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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-42
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 2:56pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Other but it’s not important
Working on Post grad
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Norwegian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a horror writer, a feminist, a polyamorist, a radical centrist, and an inter-denominational heretic. I'm also as GGG as I can be.

I was raised in Norway, born in New Jersey, spent my adolescence and young adulthood in Albuquerque and now live in Boulder. When people ask me where I'm "from," I usually settle on "Earth."
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm about to earn my MA and then I plan on earning that most lucrative of degrees, a MFA in Creative Writing.

I write surrealistic horror stories and literary/film reviews. If you are curious, I can direct you to places where you can read my work. My fiction has been published once, in the magazine Weird Tales.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Conversation, making people laugh, voicing the unspeakable, devil's advocacy, listening, writing (I'd like to think), reading, list-making.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think people notice my size (vertically speaking), my bald head, my friendly smile, and the horde of gremlins which accompany me everywhere I wander.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Please feel free to speed-read this list of favorites. It's hear to give a general impression of me and not to serve as some litmus test of who I am looking for.

Incarnate - Ramsey Campbell
Ada - Vladimir Nabokov
The Haunting of Hill House - Shirley Jackson
London Fields - Martin Amis
Midnight's Children - Salman Rushdie
Perdido Street Station - China Mieville
The 3 Stigmata of Palmer Eldritch - Philip Dick
Gormenghast - Mervyn Peake
Little, Big - John Crowley

Everything by Ruth Rendell.

Short Stories: Robert Aickman, Joyce Carol Oates, Jorge Borges, Alice Munro, Shirley Jackson, Clive Barker, Thomas Ligotti, Franz Kafka, HP Lovecraft, Robert Chambers, Clark Ashton Smith

Poets: William Blake, Emily Dickinson, Wallace Stevens, Victor Hugo, John Ashbery


Music: The Boards of Canada, Aphex Twin, Autechre, David Bowie, Nine Inch Nails, Laibach, Poe, Marilyn Manson, Claude Debussy, Erik Satie, Erasure, Depeche Mode, Goblin, Bach, Cypress Hill, Johnny Cash, KMFDM, Rasputina, Brian Eno, Smashing Pumpkins, Bruce Springsteen, Muse.

Directors: Dario Argento, David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Ingmar Bergman, Woody Allen, Takashi Miike, Federico Fellini, Michele Soavi, John Carpenter, Satoshi Kon, Luis Bunuel, John Waters

Movies: Opera, Session 9, Tomie, In the Mouth of Madness, The Hour of the Wolf, Naked Lunch, Lost Highway, Dellamorte Dellamore, Serial Mom, The Discrete Charm of the Bourgeoise, The Thing, The Haunting (the original), Ichi the Killer, Last Year at Marienbad, Annie Hall, Se7en, Fight Club, Dawn of the Dead (the original, though the remake was fun too), Perfect Blue, Requiem for a Dream, Quills, They Come From Within

TV: Hannibal, House of Cards, Game of Thrones, True Detective, Damages, The Wire, New Girl, and The Walking Dead.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, companionship & love & sex, conversation, cats, my imagination, hope.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Literature (mine as well as that of others). Philosophy, film, mysticism. The Buddha-nature. Nightmares and dreamscapes. Sexuality, relationships and gender issues. The future of our species (I'm kind of an optimist). Worst-case scenarios (I've got a pessimistic side as well).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading, watching my Netflix, sometimes a party or a show. Writing. I try to sit zazen every night, or at least every other night. I also love taking long walks down Colorado's magnificent seaside beaches.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I come across a bit intimidating to some (not an aim of mine), but I'm secretly pretty cuddly.

I have a partner who lives in Albuquerque with her boyfriend. We are honest about and supportive of one another's relationships and everything is out in the open. I know there are guys who lie about being in an open relationship. Fuck those guys.
You should message me if
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Write me if you enjoy talking, creating, going out to eat, staying in with someone warm (I've been called a Human Space Heater), exploring and expanding your horizons, or plotting to overthrow the current paradigm.

Write me if you are either familiar and comfortable with polyamory or if you feel you could enjoy a relationship of this sort. My relationships tend to be autonomous (I'm not looking for a third to complete a threesome), but they are filled with communication.