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Safferboy

43 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–46
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Judaism, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Okay), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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When we meet you would likely first ask where am I from. So, lets get that out of the way now. I was born and grew up in South Africa, moved with my family to Toronto in my teens, graduate school in California, worked in London and studied and Rome, and then lived in New York for the past 9 years. That's why I talk funny. Good, now we can move on.

I am irreverent and committed to the idea that rules are best treated as suggestions; I break them when they seem silly.

I have a dry, mischievous and somewhat filthy sense of humor. I tend more to chuckling and nodding appreciatively.

I like to both give and receive affection.

I choose to be a gentleman. Mostly.

I am a recovered philosopher.

My heroes, in different spheres and no particular, order include Nelson Mandela, Sir Bernard Katz, Joe Strummer, my grandmother, Kenny Dalglish, Henri Cartier-Bressson, and Alice Waters.

I am smart and engaged and absent minded and goofy; I am tolerant and nonjudgmental but I have strong opinions and am not shy about sharing them; I am athletic and intense and mellow and often very clumsy..

I split my time between NYC and a small college town in North Carolina.

I NTP.

I think Myers-Briggs is (largely) bullshit.

I roll my own pasta.

I am trying to find another word with which to start my sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Neuroscientist lucky enough to be able to do what I love and love what I do. I work hard and I am good at what I do, but it doesn't define me. Well, it doesn't wholly define me. Fine, it does, but still. Anyway, I spend most of my social time with my nucleus of non-science friends; in general, they're better-dressed, finer-dining and harder-drinking.

Preferred forms of masochism presently include, but are most decidedly not limited to, triathlons and muddy adventure races.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Engaging fully.

Seeing the funny side.

I am curious, sometimes patient, a little obsessive but definitely not compulsive, very much appreciative of the finer things, and I have a rudimentary understanding of physics and chemistry. Put these together and you get a pretty spectacular cook. Mainly though, I'm cripplingly modest.

Spooning.

I can take a decent photograph.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Usually it's my radiant aura and the flight of cherubs throwing rose petals beneath my feet as I walk. Sometimes it's my posse. Or my ankle monitor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Midnight's Children; Atonement; The Structure of Scientific Revolutions; Waiting for the Barbarians; Janson's History; On Food and Cooking; Advice for a Young Investigator; The Visual Display of Quantitative Information. Coming Through Slaughter is my favorite book of all time.

Movies: I don't see that many, but the Coen brothers abide; I'm still transfixed by David Lean's cinematography; almost anything with Daniel Day-Lewis; Ken Burns. I know it's not quite the same, but William Kentridge's animations blow my mind. Steve McQueen's Hunger is the only film I finished and then immediately watched all over again.

TV: The Daily Show; BBC News; The Wire; Mad Men; Homeland; early 30 Rock.

Music: Ugghh! Okay, The Clash and Leonard Cohen; Massive Attack and Sibelius' Violin Concerto; Linton Kwesi Johnson and MGMT; Nina Simone and Shaggy (oh hell yeah!); Jay-Z and The Jam; Miles Davis and Tom Waits; Vampire Weekend and Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto #2; Lily Allen and…

Food: I love good and interesting food, whether in a Michelin-starred restaurant or from the back of a truck, with a small preference for the latter. I am on a serious ramen kick right now.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six? Six! You’re joking, right? Okay, here are some:

Spontaneous dinner parties with good friends, heated conversations, great meals, and the liberal flowing of fine wine (and that's one thing!); the Oxford Comma; challenges; Wikipedia and PubMed (though these are not equivalent); NPR; my morning coffee(s); LES burlesque; slow left-turn reef breaks on a longboard; the Central Park loop; the small of a woman’s back; my 9" santoku; Hendricks and cucumber; Pandora…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How well OkC's algorithms work. And therefore I, clearly a pinko, atheist Jew, wonder why you think I might be a good choice for you if the first thing you say you cannot do without is the Grace of Christ. Amen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Plotting universal domination, probably after a drink. Maybe even two. Otherwise, I'm probably knitting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I shot a man in Reno.
You should message me if
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Send me a message if something I've written attracts you, intrigues you, amuses you, annoys you, confuses you, or simply doesn't make any sense.

I have a very definite preference for real as opposed to virtual relationships. If it seems like we might gel, I will want some face-to-face time fairly soon.

Also, to preempt the large number of messages this little fib seems to have elicited - or isn't that the point? - no, I don't really knit. Please feel free to message me anyway if you thought that might have been your in. I promise I'll be nice.