Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm subtly interesting, and insidiously charming. People have told
me that something I said is still gnawing at them years later. I
prefer to be an observer rather than the main attraction. I'm
random and impulsive yet grounded. I'm witty and have a sarcastic
sense of humor but some days I'm pretty serious. I'm from the
Midwest and I miss it sometimes but there seems to be a lot of
Midwesterners out here which is comforting. Like most people, I
have a variety of interests and I get new ones all the time. Most
recently, I've taken an interest to learning more knots and playing
with power dynamics.
I have some views on relationships that could be described as non
traditional. I'm currently exploring whether my ideals align with
the practical aspects of open relationships. I believe how I
structure my relationships is a conscious choice and I've just
accepted that it's fluid, sliding along the spectrum of monogamy
and non-monogamy depending on a number of factors. Right now, I'm
choosing to focus on non-monogamy because it meets my needs in this
moment and is helping me explore many previously undiscovered parts
I do appreciate the newer, less negative connotation of the term
"bi-sexual" being attracted to "more than one sex". I try not to
get too bogged down by terminology or labels but who I am attracted
to is also very fluid. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised by any of
my attractions anymore. Hearts not parts, yo!
As anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows, they
require a lot of work and constant presence. Self-awareness and
being willing to "own your shit" is mandatory. Communication is
important too, specifically the nonviolent kind. I think that if
you're willing to put in the work, intimate relationships are the
most direct route to self-discovery.
Hmm what else? I believe in helping the people who need it- I don't
believe it's every person for themselves. I don't subscribe to
organized religion or other doctrines. I think a person's
philosophies, sexual orientation and religious views are always
changing and evolving. I don't support rigid attachment to
identities. I'm psyched about exploring my sexuality and pushing my
limits to see what turns me on and what doesn't (yet). I'm not sure
if I want kids of my own or if I want to foster/adopt but I know I
love them and want kids in my life someday. I don't value
materialistic things like big cookie cutter houses, fancy cars, or
bedazzled jeans. I'm very generous so I will not get along with
I think the people in our lives are a reflection of what we are and
I am surrounded by many incredible people whom I admire but I'm
always open to meeting more. I want to get to know people that work
to live a simple and interesting life and who value experiences
over things. I'm looking for people with some depth and are always
seeking to grow and evolve spiritually, emotionally and
intellectually- I want to be challenged. I like people who are
passionate and care for others as well as the environment.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Self-actualizing ad nauseam. I'm a mental health counselor by
trade, recently started my own private practice and loving being
self-employed. Building a community of amazing people to surround
myself with. Maintaining healthy relationships as my foundation
while I push my limits to become a fully integrated and peaceful
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Intuiting, reading people and remembering what they say, calming
people down and making them feel comfortable.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How short I am, that I have unique colored eyes, that they suddenly
feel like telling me things they've never told anyone else before
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My Netflix queue says "gritty crime thrillers" is my favorite
genre. I love psychological thrillers, indie films, foreign, social
and cultural documentaries, inspiring stories etc. I like to read
nonfiction books especially those about spirituality, metaphysical
things and psychology. I really like to try new restaurants and
listen to live music (especially blues, jazz, reggae, bluegrass).
There's a lot of places I want to try in Tucson and am always down
to meet more people to go with.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Silly question but I'll play: my mental, physical, emotional, and
spiritual health, quality relationships. A lot of other things
would be hard to lose but I know I would be okay.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The state of our world, environment, human rights, what business I
could start, remodeling my house, my health, what signs the
universe is providing me, if I'm on the right path or not, sex,
what I would do if I just quit working, building a cabin in the
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully doing nothing!! Or drinking a glass of wine, taking a
bath and relaxing from a busy week, visiting with a small group of
friends, checking out some live music, or packing up the car for a
camping trip. If I do go to a bar, you'll probably see me in a
corner either making out or getting my mind blown by an amazing
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
~you have a complete profile and took the time to tell about who
~You're cool with my poly inclinations
~You are curious about polyamory
and want to talk more about
~You are in a healthy and open relationship and want another person
or couple to get to know
~You're a tolerant, thoughtful, open, patient and happy
~You have taken the time to get to know yourself, know what you
want, and support yourself
~You can teach me something
~you're cute and petite
~you sport a sexy stubble beard- just kidding... kinda...
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