I already do a lot of reading, relationship geeking, driving

I would like to do more outdoor exercise, tantra, dancing (at dance church and qool), singing (filking?), drumming, traveling, vertical wind tunnel flying, sewing fun clothing, and theatre tech.

I value voluntary simplicity in order to free up time and money for visiting with people and eventual early (partial) retirement. I value change to increase the good things in life and decrease the bad. "Insanity is defined by doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results."

I work in software qa, mostly in the area of networking, but I prefer not to be doing IT support in my free time. Finding a company with a healthy software lifecycle is the bane of my existence.

In the past year, I have been taking an active part in investing my savings rather than just dumping it into a savings account. My healthy salary, low expenses, and few responsibilities allow me to take a fair amount of risk in the market. I am very proud that the investing choices I have made and the regularity of my contributions have allowed my portfolio to recover much quicker than the general market. My goals in investing are to be able to make a large down payment on a house, should I choose to buy one (not a given), and to not be a burden on others as I age.

You are more likely to find me un-dressed than dressed-up. While I do try to dress in ways which are flattering to my feminine body, I don't do makeup, hairspray, hose, or heels. I prefer bright colors and interesting textures, and things like toe socks which make people smile.

After living in a variety of other places, including Tel Aviv, Boulder CO, and Atlanta GA, I moved to the SF Bay Area about three years ago.

A year ago, I said "I am on a personal growth journey that is about designing a life where I am happy with what I have in the now rather than depending upon things to 'get better when...'.". Recently my growth rate has slowed quite a bit, mostly because there are fewer things that *need* working on leaving more room to just enjoy life.

I have been lucky with the poly community in a variety of ways, and am now seeking to spread my wings to meet people I have more in common with than just being poly.

I am in a long term relationship with akien, and we are working to find the right balance which allows us to share life without one another without giving up our ability to make decisions and act upon them as independent people.

I am seeking a connection with an extrovert who can bring more people into my life, and who is willing to get to know the people in mine. I want to find someone who is not just interested in regularly scheduled date nights, but someone who wants to be involved in my life. I hope to make a connection with someone who would see my boyfriend akien as family.

personal examination, paying attention to my body, simplicity, sex, moving van tetris, problem solving, socializing in small groups, learning, laughing at myself,

my body, my mind, and my communication skills

I actually noticed her hair - I reeeeeeeeeeeeeelly wanted to make it go "boing". [WBD]

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I read a lot of sci fi, fantasy, erotica, and historical fiction and have been picking up more non-fiction on the topics of gender, anthropology, energy work, and spirituality. I watch almost zero TV, and I have been very disapointed by the recent trend for movies to become more violent and special effects driven. As a result, most of the movies I've seen recently have been kids movies.

While I enjoy music, I do not have a great deal of vocabulary with which to describe what I like (a situation I would be happy to change). I enjoy dance, euro-dance, trance musics with rthyms i can dance to and/or lyrics I can sing along with. I do not enjoy country, hip-hop, or rap in most cases.

I have a number of food allergies (dairy, wheat, corn, almonds) and there are a few more (peanuts, soy) that I can eat only in limited quantities. that make feeding me somewhat challenging, but I have found that Japanese (mmmm, sushi), Chinese, Thai and Vietnamese foods to be good choices.

touch, intellectual stimulation, sex, healthy food, communication, sunshine

How to be happy. Assumptions

Friday nights are one of the things in my life I am trying to change for the better. Propose something =)

you want to share:
* active sex life
* creating and maintaining a home
* socializing both as a couple and as individuals
* dual income no kids financial resources
* voluntary simplicity
* genderbending stereotypes
* seeking spirit through dance, drumming, singing, tantra, etc * intertwined personal growth paths
* travel to visit people and places
* geekly conversation
* clothing optional household
* separate bedrooms and bank accounts
* early (semi-)retirement
* outdoor exercise followed by relaxing in the hot tub
* healthy work/life balance
* new experiences
* quiet relaxation
* common social circle
* friendship with each others' past, present, and future partners
* love expressed through touch, quality time, acts of service, and words of affirmation

Also be in touch if you want to introduce me to people who might want to share these things with me.

Disclaimers:

Be forewarned that I may ask for references about you from friends, current, and past lovers.

My current search criteria are bisexual, aged 28-45, single, within 50 miles, matching 85% or better, liking but not wanting kids, and preferably poly. If you do not fit within these parameters, I might not answer your messages. If I have added you to my favorites, there must be something I liked about your profile, feel free to contact me.