I believe in friends first. I believe in (and practice) honor and integrity, and I practice it. I work hard. And I adore the people in my life. I think that if you think what was written here is nice enough, and the pictures don't frighten you, give the universe/serendipity a chance. Let's just meet. No, you won't have to worry about anything. Just like when we were kids, I'm nice, kind and generous...and funny too. A cup of coffee, a simple exchange of getting to know each other...and let nature do the rest. Or make another connection in Asheville. I've helped a few folks find jobs, simply because I had a coffee date with someone. It didn't turn out romantically, and all we ever did was have coffee. But the whole "I'm going to meet the one true love forever" thing, can really build a pile of expectations that can only disappoint, when one of us just turns out to be...well, a human being, and not a fantasy.

To summarize, I'm a really good guy, with a great sense of humor, who loves to go out into the woods, or stay home and enjoy those comforts as well.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm being a father/Dad to my two children (ages 11 & 7). I'm building the North American operation for a Software company, that is based in Europe, so I work from home....and I also do some side technical/computer work here in town. I'm learning how to be a better man, who is more helpful, more empathetic and understanding, and less worried about the 'what if's' of life. I'm having fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Technology, Parenting, Reading, Listening, Laughing, Crying (during sappy movies), Thinking, Laughing, Questioning the Status Quo, and living up to my commitments. Oh yeah, and kissing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My presence. I have presence. Some have said my eyes, some have said my butt. A few have said my intelligence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love nearly all foods. My music tastes are eclectic, and probably the only type of music I don't listen to is Country. I don't watch television, but I do like cool TV shows that I can stream from Netflix. Recently, I liked Game of Thrones, and back in the day, Seinfeld. I am a movie buff, and own hundreds of movies. So anything Pixar, or Disney (due to my kids), which includes Phineas & Ferb. And for movie tastes, anything that provokes thought or deep feelings. The movie Serendipity all the way over to the Matrix. As for reading, I used to be a voracious reader, but lately, not so much. Books? I'm all over the place... Eckhart Tolle, Convo's with God, The Course in Miracles, the Tao Te Ching, The Art of War, Astrology, Tarot, anything spiritual.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love. My Children. Money. Spirituality. Water. Food. And Chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How our country got as messed up as it has? How my kids got to be so smart? Why I am so lucky? And lately, getting some new cool technology. Oh yeah, and what I'm gonna do with all the money I think I'm gonna make! Of course, I'm not the spend it before you have it guy...that was my 20's!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't have my kids, so looking for something fun to do with the right person.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I'm a hopeful romantic, and that I fall in love easy.
You should message me if
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You are interested in knowing more, and genuinely have the time to do two things: First, talk on the phone. Second, actually meet. I am a gentleman. So, I will not ever abuse the privilege of knowing your phone number.