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50 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:19pm
Black, White, Other
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Post grad
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Portuguese (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a fun loving woman, looking to add balance and harmony to my life. I love to travel, go dancing, catch live music, see and hear art, meet new people, walk all over the city, and be out and about in the world. I also enjoy quiet dinners--or brunch--either in or out, with good friends. I am a very social being and thrive on connecting with others. But I can also be introverted and need some time alone.

I am passionate about civil rights, children's rights, the environment and the arts. My goal is to find a partner who believes in and is passionate about the same. As serious as I am about these issues, I do love to have fun and want someone to be silly with. I'm also open to the possibility of things developing into a deeper, more serious connection.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying life with my good friends as often as I can. Experimenting with new interests like salsa dancing, wine tasting and nuclear fusion. Wondering if true love and romance are still possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Laughing at creating an OK Cupid profile, which I keep tampering with because it either sounds too serious or too ridiculous...

Alright, more serious answer: I'm very good at listening and making people feel comfortable. Understanding where you are coming from. Talking and playing with children. Laughing, and making others laugh (on purpose).

I'm also quite good at sleeping, eating food other people have prepared (yum!)--though I do know how to help in the kitchen--, walking in exactly the wrong direction (by accident, not to annoy you), and learning how to play the drums, and then stopping, and then starting again. I do have a very creative side as well, but it seems to have gone by the wayside in recent years...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am sometimes quiet or shy when you first meet me....And my smile, so I'm told.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Alright, I still hate this question, but people seem to attach a lot of significance to this answer, so I'll try to be serious.

I have a wide range of reading interests, from medical journals and articles (okay, that's not "interesting" per se, for the most part) to comics. I spend most of my recreational reading time with fiction, I think for pure escapism from the stresses of work. A brief list of some of my all-time favorite authors: James Joyce, Louise Erdrich, Toni Morrison, John Kennedy Toole, Ralph Ellison, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Mario Vargas Llosa, and so on and so forth. Trying to get more into the 18th and 19th century classics. Love mysteries, from classic noir to my current favorite, James Lee Burke. Lots to talk about in person here; I'm always open to new suggestions or points of view.

I like most genres of movies except romance/chick flicks, and gratuitously violent or disgusting horror.

My TV broke several months ago and I have been happily surviving without it. For some reason I never signed up for Netflix streaming, so I'm missing out on binge-watching every cable show on the planet right now, sigh. I occasionally catch up on The Daily Show and Colbert on YouTube, and it recently occurred to me that I should be able to find John Oliver somewhere on the InterWebs; he's got it hand over fist over the other two. Also, I have been known to watch cartoons...

I have eclectic tastes in music, and can listen to just about everything except misogynist/homophobic rap, or contemporary country. Not crazy about opera either, though this is negotiable. I listen to a lot of old school r&b, funk and soul, Latin jazz in all its permutations, and "world music," but not in the new age sense. In my teens I was heavily influenced by punk, reggae and Two-Tone ska, and of course they continue to have a hold on me. My favorite vocalists are Billie Holiday, Cesaria Evora, Celia Cruz, Youssou N'dour, Aaron Neville, Marc Anthony (yes I know he's an asshole, but his voice is angelic--so sue me!)...I'm sure there are a few-to-a-lot of others I have forgotten at the moment.

Food: yes. Fave regional cuisines are Indian, Thai, Latin/Caribbean, Persian, and "haute" French and Italian. I'm mostly pescatarian these days, but will make exceptions for holidays/special occasions, when travelling, or on those rare occasions when my body screams that it needs more animal protein.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
You know...I once read a teen magazine that asked some supermodels the same type of question. One model wrote "Tweezers". I never understood her reasoning until now. So my six would include:

6 pairs of tweezers

Okay, non-snarky answer:
In addition to the basic needs of all carbon-based life forms on our planet, I require the love of family, friends and pets (not necessarily mine), and my ability to reciprocate that love. Also, I'm pretty lost without my glasses.

Other than that, the things without which I would be most unhappy are, in no particular order: dessert of some sort, preferably involving chocolate; books--the real kind with pages; intellectual stimulation, both solitary and shared; dancing and live music; art both visual and performed; the small beautiful details of everyday life. Oh yeah, and sex--#7, the icing on the cake!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex....and the desperate socio-politico-economic and environmental state of the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Perfecting my diabolical plans for an extraordinarily wild and crazy Saturday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Come closer...I'll whisper it in your ear:
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're interested in intelligent conversation, fun activities and a passionate partner.

You are a good dancer with a sense of rhythm. And a good kisser.

You can impress me with your culinary skills!