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29 San Diego, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:22pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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* I'm passionate about effecting social change and leaving this world a better place for my having been here. I also care deeply about people.
* My family is an extremely important part of my life and the majority of them live in San Diego so we see each other a lot. I'm talking aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents...
* I'm ridiculously crafty
* I love board and card games
* I'm a big fan of spirited debate and love to learn by being challenged
* I love camping and being in nature
* I'm a big theatre nerd and see at least 30 shows a year
* I bake a lot of super tasty things
* I have a desire to travel anywhere and everywhere (and studied abroad in Chile in college).
* I love music (both creating it and experiencing it live)
* I appreciate and strive for open and honest communication and the openness to vulnerability that that requires. Emotional intelligence makes me so hot.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living in a kick-ass one bedroom in Normal Heights. Exploring my new-found love of sales. Building a strongly worded letter writing business. Hustling for freelance communications/grant writing clients. Playing with flowers. Snuggling cats. Baking cupcakes for hire. Blogging about rape culture. Cultivating my relationships with my amazing community of friends and family. Figuring out how to live my happiest life.

Oh and my cats have an instagram: @freddiemercury_and_riot
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Creative expression. Baking. Writing/editing. Compassion. Friendship. Jigsaw puzzles. Listening without judgment. Singing. Critical thinking. Communicating. Empathy. Problem solving. Strongly worded letters.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The half sleeve. Loud style.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything and everything by Tom Robbins. Also, 1984, The God Delusion, Ishmael, The Beauty Myth, Yes Means Yes, cultural studies/socially conscious non-fiction books.

Movies: Some on the top of the list: Eternal Sunshine, Lars and the Real Girl, Truman Show, Garden State, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Grease!, Spinal Tap, Breakfast Club, Fight Club, Dirty Dancing, and Clueless

Music: I listen to pretty much anything that doesn't feel oppressive sonically (not super into screaming/noise) and that doesn't have lyrics that are harmful (i.e. degrading to women, homophobic). Some favorites include: Ani DiFranco, Bon Iver, Damien Rice, Dead Prez, Ella Fitzgerald, Elliott Smith, Hozier, The Hush Sound, India.Arie, Iron & Wine, Jason Mraz, Jeff Buckley, Jenny Lewis, Jose Gonzalez, Kings of Convenience, Lauryn Hill, Metric, The New Pornographers, Radiohead, Rilo Kiley, Simon & Garfunkel, St. Vincent, Tegan & Sara...I'm pretty open to anything, so please share.

Food: I'm a vegetarian but I don't hate on people who eat meat. In fact, I make raw meat food for my cats so I'm not even very grossed out by it. That said, it would be awesome if you're at least vegetarian friendly because I cook some pretty rockin' food. And if you are a vegetarian, you just got instantly sexier. Favorite food of all time: bean and cheese burritos.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The love and support of my friends and family
2. Creative expression
3. Physical affection
4. Bean and cheese burritos
5. Animals (most notably my super amazing cats Freddie Mercury and Riot)
6. Intellectual Stimulation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Smashing the white supremacist capitalist patriarchy (obviously)

And cats. All the cats.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Partyin', partyin' (Yeah)
Partyin', partyin' (Yeah)
Fun, fun, fun, fun
Lookin' forward to the weekend

...I'm most likely not partyin', partyin' (yeah) but I simply couldn't resist posting this Rebecca Black gem.
You should message me if
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You want to create a monogamous partnership based on passion, mutuality, and healthy communication. I don't expect you to have it all figured out, but I want you to know who you are and I want for you to be seeking a relationship not because you need to be completed but because you want to share the journey you're on with another kick-ass person who's great on her own but would be even better with you around.

The rest of these are not required, but would certainly be nice:

You are open minded and socially conscious with radical ideas about what's wrong and what we should do about it. You understand that our actions have impacts and as such we should strive to live with intention.

Physical touch is important to you.

You would never dream of using the terms "gay" or "retarded" (or others of that ilk) to describe things you find displeasing because you understand that language is powerful. Similarly, you understand why racist jokes and those about rape/domestic violence are not ok.

You are hilarious.

You identify as a feminist (or pro-feminist or have a thoughtful reason why you don't identify as such that involves something other than a knee jerk reaction to a stereotype of what being a feminist means).

You are incredibly smart and could teach me all kinds of wonderfully interesting things that I know nothing about. Similarly, you can engage me in fascinating discussions about complex issues and ideas.

You are creative.

If you have that glorious blend of well developed radical politics mixed with levity and silliness.