Here is some about me:
My name is Kathleen and I am a college student. I am a very unique person. I have many tattoos and piercings and I am willing to try anything once. I am here looking to make friends and find a long-term relationship. I don't want casual sex. So don't ask.
Sometimes my favorite thing to do is to just curl up on the couch and watch the worst B-rated cult movie Netflix has to offer. I like to go out and have fun on a Saturday night just as much as I like to geek out, stay home with a group of friends in someone's basement, and play a table-top RPG or a game of tournament style Pokemon cards. I also like to buy cheese with weird names from the grocery store and a bottle of sparkling wine; then pretend to be classy while cuddling and watching horror movies.
I consider myself to have a pretty wicked and inappropriate sense of humor. Send me a joke, or your worst pick-up line. I like sarcasm and dirty jokes just as much as the next guy, however I am shy at first in person. I'll admit to some awkward social anxiety. I don't open up right away unless I feel a real connection with you. And even then, I am not a trusting person. You have to earn my trust by acting right around me and being a caring and decent individual. I don't think chivalry is dead. I want to find a nice honest person to love. I have standards. And I will hold you to them. But once you get to know me, I'm pretty much an open book and I'm completely laid back.
I'm an unusual fish. I'm a traditional southern woman, in my belief of gender roles and dating, but I'm still an "f" word - a feminist. I believe, MY man should ask me out and be head of household. So that means you have to send me the first message, ask me on the date, ask for my number, make the plans.... etc. I believe in gender equality, and the right for women to do all of these things, though. Just me, personally, I just fantasize about being in that classic romance. Being the girl that was chased after. Being the one you had to go get, no matter what. I think I believe in a little bit more old-fashioned and wholesome relationships than most people my age do, at this time in history. I don't do one night stands. I don't hook-up. Don't try to change my mind. You will just make me angry and lose my respect.
However, there are a few exceptions to these rules, as some of you have pointed out and noted. Sometimes I will send the first message. That is the only exception, really. This is rare! I do not usually take the initiative. This is my "21st Century Loophole," if you will. If I message you first, the rest is up to you. Take it as a very high compliment, because you came up as one of my super advanced searches or something. This means, I am interested. This is the loudest and clearest I will say it. Because I will not be this forward in a message. Take note.
Also, my messages to you may come off as weird or awkward. I think a lot of times I don't get responses from messages, because, frankly, I don't send normal messages. For example, if in your "Message Me If:" section you have a qualification I meet, or in your "I think about a lot:" part you have an undying question that I know the answer to, I might just send you a message stating that, or explaining the answer.
I don't do boring "Hi, how are you?" introductory messages. I believe these profiles serve a purpose and I will try to connect to your interests. Many times, I have discovered people find this approach socially awkward though. Making people feel uncomfortable is one of my greatest talents however. Just a head's up. ;)
On that note:
I will not answer messages that just say something like, "Hey, wassup?" I actually expect you to have read my profile and have something to talk to me about, if you bother to message me. A paragraph or longer would be preferred. I would not message you something short like that if I was actually interested in you, and I expect the same.
Also, as a precautionary warning, offensive messages will not be replied to either. Depending on the variance of how offensive they are, do not be surprised if they end up screen capped on a blog shaming you such as: "OkCupid Fails" or "Straight White Boys Texting." I will not be objectified, and if I am, prepare to be equally so. Fair warning.
Things important to me and that I expect:
>>>I may not be much of one, but I am a lady and I still expect to be treated like one.
- Intellectual Conversation
>>>Intelligence is a pretty big deal. One of the most important traits.
- No hunting/dead animals in your photos
>>> I know I live in Alabama and all, but I mean, I have an endangered species tattoo sleeve. & I cried and had nightmares for a week when trying to swerve out of the way and I accidentally killed an opossum. If you don't LOVE animals....it just won't work.
>>>Walk in my shoes, and I'll walk in your's.
>I love debating and having discussions about politics, religions, sports.... anything you can argue about. But if at the end of the day if you can't respect me and my opinion, I don't know how I'm supposed to respect you, period.