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kendaer

46 M Lynnwood, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:51am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Dislikes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
These sorts of summaries strike me as far too limiting. I'm a complex person and have facets of me that trying to recall here would never be able to do justice. Similarly, I view everyone else as complex people and recognize that there are shades and nuances which will never be perfectly captured in a description of this sort. However, in the interest of at least giving you *some* insight into parts of who I am, I'll will make the attempt.

However, I'll give it a shot anyway :) I'm a software engineer, kinky, pagan and polyamorous at heart. Those things are fairly integral to my view of myself, but aren't necessarily something I demand that friends (or partners) be, and I'm equally (if not more) interested in just meeting cool people as finding someone to be more intimate with over time. Of course, if you aren't able to interact with someone who holds those views, then it probably won't work out too well. I've tried however, in answering the match questions to make mandatory or very important questions that pertain to my views of the world in that respect. It doesn't always seem to work, but I do make the attempt :)

I think our government is going to hell in a handbasket and that a large number of people don't care. I'd love to see viable third-party candidates and consider myself a moderate centrist rather than anything else though in our current dual-party system I call myself a Democrat since I loathe the radical Republican agenda. I'm not too much a fan of the radical Democrats either, but if I had to choose between the two extremes, I'd lean toward the side with social liberalism. I'm definitely a social liberal and a fiscal conservative. I believe that we should be doing our best to make the country and the world a better and more viable place for everyone, but doing so without spending exorbitant sums of money or resources except where those expenditures are fundamentally required to solve the problem.

In case you cannot guess from the above, I'm honest and forthright, sometimes more than is good for me :). If you ask me a question about anything relating to me, I will most likely answer unless there is a pressing need that I not tell you (ie, if it pertained to something I'd promised to keep confidential).

If you treat me with respect, I'll return it ten-fold. If you laugh with me life is always better :) If you can laugh at even the most tragic things, then there is hope. Actually, there is always hope (did I mention I was an optimist) but if you can laugh even in the face of tragedy, then there is a better chance, I believe, of seeing the things which will allow hope to flourish.

I am honest, adventurous, and caring
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently I'm spending far far too much time working. The time that's not spent working is split between my two cats, some computer games, sleeping, eating, reading, and watching TV.

Aside from that, I am currently in the process of doing far too much work on my house in order to get landscaping and other stuff done. That is sucking up massive amounts of my time as well, but the end result will definitely be worthwhile, or at least so I keep telling myself :)

Additionally, I've finally picked up the guitar again. I have always wanted to learn to play well enough to accompany myself on various filk songs, and had started in the past. My wrist went wonky so I had to stop for a while, but it's been much better now for long enough that I'm willing to give it another go.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at writing code (heh.. I wouldn't be working in that field if I didn't enjoy it or wasn't good at it :)). I'm also pretty good at listening and offering ideas you might not have already thought of. There are other things I am good at, as well, but those I think are the two that first came to mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Usually, my eyes.. They change from mood and light conditions anywhere from a light hazel to a dark brown. I have had other people tell me that they notice my sarcastic/dry wit or my linguistic skills. If you notice something different about me, please let me know :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - just about anything in the fantasy, sci-fi, mystery genres. I read voraciously. Currently I seem to have a propensity toward urban fantasy ala Jim Butcher or Carrie Vaughn or a number of other writers. For some reason those are more appealing to me than the standard sword and sorcery sort of fantasy. Among my favorite authors are Jim Butcher, C.E. Murphy, Mercedes Lackey, J.K. Rowling, J. A. Jance, Earle Stanley Gardner, Carrie Vaughn, Kim Harrison, Robert Jordon, Terry Brooks, Terry Goodkind, David Weber, Lois McMaster Bujold, Holly Lisle, Laurell Hamilton, and Jaquiline Carey.

Movies - again, sci-fi/fantasy, but also action and adventure. I am as much a moviephile as I am a bibliophile, and try to go to the movies 2-3 times a month. I also watch a bunch from the video store or netflix. I am a sucker for semi-cheesy martial arts flicks, superhero flicks and vampire flicks. I will go see one of those pretty much regardless of how bad it is, or might be. Scary huh?

Music - A lot of filk music, honestly. (If you don't know what that is and want to know, just ask!) Aside from that, my musical tastes run the gamut from Bach to NiN to Chieftans to The Pogues to Taiko drumming to Fresh Prince, with a lot of things in between, and you will find pretty much all of those in my musical library. Just about the only styles I don't really like are country/western and gangsta rap, and even in those, there are exceptions. I am also a huge fan of musical theatre.

Foods - I love tiramisu and creme brulee. I like steak and chicken, but not pork or shellfish. I'll try just about anything once, and usually will try something again if I haven't had it in a long while since tastes change. Pork and shellfish, because I grew up not eating them just taste wrong, though I like bacon and some sausages. Generally they will make my stomach upset too, so I am really unlikely to give them many more chances. Tofu and mushrooms are a texture thing. They just feel wrong in my mouth and so I won't even try them any longer either.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There are honestly very few things that I could never do without aside from the basics to sustain life, but there are certainly a few that I would much rather not do without under anything less than apocalyptic circumstances.

My friends, my cats, my computer (and net connection), my books, my self-esteem, music in general and filk music in particular..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Games and game programming. I am the co-author of one of the more popular web-based games out there, and have always loved gaming and writing games. It's my biggest creative outlet. polyamory AKA poly. Paganism and religion in general. Life, the universe and everything. Connections -- between people, ideas, concepts and words.

I recently commented to a friend that I seem to constantly have 4-5 trains of thought running in my head and they generally have little or nothing to do with each other, so occasionally I'll make a 'mental left' without signaling it in conversation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There's such a thing as 'typical'? ;)

These days, Fridays are usually spent curled up reading. On other nights, I am doing any number of things from working out at the gym to reading to watching some TV to playing a bit of some computer game or spending time with friends or going out to a meetup. I try to keep a fairly active social life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not willing to put anything even remotely private out in public though I'll generally gladly talk about anything with anyone who wishes to. Weird huh?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You think I sound interesting as a person, you just want to talk, or for just about any reason. I promise I'll respond (and usually relatively quickly) to any messages sent to me unless they are obviously trolls or spam (and yeah, I've gotten some of both here).