I'm a pretty easy-going guy, generally pretty calm, though I'll cry at the movies, get mad when someone is treated unfairly, get nervous watching the Patriots during a close game, and get quite gushy over a friendly dog with a wagging tail.
I'd really like to find someone whom I'd call my best friend. I'd consider myself lucky if the "guy" understands that his expectations for a relationship are really more about expectations of himself than his partner meeting him--and that if you want someone to change, knowing that the really the only way that happens is to let the other person be himself. When we actually get in touch with who we are, then we are likely to see us ourselves, and see where we'd like to grow. At least that's true for me and how I understand myself and the world.
Sometimes, I'm good at saying what I need. Sometimes I am too tired to know. I always like it when I am asked. In this area, I tend to believe that mutuality is very important.
I'm more of a fixer than a fighter, but don't assume I'm not tough.
I would like to find someone who likes to throw around a football, hit a tennis ball, or go with me to my first hockey game. I miss the sports section of a newspaper and getting the paper in the morning. My favorite weather is shorts and sweatshirt weather.
I'm new to the area, and still learning how to fit in to the Rhode Island/Providence culture and make it home. It's not my natural way, but I'd like to figure out how to make it work and still be myself.
I'm definitely more of a big picture person. But little things can matter--an act of kindness, a moment of respectful listening, a small favor made possible.
I think we generally are who we are. The amount of trauma we've experienced in our lives has an impact. If we are lucky, most of our "change" is growth, and a deeper understanding of who we are in the world.
I've been to Alaska 8 times and love feeling insignificant there in the face of mountain ranges, glaciers, wide skies, and howling seas. I love the thrill of a rollercoaster, of hitting a great tennis shot, of seeing a child smile.
I have a wide variety of friends. If only they weren't scattered all over the continent. But people matter to me.