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  • Ages 26-32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 3:09pm
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), Tagalog (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a lazy perfectionist, except when momentum is on my side. I am unapologetically nerdy and geeky, and I believe in a critical difference between the two. I deeply enjoy learning, but I have the hardest time deciding what to learn at any given moment. I have the highest respect for emotional maturity and professionalism, and I strongly believe in taking time to spin in my chair at work. I appreciate the importance of a proper handshake, and I can give you the best hug you've ever received. I open doors for both men and women, not because I believe you're incapable but because damn it, it's the polite thing to do. I have a favorite programming language, and it's probably not the one you're thinking of. If it is, well, we should definitely talk. Despite being thoroughly left brained, I have a deep interest in art and design. I have a healthy obsession with middle ground, compromise, and all things interdisciplinary.

This used to be much longer, until I remembered that there's a button up top labeled "Message". I think you should click it and see what happens.
What I’m doing with my life
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In 2011, I accepted what was then my dream job. In early 2015, I quit. Moving targets, dreams. Or maybe that's unfair. Better to say that I achieved that dream and began the hunt for a new, as yet undefined dream. Anyway, I have since taken a position with a brand spanking new team, helping to revitalize slash drag into the 21st century a venerable, highly respected brand. It's an incredible challenge and I'm- honestly, I work for Sears. Which often comes out as "I work for Sears?" because I'm as lost about the whole thing as you. It *is* a fun challenge, and the coworkers are old friends I'd gladly beat my head against a wall alongside.

My long term plan involves teaching. Initially, I wanted to corrupt young minds with the mysteries of computer science, but I'm feeling more and more strongly every day about the need for positive early math experiences. I run into too many people who hate math for one reason or another, but it almost always boils down to having had teachers who didn't care enough to teach them in whatever ways they best learned. I want to turn that around.

Every time I do a pass on this profile, it weirds me out that I somehow don't mention games more. I am definitely a gamer, and it is a big part of my life. I play everything - video games, tabletop games, card games, ping pong, whatever. I believe very strongly in the positive influence of games, from community building to reflex sharpening to problem solving. If you turn your nose up at games or otherwise think they're a waste of time, you should probably look somewhere else. Unless you are also interested in having your views challenged.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am a professional generalist. I take it beyond just being decent at a bunch of things - I'm very good at seeing the big picture, identifying gaps, and filling in those gaps. I'm a planner and a problem solver at heart, and I can optimize logistics like nobody's business.

I am a listener. I've learned the difference between when someone is looking for answers and when someone is just looking for an ear, and while it's sometimes hard to tell in any given situation, I do my best. If I ask how you're doing, I really want to know. "Good" or "Fine" won't cut it. At the same time, I can usually tell when not to push. It's a balance that I usually get right 90% of the time. We sell tickets for the other 10%.

I am a hugger. I take hugs very seriously. If I hug someone, I am going to fully commit to that hug. None of this one-armed, awkward half-embrace business. Hugs are a direct physical translation of love and care. You should be able to let the world stop for a moment, take a couple breaths, in the span of a decent hug. Else why bother? Hugs are not something to get out of the way - they are an end unto themselves. If a good hug weirds you out, we might have trouble.

Yikes. You might notice that I care a lot about hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm reserved to the point of seeming standoffish around new folks, but that's just me observing and getting a feel for general context so as to best know how to embarrass myself. I've got a pretty good smile, though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I love sci fi and fantasy, but I'll usually give anything a try. I still love the Patricia Wrede books I read in middle school, especially Mairelon the Magician. I spent a silly amount of time in high school reading and rereading Star Wars and Dragonlance novels, ran out of time to read in college, and am slowly trying to get back into the habit now. Favorites include George R. R. Martin, Neal Stephenson, Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, Patrick Rothfuss, Brandon Sanderson...very open to suggestions. I recently burned through a series by Glen Cook titled The Black Company, and I just started on Altered Carbon by Richard Morgan.

Movies: I enjoy a lot of movies, especially heist movies and anything with a half decent, non-hokey plot. Open, unresolved endings don't bother me. Not a big fan of horror. "Up in the Air" is one of my long running favorites. Other winners include: Ocean's Eleven, Fargo, The Godfather, Snatch, Lucky Number Slevin, Eastern Promises, A Serious Man, Stand and Deliver, Shrek, The Professional, Matchstick Men, The Princess Bride, My Neighbor Totoro, The Social Network, Up, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy.

TV: Newsroom, West Wing, House of Cards, Leverage, Suits, House, Dexter, 30 Rock, Battlestar Galactica, Firefly, Pushing Daisies, Six Feet Under, Community. I don't really spend much time watching TV, but will occasionally get bored and sprint shows on Netflix or something.

Music: There is something in basically every genre of music that appeals to me. I have a particular fondness for music with clever/thoughtful lyrics, musicals, and video game/movie soundtracks. I will never turn down a good mashup.

Food: I'm closer to a carnivore than not. Slowly attempting to swing this in favor of longer lasting arteries. Lots of love for most varieties of Asian food, esp Chinese, Thai, Indian, Filipino. Oh lord I could eat lumpia for days. I have a fierce love for breakfast foods, particularly french toast. Slowly discovering all the most delicious breakfast places in Seattle. Current favorites include Toulouse Petit and the Original Pancake House.

My favorite dish ever is probably mapo tofu. I made myself learn how to cook it and it is damned delicious. So far, I'm living the stereotypical bachelor proficient-at-a-couple-dishes pattern, but I'm slowly becoming a better cook.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Trust. Trust and respect are really big for me. Everyone in my life can generally be categorized as a loose acquaintance or a very close friend. I trust you with ~everything, or I don't trust you. There's not a lot of middle ground, for better or worse.
Music, both making and appreciating.
Really good hugs.
Learning. "If you're not learning, you're dead.", my elementary school music teacher told me 15 years after she'd technically stopped being my teacher.
Interesting problems to solve. This used to say "code", but it's not so much that as just having things to throw my brain at.

Everything else is negotiable. Perhaps more later.

* * * later * * *

Oh god, Pocky. How did I forget Pocky? Let me tell you about my Pocky collection. No, it's not as gross as it sounds. I eat the Pocky and keep the boxes. Did you know they make wedding cake Pocky? And Pocky that is ostensibly For Men, but is really just dark chocolate Pocky.

Oh, Pocky.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
These days I tend to spend a lot of time thinking about work. That might sound pretty depressing, but it's seriously not. 95% of the time. I'm lucky enough that I usually find my work very interesting, and I'm in a position where I'm always learning something new.

Otherwise I think about trying to be more self aware, being more 'present' (as a habitual planner, I have a tendency to always be thinking about what's next, instead of just enjoying the present. It's a work in progress), and how I really need to keep in better touch with the loved ones in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time with friends, whether that's playing board games, pretending we can afford to go to fancy restaurants, or whatever else comes to mind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This question is throwing me a little. If I know and trust you, everything is fair game. If I don't, as in this case, anything that could be considered private mostly stays that way.

This bit used to say that I wasn't as put together as I'd like. It's not true anymore. I'm rad. Get it while you can.

Hmm. My sense of orientation is terrible. Awful. I make up for this with adequate advance planning and absolutely zero compunction against asking for directions.

I have also been known to sing along to Taylor Swift in the car. Look. If you're going to like something, *like* it. No shame. Life is far too short and complex to waste hiding what you like.
You should message me if
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You have something to say. If something on this page got you going, or you're otherwise interested in sharing what you're passionate about. I do best with folks who let themselves get really excited about things. Want to really nerd out about something you care about? Hit the button, let's have a party.