When I was single,

I would look around, see who was available, attractive to me, responsive to my advances...... and, she would be doing the same.

We all have a 'filtering system'. Then we declare ourselves part of a couple (or even married). Does that mean we no longer look? Does it mean we no longer consider other situations?

I was watching a French film with my French wife recently when I pointed out that every character in the film had an affair going on (Don't ask me which film, try any and see what you think :))

The point.... Whether we say so or not, we are poly-amorous. Some of us act on it... some of us repress it (and think we are so good for repressing it).

So, sometimes I repress it, and sometimes I act on it. Here, I want to act on it, safely, sanely and consensually.