I make friends slowly and rarely, but keep them for life. I love to have people over for a dinner party and stay up late talking and drinking wine. I grew up in a very religious family and moved away from that as an adult, but my immediate and extended family is very important to me.

Qualities that turn me on. People I want to be close to usually have two or three of these:
Intelligence
Tenderness
Beauty, elegance
Gravitas
Vitality, charm, verve
Warmth

I am trying to learn to like my subject of study again after grad school made me hate it.

Short, pithy sentences that reveal just enough.

Are my blue eyes and my smile.

Books: 1Q84, Cloud Atlas, Anna Karenina, The Good Earth, Lolita, The Sound and the Fury and Faulkner in general, Bleak House, David Copperfield, The Sun Also Rises, All the King's Men, My Antonia, Swann's Way, The Brothers Karamozov, Catch-22, 1984.

Movies: I like indie-movies, but I rarely watch anything twice.

TV: My guilty pleasure is "Revenge" so many beautiful people and yet so trashy.

Music: Trying to like it again.

My dog, my audible books.

Relationships with family and friends, how to create close communities and live an ethical life in a post-religious society. How in trying to be unique we end up being all the same

Opening a bottle of wine, cooking dinner and having some friends over. After a long week, I might curl up for a movie with my chocolate lab, he's a boy named Sue. I like meeting new people and having a wide circle of friends, but it takes me a long time to know and be known.

I make up songs to sing to my dog--an embarrassing number of them.
I am a die-hard user of the oxford comma.

You are not afraid of silence, you like indie films, cooking and you must like my crazy dog. You are passionate and engaged about something in your life--doesn't matter what. You read a lot of literary-ish books and you secretly wish you could have been a communist in the '20's.