Been told that I'm a "charming, funny, clever, sexy, naughty, confident bit of Northern rough." Well, I always knew that, but I'm also a multi-lingual former teacher, lecturer, writer, traveller, rogue, vagabond, ne'er-do-well and troublemaker - a cynical, dry, sarcastic grump and an enthusiastic, sensitive, loving idealist with a dry sense of humour and a heart that is too big for its own good. Sometimes, I'm just a dickhead.

A part-time PhD, writing and travel. Training for the London Marathon.

languages
kissing
arguing
making decisions
brooding

My eyes
My accent

Books, films, music etc:
(books) The Road (recently); Yes, I cried when I finished it. Otherwise, too many to mention. (cinema) Amores Perros, Cinema Paradiso, Crash, Closer, The Godfather, Once Upon A Time in America, Leon, Nil By Mouth, Oldboy, The Deer Hunter, Dangerous Liaisons. (music) wide range of all genres: but my Desert Island Discs would be all of Led Zeppelin, Van Morrison and John Martyn and Thin Lizzy(food) Middle Eastern/ Mediterranean

music, computer, passport, contact, solitude, inspiration

My daughter, Rebeca.

There is no typical Friday night.

the most private thing I'm not willing to admit on here is of more interest, surely.

You're intelligent, kind, challenging, creative, adventurous, authentic, thoughtful, sexy, a bit scary, provocative, spiritual (but not religious or into crystals, healing and other such New Age mumbo jumbo), lefty-realist (proper socialist, i.e. not vaguely nice liberal and not SWP/Respect), slim or curvy but not overweight (unless you are Julie Burchill), well-travelled, self-aware (but not self-obsessed), like to explore London and other places, like markets and second-hand bookshops, like trains more than planes, like bicycles and walking (but find nice cars sexy).

You know the difference between "knowing your shit" and "knowing you're shit," You are not a Tory (exceptions at the end) and you do not get your politics from the Sun or the Daily Mail (no exceptions).

Sexually, you are adventurous and interested in new experiences and like to do daring, naughty things because it is thrilling and turns you on. However, you also like vanilla on the grounds that Ben and Jerry's vanilla is better than Wall's tutti frutti.

You should also message me if you are so hot that none of the above matters...