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43 M Durham, NC

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Judaism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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When we meet you would likely first ask where am I from. So, lets get that out of the way now. I was born and grew up in South Africa, moved with my family to Toronto in my teens, grad. school in California, worked and studied in London and Rome, and lived in New York for the past 9 years before taking a job in North Carolina a few months ago. That's why I talk funny. Good, now we can move on.

I am irreverent and committed to the idea that rules are best treated as suggestions; I break them when they seem silly.

I have a dry and mischievous sense of humor, and I sometimes laugh until I cry. It sometimes gets me in a spot o' bother.

I choose to be a gentleman. Mostly.

My heroes, in different spheres and no particular, order include Nelson Mandela, Sir Bernard Katz, Joe Strummer, my grandmother, Kenny Dalglish, Henri Cartier-Bressson, and Alice Waters.

I split my time between NYC and a small college town in North Carolina.

I am smart and engaged and absent minded and goofy; I am tolerant and nonjudgmental but I have strong opinions and am not shy about sharing them; I am athletic and intense and mellow and often very clumsy.


I roll my own pasta.

I am trying to find another word with which to start my sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
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Neuroscientist lucky enough to be able to do what I love and love what I do. I work hard and I am good at what I do, but it doesn't define me. Well, it doesn't wholly define me. A bonus of this endeavor is that I have friends and colleagues in different countries throughout the world and get to see them reasonably often, and often in cool places. However, I spend most of my social time with my nucleus of NYC non-science friends; in general, they're better-dressed, finer-dining and harder-drinking.

Preferred forms of masochism presently include, but are not limited to, triathlons and muddy adventure races.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the funny side.

Engaging fully.

I am curious, sometimes patient, a little obsessive but not compulsive, definitely appreciative of the finer things, and I have a rudimentary understanding of physics and chemistry. Put these together and you get a pretty spectacular cook. Mainly though, I'm cripplingly modest.

I have been known to take a decent photograph.

Also, I know a little about synaptic biophysics and learning theory.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually it's the radiant aura and the flight of beaming cherubs throwing rose petals beneath my feet as I walk. Sometimes it's my security detail. Or my ankle monitor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Midnight's Children; Atonement; Waiting for the Barbarians; On Food and Cooking; The Brothers Karamazov; Advice for a Young Investigator; The Structure of Scientific Revolutions; The Visual Display of Quantitative Information. Coming Through Slaughter is my all-time favorite book.

Movies: I don't see all that many, but the Coen brothers abide; I'm still transfixed by David Lean's cinematography; pre-Madonna Guy Ritchie (or is that primadona Guy Ritchie?); almost anything with Daniel Day-Lewis; Ken Burns (yes, I'm serious). It know i's not quite the same, but William Kentridge's animations blow my mind.

TV: early 30 Rock; Daily Show; BBC News; The Wire; Mad Men; Homeland.

Music: Ugghh! Okay, The Clash and Leonard Cohen; Massive Attack and Sibelius' Violin Concerto; Linton Kwesi Johnson and MGMT; Jay-Z and The Jam; Miles Davis and Tom Waits; Vampire Weekend and Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto #2; Lily Allen and…

Food: I am a very adventurous eater and appreciate any good food, whether in a Michelin-starred restaurant or from the back of a truck, with a small preference for the latter. I am on a serious noodle kick right now and spend way too much time (or perhaps not nearly enough) at Momufuku, Ippudo, and others of their ilk.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six? Six! You’re joking, right? Okay, here are some:

Spontaneous dinner parties with good friends, heated conversations, great meals, and the liberal flowing of fine wine (and that's one thing!); the Oxford Comma; challenges in almost any guise; NPR; Whole Foods & Freshdirect; my morning coffee(s); LES burlesque; slow left-turn reef breaks on a longboard; the small of a woman’s back; my 9" santoku; Hendricks and cucumber; Pandora…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I am a pinko, atheist Jew who likes to swear and drink and have sex – and these sometimes even a lot! The two things in this world that make the most sense to me are Crick's Central Dogma (it’s okay if you want to look it up) and therefore, the theory of evolution by means of Natural Selection, and my career is focused on trying to understand the neural processes that mediate perception, and by extension, also consciousness, and also The Rapture.

And so, if you have listed The Grace of Christ as the first of the 6 things you cannot do without then I am tempted to suggest you should trust our good friends at OkC who tell you that I am likely only a 7% match.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Plotting universal domination, probably after a drink. Maybe even two. Otherwise, knitting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Before I became a prince I used to be a frog.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–46
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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Send me a message if something I've written attracts you, intruigues you, amuses you, annoys you, confuses you, or simply doesn't make any sense.

I have a very definite preference for real as opposed to virtual, relationships. If it seems like we might gel, I will want some face-to-face time fairly soon.

Also, to preempt the large number of messages this little fib seems to have elicited - or, isn't that the whole point? - no, I don't really knit. Please feel free to message me anyway if you thought that might have been your in. I promise I'll be nice.