now_therefore
29 Seattle, WA
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My self-summary
I'm a lazy perfectionist, except when momentum is on my side. I am unapologetically nerdy and geeky, and I believe in a critical difference between the two. I deeply enjoy learning, but I have the hardest time deciding what to learn at any given moment. I have the highest respect for emotional maturity and professionalism, and I strongly believe in taking time to spin in my chair at work. I appreciate the importance of a proper handshake, and I can give you the best hug you've ever received. I open doors for both men and women, not because I believe you're incapable but because damn it, it's the polite thing to do. I have a favorite programming language, and it's probably not the one you're thinking of. If it is, well, we should definitely talk. Despite being thoroughly left brained, I have a deep interest in art and design. I have a healthy obsession with middle ground, compromise, and all things interdisciplinary.

A friend once told me this profile is rife with "second date" details, while being light on highlights that would make one interested in a first date. She's pretty wise, but lord if I know how to rectify the situation.
What I’m doing with my life
Wearing lots of hats*. These days, writing code while also trying to manage an unruly gang of developers. Trading sleep for books. Moving on from a ten year show management hobby, and figuring out what I want to do with the eventual free time. Thinking about game mechanics.

* I do not actually wear hats, pretty much ever.
I’m really good at
I am a professional generalist. I take it beyond just being decent at a bunch of things - I'm very good at seeing the big picture, identifying gaps, and filling in those gaps. I'm a planner and a problem solver at heart, and I can optimize logistics like nobody's business.

I am a listener. I've learned the difference between when someone is looking for answers and when someone is just looking for an ear. If I ask how you're doing, I really want to know - but I can also tell when not to push.

I am a hugger. I take hugs very seriously. If I hug someone, I am going to fully commit to that hug. None of this one-armed, awkward half-embrace business. Hugs are a direct physical translation of love and care. You should be able to ignore everything else for a moment, take a couple breaths, in the span of a decent hug. Else why bother? Hugs are not something to get out of the way - they are an end unto themselves. If a good hug weirds you out, we might have trouble.

Yikes. You might notice that I care a lot about hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depends on when you catch me. I've heard that I smile and laugh a lot and also that I can look pretty dour. I'm skinny and I've got big hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I love sci fi and fantasy, but I'll usually give anything a try. Favorites include Patricia Wrede, Brandon Sanderson, Patrick Rothfuss, Neal Stephenson, Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman. Very open to suggestions, especially interesting nonfiction.

Movies: I enjoy a lot of movies, especially heist movies and anything with a half decent, non-hokey plot. Open, unresolved endings don't bother me. Not a big fan of horror. "Up in the Air" is one of my long running favorites. Other winners include: Ocean's Eleven, Stand and Deliver, The Professional, The Princess Bride, My Neighbor Totoro, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy.

TV: Battlestar Galactica, Newsroom, West Wing, Elementary, Pushing Daisies, Leverage, Suits. I don't spend much time watching TV, but will occasionally get bored and sprint shows on Netflix or something.

Music: There is something in basically every genre of music that appeals to me. I have a particular fondness for music with clever/thoughtful lyrics, musicals, and video game/movie soundtracks. I will never turn down a good mashup.

Food: I'm closer to a carnivore than not. Slowly attempting to swing this in favor of longer lasting arteries. Lots of love for most varieties of Asian food, esp Chinese, Thai, Indian, Filipino. Oh lord I could eat lumpia for days. I have a fierce love for breakfast foods, particularly french toast.
The six things I could never do without
Trust. Trust and respect are really big for me. Everyone in my life can generally be categorized as a loose acquaintance or a very close friend. I trust you with ~everything, or I don't trust you. There's not a lot of middle ground, for better or worse.
Music, both making and appreciating.
Really good hugs.
Learning. "If you're not learning, you're dead.", my elementary school music teacher told me 15 years after she'd technically stopped being my teacher.
Interesting problems to solve. This used to say "code", but it's not so much that as just having things to throw my brain at.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
These days I tend to spend a lot of time thinking about work. That might sound pretty depressing, but it's seriously not. 95% of the time. I'm lucky enough that I usually find my work very interesting, and I'm in a position where I'm always learning something new.

Otherwise I think about trying to be more self aware, being more 'present' (as a habitual planner, I have a tendency to always be thinking about what's next, instead of just enjoying the present. It's a work in progress), and how I really need to keep in better touch with the people I love.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with friends, whether that's playing board games, pretending we can afford to go to fancy restaurants, or whatever else comes to mind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This question is throwing me a little. If I know and trust you, everything is fair game. If I don't, as in this case, anything that could be considered private mostly stays that way.

This bit used to say that I wasn't as put together as I'd like. It's not true anymore. I'm rad.

(Let me explain that - I've had a few fights with depression. I used to medicate for it, though I haven't needed to for a year or so. Doesn't mean I'll never again need to - I'd rather pop a pill than let a chemical imbalance tell me I can't live my life.)

I have also been known to sing along to Taylor Swift in the car. Look. If you're going to like something, *like* it. No shame. Life is far too short and complex to waste hiding what you like.
You should message me if
something on this page got you going, or you want to share what you're passionate about. I do best with folks who let themselves get really excited about things. Want to really nerd out about something? Hit the button, let's have a party.
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