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31 F Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:44am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I'm a down-to-earth, introspective gal. I like to smell roses, pet cats, smile at babies, revel in the sounds of trees and water, and watch people milling about in cities. I am silly and pragmatic, thoughtful yet daring, quiet but witty, sensitive but tough.

Although I'm stubbornly independent, I cherish good companions whether they be platonic or romantic. My friends and family are dear to me, but I'm searching for a partner to round out my life.
What I’m doing with my life
Appreciating it. Learning, growing, and engaging with the world in my own small ways. Regularly falling short of my ideals, then picking myself up and marching onward.

I love bike touring (and bicycling in general), sharing drinks and meals with friends, playing silly tabletop games, going to comedy shows, taking long walks, hiking, reading, doing crossword puzzles, playing Scrabble, and writing creative nonfiction. I do volunteer work once a month, and I was a youth mentor for two years.

By day, I'm a mild-mannered software tester.

By night, I occasionally sing karaoke.
I’m really good at
* Playing word games
* Listening and empathizing
* Writing
* Articulating my thoughts
* Offering a calming presence
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a quick smile and a sharp mind. I've also been described as having a "wholesome" vibe, which is accurate in some ways, but I'm not afraid to make dirty jokes either.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: essays, humor, travelogue, memoir (Bill Bryson, Cheryl Strayed, Sarah Vowell)

Movies and TV: quirky, funny, genuinely emotional, thought-provoking ("That Thing You Do!", "Rushmore", "MST3K", "The Office", "Freaks and Geeks", "Gilmore Girls", "Parks and Recreation")

Music: indie rock, alt country, whatever's good (Neko Case, Modest Mouse, Bell X1, Joni Mitchell, The Kills, The Flaming Lips, Ben Folds)

Food: home-cooked meals, pizza, Thai, Cuban, brunch

Other entertainment: standup comedy, storytelling (Louis CK, John Mulaney, Patton Oswalt, The Nerdist, The Moth)
The six things I could never do without
Friends: They are hilarious, smart, ambitious, and caring. I'm grateful for each of them.

Quiet places: I like a park bench, a patch of grass, or a coffee shop where I can sit and focus on a book, or get some writing done, or zone out with people-watching.

Occasional sunshine: This is self-explanatory to Portlanders, right? :-)

Desserts: I defy the wishes of my sweet tooth when necessary, but it usually wants pastries or ice cream.

Curiosity: I don't like feeling stagnant. Life can be dull and discouraging at times, but I strive not to let it get the best of me as long as I have new sights to see and new subjects to learn about.

Bikes: I never feel quite as happy and free as when I'm riding my bike, especially if I'm using it to explore far-off places.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"I kinda want to buy a house."
"Why is my car making this creaking noise?"
"Why did I adopt such fluffy cats?"
"My god, I love ice cream."
"Where do I want to ride my bike this weekend?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing chores, or ...
Watching a movie, or ...
Having drinks with friends, or ...
Catching a show, or ...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I eat Cocoa Puffs on a fairly regular basis.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 31–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
* You are grown up, and mature when it counts, but enjoy being goofy and maintaining some childlike sensibilities.
* You are kind, honest, sharply intelligent, positive, unpretentious, and curious.
* You are active and adventurous.
* You have an irreverent, but not cruel, sense of humor.
* You appreciate deep connections with people.
* You realize that life is short and the world intensely beautiful.
* You want to explore our shared interests