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kelly20901

43 / F / Bisexual / Available

Silver Spring, Maryland

Her Details

Last Online
Apr 18
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m).
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Executive / Management
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I've been told I make people feel at ease right away, like they've known me for years instead of minutes, so they feel totally accepted and comfortable. I am trusting and trustworthy, intuitive, sincere, enthusiastic, and at times emotionally intense. I can be impractical, outspoken, and occasionally impatient with reaching my goals. I often play therapist for my friends, and am the emotional rock for others. I’m a major liberal/ progressive/ socialist/ pacifist/ feminist, if you're conservative in any way chances are we won't get along.

I'm kinky, submissive, polyamorous, and looking to connect with poly folks for romantic/emotional connection, or for friendship. My partner and I are pretty new to polyamory so I'm serious about making friends, it is great to get others’ perspectives. So if you’re poly and think we could become friends, please drop me a line!

Sorry, no swingers or casual sex - no judgement I just don't have space in my life for that energy at this time. So your efforts will just be better spent on someone else.

I am compassionate, extremely self-aware, full of positive energy, non-judgemental, and open-hearted. I love to cuddle, am optimistic, spiritual, sensual, independent, and genuine. I enjoy and require alone time as well as connection and togetherness. I'm somewhat easily confused and indecisive. I am easy-going, affectionate, accepting of others, empathic, and peace-loving, I don't like to argue or debate. I am always kind to strangers, and I notice when others are or aren't. Sometimes I can be nervous and ungrounded, and in part I am looking to find someone who can at times help keep me grounded.

I seem really outgoing because I'm curious about people, and good at asking questions and active listening. But really I'm an introvert who needs to recharge regularly from contact with the outside world, while those inside my personal world are often the exception. I try to always be open, transparent, and take responsibility for my own stuff. Self growth & openness are vital to me, and in a partner I am seeking the same. I feel deeply and wear my heart on my sleeve, and have an inclusive heart, I love everyone on some level. I enjoy connecting deeply and from my heart with those who share my values and outlook.

I'm an INFP or ENFP depending when you run into me.
What I’m doing with my life
Practicing living in gratitude, mindfully embracing life as it is, learning about myself and accepting what I find, while attempting to become a better version of me. Connecting with others with my whole heart.

I aspire to live fearlessly, to be a better person in all ways, to use my life wisely and clearly in service to humanity, working on moving forward in my plans for that.
I’m really good at
Intuition of whether someone is the right kind of person for me. Connecting with people, sensing people's thoughts and emotions, active listening. Living in a space of trust, abundance, and optimism.
The first things people usually notice about me
Most often I hear, "you have the most beautiful smile!" I think people are noticing that I smile A LOT, and I make eye contact with them. I like to connect with people. Other frequent comments are that I'm kind and compassionate, a good listener, and easy to tell anything to.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I find this superficial and not important to me, as far as trying to overlap with others that I would like to build a connection with. I will say I am always reading, mostly non-fiction, and mostly personal growth books of some kind. I am not going to put undue attention here. If this bothers you, it may be a sign that we may not be a match!
The six things I could never do without
Personal growth
Love & friendship
Touch & cuddling
Laughter
Meditation
Dancing in the rain
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to meet people I'm truly compatible with - who are hyper-aware of others and the world around them, compassionate, kind, open-hearted and open-minded in every way, self possessed, independent, progressive, working on themselves to be the best they can be in every way (with emphasis on internal qualities).
On a typical Friday night I am
Grateful to have the whole weekend ahead of me to do whatever I choose.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In 2000, I was a surrogate mother for a gay couple. It was basically impossible for them to adopt because the laws are biased against them. So despite my overpopulation beliefs I made a big exception for them, and I'm glad I did.

Otherwise, I'm an open book, if we are hitting it off, ask me anything!
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are optimistic, open-hearted, open-minded and non-judgmental in every way. You are compassionate and kind, self-possessed, and independent You are stable, peaceful, and at peace with yourself and the world. You are exploring, learning, and growing into the best you can be.

You genuinely love yourself, and you find it vitally important to you that we have an emotional/friendship component to our connection.

You are interested in developing relationships centered on loving connection where all partners know and enjoy each other.

You are already in a polyamorous relationship, or you are poly/single and interested in friendship. No swingers please.