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37 M San Jose, CA

My Details

Last Online
Dec 18, 2011
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Not at all
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of two-year college
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
32 year old, now in San Jose CA -- I'm a guy, and I like guys... but I tend not to advertise it.

I think I'm really boring, unless you hit on a topic that I like to think about (virtual worlds, the Metaverse as posited by Stephenson, the True Names idea presented by Vinge... data storage and retrieval, and how to make it work for mere mortals... Second Life and what it does right and wrong...)

My pursuits tend to be of the mental kinds -- well, at least mostly. I need something to take my mind away from it all... which is where the sex comes in.

I am erudite, clueless, and anxious
What I’m doing with my life
I'm not doing anything with it, other than getting more organized. (You'd think that music is only about making it... but you'd be wrong. There's the 'play instrument', 'play instrument repeatedly', and 'mix' aspects of the entire equation, as well as 'sequence those instruments you can only do virtually' -- and that's not even mentioning the simple audio engineering aspects of creating a good studio, and making sure there's no untoward background noise... plus the entire 'mastering' process -- which means, "create a master's work from the input".)

Getting Things Done is a good book, by David Allen. So's Modern Recording Techniques.

When I'm not doing music, I'm contemplating cryptography and how it's consistently misapplied. Well, that, and computer operating systems (*glares at Windows*) and what they do wrong. Did I mention I think a lot?
I’m really good at
Ferreting information from teh intartubes. Creating mental models of observable phenomena (including computer software). Being quiet and almost unnoticeable in groups -- unless, of course, I feel the urge to speak up about something that I am passionate about.

I recently got involved in a discussion about ethical dilemmas in City of Heroes. That was an entertaining conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I would presume "what I'm wearing" and "what my current state of grooming is". Sometimes I look good, other times not-so-good -- but I am usually very polite in situations that don't require it (why not say 'thank you' to the guy at Fry's Electronics who directs you to the next available register?).

Of course, it's not the first things that people notice about me that get me into trouble...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Hmm... books? I tend to mostly read fantasy, when I read at all -- I am very much a fan of the works of Mercedes Lackey and Larry Dixon, and I used to be a fan of Laurell K Hamilton before her books became non-stop soft-core porn. (No matter that the soft-core porn is about sadomasochistic lycanthropic sex nowadays.)

Movies... I generally don't watch a bunch of them. I'm told I need to change this. That said, though, Fifth Element and Run Lola Run, and Princess Bride.

Music? Most people don't have any idea what filk is, so I usually don't mention it -- but since I'm being honest here, I figure I might as well... Filk is best defined as the folk music of Science-Fiction/Fantasy/Spectulative-Fiction fandom. Hearing it, you can tell it's done by amateurs (filk tapes and possibly CDs are available, and you can tell it's not generally done for the production value). That's part of what makes it attractive to me... like karaoke, you can sing and have fun with other people who don't necessarily sing well. These filkers generally get together at sci-fi/fantasy conventions, or at conventions specifically geared for filking.

Other than that, I either like or love pretty much everything, though honestly intelligent dance music tends to give me a headache. As does earlier Nine Inch Nails. My favorite commercial artist would have to be Alan Parsons Project, though VNV Nation is a very close second. (And you're going to laugh when I say this, but William Shatner's album "Has Been (Arranged by Ben Folds)" is an extremely improbably good purchase. I wholeheartedly recommend it. Out of 200-someodd reviews on, over 100 give it 5 stars, and all but 10 of the rest give it 4 stars. Most well-liked commercial music doesn't get that kind of review ratio.)

Favorite food: Steak. Rare. Preferably dry-aged at least 3 days, and seasoned before grilling. Put a salt-encrusted baked potato on the side, and you've got something I'll go for. But then again, chicken's also good, and sushi (when I've got antihistamines), and... wait, I'm supposed to only pick one?
The six things I could never do without
masturbation, knowledge, experience, friendship, the Internet, and ... well, I thought I couldn't do without it, but I seem to have misplaced it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
computers, cryptography, and things to do. Many of the things presented on are also interesting.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sitting at home. Going out's for Saturday. (At which time I've been at Vector, a goth-industrial club held weekly at Goodtimes.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll answer most any question about my sexuality, if it's asked respectfully. That's because sexuality isn't the most private thing of mine.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if're willing to deal with crazy pseudo-intellectual conversations that I can hold my own in, but may not be as informed as I might seem. (I tend to think that I know a lot -- and I do -- but if I seem to have a different idea of what you're talking about than you do, please make sure we are indeed talking about the same things.)