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47 M Black Mountain, NC

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Last Online
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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Other, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Update December 19, 2013: Who am I? What do I want? Why did I message you? Gosh, so many questions, so little time.

Who am I? I’m John Cusack in nearly all his movies. Just in real life. I’m the good guy. Who might think too much. Yes, I own a car. And yes, I do have a job. Three actually. I’m an entrepreneurial guy. I’m the smart guy, the guy that thinks it through. I’m the guy that DOESN’T blurt out the thought that embarrasses the host, or you. I’m the guy that your girlfriends get jealous over, and tell their boyfriends why aren’t they more like me. So that would be thoughtful. I’m the guy that reaches into his pocket and gives the homeless person some money, not because I’m rich (I’m not) and not because I feel really bad for that person, but because I know, I empathize, I know what it means to get the help you didn’t see coming. And I’m grateful for that. I made a lot of money a few times, and well, lost it. The story is long, I won’t bore you, but it did change me. There was a time in my life where I could walk into a store and buy nearly anything I wanted. And pay cash. Now I enjoy thrift stores. Life changes us all. Embrace the good, understand the bad, and move on.

What do I want? I guess some people call it the fairy tale.

I think all I want is a best friend, who makes me laugh, and who I find attractive, sexy – in her mind, in her heart, in her soul….and yeah, physically sexy to me too.

I’m not perfect, but I know my ‘attractiveness weight class’ so I’m not going to box outside of it…but I’m also not arrogant, or even egotistical. I’ve found that making friends is easier if you can keep them after you make them.

I know on many levels it’s a man’s world. And I understand that women get the short end of the proverbial stick all the time. So I empathize with that too. I guess I’m pretty protective about my ‘woman’ and my ‘kids’…and if you have kids…I would be with yours too. I don’t jump to assumptions or conclusions, and I’m patient, so if you are worried that I’m a rule the roost kind of guy, have no worries…I believe in organically growing a relationship. That means no additives or preservatives. :)

Why did I message you? If you aren’t initiating the contact, and I did, the reason is simple. I think we might hit it off. We could be friends. I think you are attractive. That is all. It’s not really a big thing to be gentleman. I’m glad, at least for increasing the chances that I will find the most awesome of a partner…that not so many men even know what a gentleman is.

Update: June 2013: So, I've been at this awhile. I'm not tired of it, nor am I unhappy that finding a good friend, a woman that we have mutual chemistry, or that so many things are left to the pictures. But, I should tell you that, I believe in friends first. I am a gentleman. I believe in honor and integrity, and I practice it. I work hard. And I adore the people in my life. I think that if you think what was written here is nice enough, and the pictures don't frighten you, give the universe/serendipity a chance. Let's just meet. No, you won't have to worry about anything. Just like when we were kids, I'm nice, kind and generous...and funny too. A cup of coffee, a simple exchange of getting to know each other...and let nature do the rest. Or make another connection in Asheville. I've helped a few folks find jobs, simply because I had a coffee date with someone. It didn't turn out romantically, adn all we ever did was have coffee. But the whole "I'm going to meet the one true love forever" thing, can really build a pile of expectations that can only disappoint, when one of us just turns out to be...well, a human being, and not a fantasy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm being a father/Dad to my two children (ages 10 & 7). I'm building the North American operation for a European software company, as well as working with 2 other companies doing sales. I'm learning how to be a better man, who is more helpful, more empathetic and understanding, and less worried about the 'what if's' of life. I'm having fun.
I’m really good at
Technology, Parenting, Reading, Listening, Laughing, Crying (during sappy movies), Thinking, Laughing, Questioning the Status Quo, and living up to my commitments. Oh yeah, and kissing.
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence. I have presence. Some have said my eyes, some have said my butt. A few have said my intelligence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love nearly all foods. My music tastes are eclectic, and probably the only type of music I don't listen to is Country. I don't watch television, but I do like cool TV shows that I can stream from Netflix. Recently, I liked Game of Thrones, and back in the day, Seinfeld. I am a movie buff, and own hundreds of movies. So anything Pixar, or Disney (due to my kids), which includes Phineas & Ferb. And for movie tastes, anything that provokes thought or deep feelings. The movie Serendipity all the way over to the Matrix. As for reading, I used to be a voracious reader, but lately, not so much. Books? I'm all over the place... Eckhart Tolle, Convo's with God, The Course in Miracles, the Tao Te Ching, The Art of War, Astrology, Tarot, anything spiritual.
The six things I could never do without
Love. My Children. Money. Spirituality. Water. Food. And Chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How our country got as messed up as it has? How my kids got to be so smart? Why I am so lucky? And lately, getting some new cool technology. Oh yeah, and what I'm gonna do with all the money I think I'm gonna make! Of course, I'm not the spend it before you have it guy...that was my 20's!
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have my kids, so looking for something fun to do with the right person.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I'm a hopeful romantic, and that I fall in love easy.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are interested in knowing more, and genuinely have the time to do two things: First, talk on the phone. Second, actually meet. I am a gentleman. So, I will not ever abuse the privilege of knowing your phone number.