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29 Santa Cruz, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 25
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Likes dogs and has cats
English, French, German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm fairly outspoken and stubborn and opinionated.

But I'm also very goofy and witty and romantic. And obviously humble.

I tend to like art a lot. I play a few instruments. I run. I write about this stuff.

I have a strong need to be adjacent to a body of water.

I value deep and meaningful connections with friends, so I run in fairly small crowds.

I tend to be pretty 'British' with my humor, and very 'German' with my grammar.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I did my MA (art history) and MFA (photography) in SF, and just spent my "year off" in Chicago with family and old friends.

About to move back to Northern California (where I belong), starting my PhD this fall at UCSC, learning to speak German better, telling myself I'm going to run a full marathon next year.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
grammar, making a good cocktail (especially bourbon cocktail), writing about art, falling asleep through 14 hour flights, staying on a horse, cooking German food, skipping the gym (whoops)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Lately it's been the hair thing. Or the new tattoo; everyone asks about the tattoo.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
books: A Field Guide to Getting Lost by Rebecca Solnit, Black and Blue by Carol Mavor, Reading Boyishly by Carol Mavor. I read a lot of art history. Oh man, and Sylvia Plath's Bell Jar.

music: Well, I write about New Music, so that's Karlheinz Stockhausen, Vinko Globokar, Steve Reich, John Cage, Laurie Anderson, Pamela Z kind of stuff. Then again, I used to play in a steel band (bass) that played anything from Soca to Tchaikovsky. I am known to put one song on repeat for hours--hey I know what I like. I am also a firm believer that your brain needs crap music from time to time. cue Ke$ha. Life shouldn't be so g-d serious all the time.

tv: Downton Abbey is my favorite. arrested development and parks and rec don't suck. Chicky chicky parm parm. Brooklyn 99 is my new jam.

food: Chicago style pizza, ceviche tacos from San Diego, weisswurst from Germany, Nutella Crepes from anywhere, but preferably made by dudes with French accents- like at the lake Merritt farmers market. but really anything eaten slightly (to more than slightly) intoxicated with good friends. especially at 6am.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
pens (paper implied)
singing (daily and loudly)
personal space (preferably outdoors)
close relationships
Google Hangout, or some other form of video chat
sports bras
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
lots of critical theory, conferences, CFP's, ways to trick myself into running without feeling guilty about not writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at some form of art event, at a concert in an abandoned building on the westside, stuff like that
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like John Denver.
You should message me if
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You want to just get to know some people, and learn some things, and teach some things, and appreciate whatever connection that might lead to.**

Please no...
-crossfit (really, no one takes you seriously)
-Ayn Rand (really, no one takes you seriously)
-cat allergies (it just won't work out)

I won't lie- I always ignore messages that could be copy and pasted to anyone.