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62 M Wailuku, HI

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
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Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
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Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous

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My self-summary
E komo mai ("welcome") from Maui - land of "aloha" & "ohana."

Yes, dear ... this is a "long" one! Hope you take some time here to kick back w/a good glass of something and enjoy the read! LOL

I tend to be playful some in this profile biz hoping to offer more than a brief pitch. Tis' the writer in "moi" it seems. And yes, would love more left brain w/far fewer words.

Isn’t Life wonderful? Here I sit in a sweet little ohana (cottage) on "Mother Maui" facing Mt. Haleakala on one side and Iao Valley (Home of the Gods of ancient Hawaiians) out my driveway writing to "you"! How special is that? And why aren't you here? :o)

Am a trusting/trustworthy, intelligent/well-educated, soulful, truly single man. Also, down-to-earth, globally and spiritually aware with deep respect for the innate wisdom of women, children, indigenous people & Nature. Generally confident, positive, sweet, compassionate, flexible, romantic, sensual, fun, spiritual, grateful, and content (while honest enough to admit to occasional sour moments tho' never abusive!).

Alas, can't commit to "making you laugh." Hopefully, you’ll do so for yourself and bring it to our table! :o) In sum, clearly not "perfect" yet will always grow and look forward to it, hopefully guided by the wisdom and gentle, loving, playful spirit of my Beloved (You?).

Love Nature – her peace and beauty – and readily share breath, pet and "love up" most any critter, big or small. Have done so w/lions, a leopard, panther, llama, a wonderful 2 ton elephant seal and this July (2013), a black bull who after mutual displays of affection including going cheek to cheek, laid in front of me to soak up 45 minutes of Reiki. Later even tried to stand on his hind legs to "hug" me. Tis' true! Also used to nap on occasion w/one of my horses, talk to plants when watering the garden, hug trees, etc.

Hand-holding, hug-able, affectionate, open hearted. Gentle egalitarian Aquarius visionary (INFJ/P) willing to intuitively leap ... thus spontaneous, courageous and ready to "be seen" and "see" who's there.

Live a healthy, modest, conscious-as-possible life. Eat organic and just attended my first wild edibles cooking class tho' not anything close to a real cook. Walk & swim almost daily, gym, meditate and do yoga on occasion. Strong w/out dominating, gentle, listen/share feelings responsibly, non-argumentative, good communicator and enjoy intelligent conversations.

Open to both singles & single mums, since I love children, have served them most my life, and seemingly magical w/them. Open too, to relocating for a Beloved partner living amidst a wonderful piece of heaven.
What I’m doing with my life
In “transition" former public school teacher/counselor, developer of preventive health/wellness programs, published author, trained marriage/family counseling – tho’ alas, without the “marital” joy myself as yet. :o(

Returned to Maui 8/1/12 having lived here in 2002-4 upon founding a nonprofit titled "Make America Violence-Free and wanting to ground it here. Soon realized we weren't ready yet, so headed to NZ. Hearing then my dad had passed and mother was getting ready to, returned to mainland US visiting Maui annually amidst eight years of Pacific NW winters before returning in 2012. Love her and the Hawaiian culture as a good place to nurture one's soul and reach deeper into who we really are ... in some ways different than readily available elsewhere it seems.

Volunteer, tutor some, and serve as a community advocate.
I’m really good at
Writing, playing bridge, playing piano, inspiring and reaching the souls of children, being with animals (including those considered "wild and/or dangerous"), heartfelt/intelligent conversations, planning educational events, asking what might be "missing from which we might make things better," deeply exploring the answer. Also, letting my Beloved know I truly see and love her! Hmmm … somewhat facile, too, at making broccoli and cream cheese omelets and broiling salmon! :o)
The first things people usually notice about me
Sparkle in my eye (1st grade teacher called me "button-eyes"!), open, honest, caring, intelligent, good communicator.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
So many.

Books - "The Life Divine" by Sri Aurobindo, "The Mother's Agenda" by Mira Alfassa (sp?), "Waking Up in Time" by Peter Russell, "Be Here Now" by Ram Dass, "Where Wonders Prevail" by Joan Wester Anderson, "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle, "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Yogananda. "Rumi, Gazing at the Beloved" by Will Johnson, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruez - among many others (truly).

Movies - long time favorite is ET though many others as well... "Eat, Pray, Love", "Won't Back Down", "Atlas Shrugged II", "Cloud Atlas", "Life of Pi" - and on Christmas Day 2012 got the last seat to see the premier in Maui of "Les Miserables." Loved it - especially the last line sung at the end ... "When you truly love someone, you meet God!" Recently watched two great films on Netflix/YouTube titled "Zeitgeist: Moving Forward" and "Surviving Progress." Wish everyone in the world could/would see them. Another of late, "Elles" w/Juliette Binoche. Just saw "Heaven is for Real" five times. Such a seemingly authentic acting job of a true story by the 6 y.o. main character.

Music - traditional jazz, rock, classical, Hawaiian, romantic. Have played piano since the 2nd grade yet always sight reading. Want to learn to improvise now. Initially a music major in college singing chorus in everything. Miss that part of my life.

News - rely most upon Amy Goodman, NPR

Food - healthy, mostly organic, lots of veggies and garden burgers though do enjoy wild caught salmon, ono or occasional organic, range fed red meat. Not a spicy eater. Exploring raw foods.
The six things I could never do without
Water, healthy food, clean air, safe nurturing place to live
Caring, sincere people
Children, Nature and her wonderful creatures
Iao Valley ("Home of the Gods" to ancient Hawaiians) where I am daily embraced by Divinity
Love, understanding and arms of my Sweetie (where are you?)
A sense of purpose and deeper Essence of Life
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How we might experience ourselves as "one and able to partner" versus “separate and having to compete”. Noting a reported a 30% decrease in trust over the last decade and an exponential disconnect leading to geometric increases in self-harm among teens (despite high tech "social networking") - the Aquarius in me wants to do something about it. Do realize tho' shifts like that require "readiness," and we may not be there yet.

So I look inside to personal transformation – which, of course, cuts to the core of “moi”. Here a lot of who I thought I was, or about, seems in some sense a dream when I reflect upon ... “Who am I really?”.

Carolyn Myss speaks of “becoming a truly congruent human being” - the late musicologist/philosopher Jean Kline suggests the two most important questions in life are … "Who are we really? And why are we here?" – and Ekhart Tolle views "presence" as a more viable alternative to "personality self." All great foundations to explore w/one’s Beloved it seems.

Ruminations like these leave me dreaming of a life in greater balance, sufficiency and harmony amid the beauty, delight, and embrace of a Beloved, Nature and Grace. Picture a sweet home amidst a caring, intelligent, semi-rural, small community in which we could make a difference somehow. Sound good?

Have a sense this "meeting/partnering" process arises from an inner intuitive "knowing" that there's more to who we are and what life needs to be. Might this explain some how we want something closer to our soul than the norm, yet find it hard to reveal ourselves and manifest it perhaps?
On a typical Friday night I am
After a swim in Iao Valley river and sitting under my favorite waterfall enjoying the natural lomi-lomi massage she gives me, generally have yummy dinner before taking myself to view a quality film. Wish you were here to enjoy it all with me. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"Five P's" are important to me now - a truly-loving aware "Partner", mutually-nurturing "Place" (home), shared sense of "Purpose", "Playfulness", and responsible "Prosperity"/sufficiency making a contribution somehow.

Am NOT a “player", nor one to engage intimacy w/out heart. "Soul-felt-ness" trumps. Also, confess I'm really not good at "pursuing" a woman! More inspired by two good souls equally present, intentional and loving as possible. :)

One inspiring woman’s profile I read began … “Hi! Yes, my pictures are current. Actually I'm older than 59 stated here. I'm very young looking for my age, so don't want to be excluded from the guys I'd like to meet!” Another confessed to 63 while putting up "53" for the same reason. And another ... "I actually turned 65 but am remaining 60 online for obvious reasons. My photo is recent and presents me as I truly appear." Can we relate? I can.

I've posted recent photos w/dates amid others reflecting a love of nature, kids and critters. Actually carded recently to justify a senior rate and pegged at 59-60 at a health clinic! Loved it enough to do 35 USMC pushups that night! :o) As baseball great Satchel Paige put it, " How old would you be, if you didn't know how old you are?" Or Tom Selleck, "It's indeterminate!" :o)

This said, the number here is midrange between how I'm seen by others and feel and the birth year which conveys little beyond social stereotyping to me. No worries. Have been on the planet a mere 5 years longer. :o)

Have read that women on average are at least 20 years more advanced in their innate wisdom and maturity than their same-age male counterpart. Might this explain why so many feel as if they've had to "mother" their men? (OR today's patriarchal world-run-riot akin to boy's playing war in sandboxes?)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–100
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You genuinely desire a "partner" with whom to share and co-create the rest of your life versus merely playing housemates. This said, rather than hang back taking forever to get to know someone and be known, you’re able to lean in and say "YES!" In doing so, you readily reach beyond OKC/email to near term, real time warm voices, intelligent conversations and laughter via phone/Skype and meeting when things feel right.

Too, amidst any ("undated") younger photos, you provide at least one taken this year that’s truly dated. I do understand the "pull" to be seen in the beauty of our youth - especially on the part of women. Yet I'd like to see today's beauty in you, dear. Did so myself here for you. :o)

Too, you're not unduly confined by "age" or geography. RE the former, in all candor I don't measure by numbers (unless compelled) given the stereotyping & dispose-ability it engenders. Love Don Miguel Ruez's "Four Agreements" where he says - "When you come here you are domesticated no less than dogs and cats by your habits and belief systems ... including "aging", dis-easing, and dying!" :)

This said, my preference is how we appear, feel, live our life, evolve & are seen by others vs a birthdate w/out resonance. And what about the "New Age" reality that "what we think is what we become!"? LOL

You're in a good place. You’re happy, positive, and optimistic with a sense of adventure. You also don't look like prevailing notions of your "age" given you've taken care of yourself. You love to love and be silly. We each are going through a second or third childhood responsibly, and increasingly open to "growing" into wordlessly grateful and loving beings together.

Mahalo (thank you) for visiting and for the gift you are to life. :o)