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32 Saint Louis, MO Woman


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My Details

Last Online
Jan 22
Native American, White
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from med school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I am on the quest for expanding my mind and forming intense bonds with others. It's not simple, but it's really that simple.

I have an undergraduate degree in philosophy and for about 2 years after I graduated I did not want to discuss philosophy with anyone, but that has changed now that all of my executive function neurons have snapped into place. Now I see myself as more of a scientist/skeptic. If only I could remember all of the things I pump into my brain. I can't stop learning, it's almost pathological. You could describe me as a liberal ignostic strong atheist existentialist naturalist determinist ubuntu secular humanist desire utilitarianist. I love science, especially cosmology, cognitive science, genetics, evolutionary psychology, etc.

I love to cuddle and hold hands with women, men, my friends, whoever. I think that people don't get enough verbal praise or physical contact, so I like to initiate that with the people I care about.

I am an atheist. I see no compelling evidence for supernatural events. Don't let that scare you, I'm not an "angry atheist", though if the mere position of atheism offends you, you'll certainly be offended. When people think of religious fundamentalists or extremists, they think of people flying planes into buildings (yeah, I went there) or people letting their children die because they were praying for their god to heal their child rather than going to a doctor. When people think of atheist "fundamentalists" or "extremists," they think of people who write books.

I'm somewhat into BDSM culture and polyamory. If you must label me, I am a Domme/Switch, I can be sub with the right person. I like to play. I enjoy pain on some levels - I find it pleasurable in the right circumstances, and have engaged in bite-fests, Wartenberg wheel rolls and other interesting stuff. I'll tie you up, hold you down, sit on you, and use my knowledge of neurology and sensory integration to explore. I also enjoy tenderness and gentle exploration of bodies and minds.

Honestly, I'm kind of a freak - I look nice and sweet and vanilla but am far from it. I never expected to be me. Yet here I am, going about my business being me day in and day out, incredulous. Of course, I'd much rather be incredulous than credulous.

I am a homunculus.

I'm married to Flimsyman!

Don't stop reading! Keep going.

Love is not like a bathtub, where one person must get out before another can get in - it's more like an ocean, or to be pragmatic, more like a swimming pool. Think of it this way: say you have a child, whom you love with all of your heart and mind. Say you have a second child. Assuming that you love them equally, do they each get 50% of your love? No, because love doesn't work like that. It is not a commodity that can be spent. It's not this thing you can give away until it runs out. So, we're more or less polyamorous. We are people. We are individuals. We do not own each other's mind or body. We're big fans of compersion. That means, to be blunt, that we're not monogamous.

I'm really not a tomboy in the traditional sports-playing, big-t-shirt wearing sense, however I am a tomboy in the wrestling with boys, fixing my own car, having superior visual-spacial skills, alpha-sense. I'm told some men are intimidated by me, which I find hilarious. To those scardey-men, I shall pwn you with my wit, intellect, and car-fixing skillz!

I am obnoxious, stupefyingly honest, and skeptical
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I do a lot of things. I think this is a sickness. Let's start with what is typically boring: I do work.

1. I have a doctoral degree (OTD) in occupational therapy. I use said degree to do research and to be a clinician, thus stripping the masses from ad hominem accusing me of having ivory-tower syndrome. I am probably going to spend the rest of my life doing biomechanics research. I have at my disposal a biomechanics lab with Motion Analysis cameras and all sorts of fascinating kinetic and kinematic data grabbing devices. Right now I am splitting my time between home health and inpatient rehabilitation.

2. I travel around the country for various reasons including giving speeches, being a patient model, doing some television work and giving seminars and workshops promoting the public understanding of science.

I have a Home:

I live with the ever-present flimsyman in the skeptipalace in St. Louis City. I got to live alone for awhile, and was quite frankly enjoying the singularity. No, not quantum singularity though I enjoy that as well, I mean personal singularity. Of course, now Flimsy and I are two blasphemous iconoclasts. We enjoy things like having a cuddlepit, a dedicated library and our real freedom from having to ask if anyone minds if we stick the mattress in the kitchen just because we feel like it. Also, neither of us drink a whole lot of alcohol, yet we've managed to scrap together a full bar. How'd that happen?

I have Hobbies:

1. I do some photography. You can see my gallery here: . There are also more pictures of ME there.

2. I like animals. Specifically, I have two german shepherds. The german shepherds are being trained for schutzhund. I also have two cats.

3. I have a sort-of poplar Youtube channel where I discuss amputee related things (because I am an amputee) and you can find it here

4. I have a website here: i co-blog with JT Eberhard. I'd suggest going there now. N.O.W..

I have languages and I also have obvious disabilities. These are related. you'll see:

1. I'm HH and I am fluent in English (written and spoken) and know American Sign Language, enough to have an okay decent meaningful conversation with people fluent in ASL if they stop every once in awhile to explain some ASL sign I haven't seen before or go a little slow. I don't think I'll ever consider myself fluent in ASL because really, can you become fluent in a language you started learning in adulthood? I don't really think so.

2. I'm a left below knee amputee and this does not stop me from doing ANYTHING. I do aerial silks, run 5k's, and probably have better balance than you on my right foot, (but you probably have better balance than me on my left foot).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Biting people where it counts, being a badass, fixing wheelchairs, wheelies (I have copious wheelchair skills), growing tomatoes and herbs, cuddling, precision or overly verbose writing, loose associations, reading out loud, making people think, photographing people, asking questions, letting people inside, being utterly and completely honest, and shirking unnecessary boundaries (Actually, they're all unnecessary).
The first things people usually notice about me
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Physically: My ass. My eyes. My prosthesis. You'll notice that I am wearing clothes - unless I am wearing none. You'll probably note that I possess the typical anatomical structures that females posses except I only have one foot. I also have hair. People say I smell good, so sniff me if you want. People also often tell me I look familiar, so maybe you'll notice that I look familiar.

Personality: I'm totally honest and not afraid to talk about things that make other people squirm. At the same time, I can switch into diplomacy mode when the need arises. Sometimes I forget to use an inside voice. I have to use correct anatomical terms when referring to my body. It's not my tummy hurting, it's the right upper quadrant.

Fashion(?): Umm... I wear mismatched socks. I also don't wear make-up. Fashion is not for me. I don't understand it but I kind of wish I did.

I'm modified. I have lots of tattoos and several entertaining piercings. There are more on the way. My body, like my mind, is a work in progress that will not stop until the last electrical pulses cease to fire in my brain.

Random pointy bit: It's almost impossible to gross me out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I dig books on atheism, cosmology, particle physics, cognitive science, evolutionary psychology, hard science, sex, neurology, anthropology, psychology, skepticism and polyamory. If I listed all of the books I like, it would be a rather long list. My library currently consists of 5 full-height bookshelves full of books.

I need to read more fiction. Only 2/3 of one of those bookshelves is fiction, and half of that is Flimsy's.

Movies: I like movies that have something to say or are clever. A few: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (not for the lame characters but for the direction), Fight Club, The Boondock Saints, Donnie Darko, The Dangerous Lives of Altar Boys, the Lego Movie, Gone Girl and various documentaries on disability, unusual medical conditions, quirky ways of living, etc.

Music: Angels & Airwaves, Linkin Park, Antiflag, Green Day, Stabbing Westward, Our Lady Peace, Jimmy Eat World, Evanescence, Pink Floyd, Flyleaf, Goo Goo Dolls, R.E.O. Speedwagon, Styx, Guns & Roses, Nine Inch Nails, Death Cab For Cutie, Massive Attack, Toad the Wet Sprocket, Something Corporate, Delerium, Killswitch Engage, etc. Yeah, I am a consumer of music.

Food: I love all food except shredded coconut, Dr. Pepper, sauerkraut, cottage cheese, bell peppers, and black licorice. I am especially fond of Japanese (sushi, sashimi), Ethiopian, Indian, meat&potatoes, Mexican, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Italian, Greek, Afghan, Soul Food, Americ---Okay, I am serious, I really like nearly everything. North, South, East, West, Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner. If it's food, I'll eat it. I might even eat it if it's not food. I often eat the core of an apple when I eat an apple. Apparently that's weird. I've eaten a fetus (Balut) - yes, I am in fact a baby-eating atheist. At the same time, I don't eat that much. Tiny girl has tiny stomach.

Magazines: I like to read medical journals, Skeptic and Skeptical Inquirer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Plasticity, other brainmeat, ambiguity, my laptop, my phone, and a maglight.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Being wrong. I am one of those people who enjoy discussion with people who have a viewpoint out-of-line with mine. I enjoy when someone is able to show me that my thinking is incorrect. Being wrong - and having someone show you - gives you the capacity to shake their hand, thank them, and then change your mind. I consider it a sign of respect when people are willing to disagree with me. I wish more people would embrace wrongness for its capacity to enable rightness.

Here's a list of stuff I'm into in no particular order, but which you might use to keyword me and I am okay with that: Ubuntu (the philosophy, not the Linux distribution), polyamory, wheelchairs, DNA, atheism, sex, occupational therapy, statistics, Christian apologetics, naturalism, etc. I have a pretty good soundtrack in my head at all times. Ask me what song I am listening to in my electrified paté and I'll always have one for you.

I inadvertently cause people to change. I have ideas, and I spread them around. I've always been of the mindset that people should be who they are. I have had people tell me, "Hey, you really blew my mind right there". I really don't mean to make people's brain explode, but they seem fairly thankful for it. Maybe they like the additional air circulation? So I have been thinking about the nature of interactions with people and how when you meet someone for the first time they have all of these experiences and thoughts that make them who they are right at that moment. You meet them and it's like a snapshot along the timeline of their life, and that moment when you meet them, what they were doing, feeling and experiencing affects how you see them for as long as you know them. I like that about people and I wonder: what am I doing coming along and altering the course of their timeline? I hope it's always for the better.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time with my smartypants friends. Spending time with my husband. spending time with my dogs. Wandering around in the woods alone. Entering abandoned buildings. Writing. Interpreting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have vitiligo - in a very unusual spot.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are capable of emailing someone without resorting to grammatical shorthand (No, I do not want 2 cum ovr 2 c ur digz.)

You are a doctor, scientist, researcher, committed to the public understanding of science, committed to the philosophy of science, and/or know what the phrase "science-based medicine" means. Bonus points if you can talk about these topics ad nauseam.


You like women who might know more about science, philosophy, cars, plumbing, and anatomy than you do.


You're not albedoic - meaning you are not a mere reflection of culture and society.


You live in or near St. Louis.


You see no evidence for supernatural events.


You're completely unlike me in every way imaginable except that we both want to spend countless hours sorting it all out.


You're Deaf or HH and know ASL and want to hang out with someone else who also knows ASL.


You're an amputee and want to hang out with someone else who is also an amputee. I'll even consider hanging out with someone who is *into* amputees *in that way* if you treat me respectfully.

Everyone has a story worth telling. What's yours?